Child neglect? Advise please

tiamai_d

I don't agree with the child being shouted at or the Dad playing music, but I'm glad you're not my neighbour. My daughter is a nightmare to get to sleep and will scream. She will scream in her room alone, she will scream in her room with me, she will scream downstairs, she will scream not matter what I do, so I let her scream and eventually she will fall asleep.

She screams during the day if I use that nasty 'no' word. She screams during the night too. Sometimes she screams with a smile on her face.

She's 2, soon she will be 3 and it will be worse. Then she will be 4 and the door slamming will probably start. Hopefully by 5 she will calm down for a few years before the hormonal pre-teen years. Yay.

atlantis187

Report this ASAP mate,
Obviously they poor child is being neglected and needs help badly

marywooyeah

another vote for social services from me, have you thought about keeping a diary of these kinds of incidents at all?

jamespir

i know parents are often told to let the child cry (cause some children do it for attention) and constantly attending to the is playing into their hands but its not right that hes playing loud music to drown out the child so i suggest your do give your local council a call

dont rush to social services unlike someof the repsonsers have said because they can ruin so many lives and it may be something that is not as bad as it seems

BitterAndTwisted

A father who shouts "shut up!" to a two year old child when he's crying is not displaying competent parenting, or even caring parenting regardless of the cause of the crying. Terrible Twos tantrum or no tantrum. That's terribly cruel and I'd be onto my Local Authority's Children's Services people before you could say "Jack Robinson". I understand you can phone up the NSPCC if you have concerns as well.

Social Services do not exist to ruin people's lives. This father sounds like he's doing a fair job of that on his own and needs help and guidance. A bit of empathy on his part wouldn't go amiss either.

jamespir

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

A father who shouts "shut up!" to a two year old child when he's crying is not displaying competent parenting, or even caring parenting regardless of the cause of the crying. Terrible Twos tantrum or no tantrum. That's terribly cruel and I'd be onto my Local Authority's Children's Services people before you could say "Jack Robinson". I understand you can phone up the NSPCC if you have concerns as well.

Social Services do not exist to ruin people's lives. This father sounds like he's doing a fair job of that on his own and needs help and guidance. A bit of empathy on his part wouldn't go amiss either.

thing is your just presuming you DONT know what is actually going on here

jennyhugggies

In my opinion, if you dont know much about kids and your concerned i would ring the professionals and let them investigate this!

I have a 7 yo and she constantly throws massive tantrums and just doesnt know when to stop! For instance, today we were going for a nice walk with the dog and she wanted to take her bike but there were roadworks being carried out and i didnt feel confident letting her on her bike near a busy road with works going on. Myself and her younger sister walked and tried to ignore her but she kept whining and shouting in the street walking along for nearly 30 minutes. Also, she was very tempermental at bedtime when she was younger and we had to leave her in the bedroom to shout and scream but we had to always go into the room every few minutes to make sure everything was alright.

What im trying to say is, if a child is locked in a room and the parent is doing whatever they want well thats not competant parenting in my opinion. There could be something wrong with the child in the room and hes downstairs ignoring and playing loud music thinking hes doing the right thing by ignoring his tantrum.

I just think the dad might need some guidance. Being a single parent is tough and he might be finding it difficult. Only thing is, social services might put more stress on him and make things worse. Are you friendly with him or are you able to talk to him? Perhaps passing and say hello and start a chat and somehow throw in that you heard the little one?

Penny-Pincher!!

Call social services! If the child isn't being neglected, then the parent will have nothing to worry about.

Penny-Pincher!!

jamespir wrote: »

thing is your just presuming you DONT know what is actually going on here

Neither do you! If something doesn't feel right, then questions need to be asked/answered to make sure that the child is okay and safe. This is a 2 yr old child we're talking about, so surely its better to be safe than sorry?

moneysavermum_2

you must report these concerns straight away....how would you feel if this boy is being abused and you let it happen. Ring social services and report it....they have a duty to investigate. It may save this boys life.