How much money would you give?

katie1812

I think £30 is very reasonable. Last year we went to my sister in law's wedding, her and my fiance are very very close and also asked for honeymoon money. Yes we did have to travel an hour or so and pay for the hotel room but considering they are very close siblings, we gave £30 and they were more than happy! Just think, say there are 50 people going and everyone gave £10 that's £500! That's a massive amount of money so I think your £30 is more than enough

Fuzzy_Duck

Thanks for all your input. I don't actually know the couple- they're friends of my boyfriend and they rarely see each other either. I would definitely fork out more if it was close friends/relatives.

I love the idea of getting them something to go with their honeymoon like show tickets. Typically I have no clue where they're going or what they like... I'll ask my boyfriend but he might be equally clueless! The cakestand was a lucky guess really as the bride did love making cupcakes but I figured it was one of those items a lot of women like but may not buy for themselves.

I'll go with £30 in a nice card if I can't think of an appropriate gift. As they've invited people's partners they may well be having a lot of people- which as you say will add up to a respectable total!

Thanks again for your comments. I've only really attended weddings as a kid so I have no clue what is appropriate these days! The sad thing is this is an improvement from my last wedding thread where I fretted about wearing white shoes in case I offended someone...

Hollie84

I think £30 is fine,if you dont know them then id give the same,if its was a close friend id say £50 or family anything from £50 to £100.

Labsettings

Money is always tricky but the relationship you've said you have, I think £30 is quite generous! Just think, a few months after the wedding they'll have forgotten who gave what anyway.

A couple of weddings we've been to that we've given cash, we tried to make the cash more 'interesting', for instance, putting money inside a photo frame, or putting notes inside the fingertips of gloves (though if they then don't like them and give them away someone else gets a nice suprise!), or maybe curling the notes around the stem of a plant or something? Just makes it a little more creative.

myconosray

This might have already been suggested but if you know where they are going you could also give them the money in the currency of where they will be. Then, although they will probably still know, the amount that you give is slightly less obvious and it appears more purposeful and gift like?

Derivative

I still have to wonder how much money people have that expect this sort of stuff.

They want their family to pay for them to go on holiday? I mean, they've actually asked about it?

I would be happy to see a family member getting married, but their finances are their own!

:wall:

74jax

Derivative wrote: »

I still have to wonder how much money people have that expect this sort of stuff.

They want their family to pay for you to go on holiday? I mean, they've actually asked about it?

I would be happy to see a family member getting married, but their finances are their own!

:wall:

I'm being a bit blonde here, but I don't know what you mean? 'they' I think you mean is bride and groom, and 'you' means the op? But the op isn't going on holiday,:rotfl: story I did say I didn't understand.

Also why do you wonder how much money a bride and groom have in regards to their gift list?

Maybe I should lay off the wine....

Derivative

74jax wrote: »

I'm being a bit blonde here, but I don't know what you mean? 'they' I think you mean is bride and groom, and 'you' means the op? But the op isn't going on holiday,:rotfl: story I did say I didn't understand.

Also why do you wonder how much money a bride and groom have in regards to their gift list?

Maybe I should lay off the wine....

!!!!!!ed up the grammar in my post.
I mean the couple that are getting married - surely it's noone elses business to be paying for their honeymoon.

I don't understand the whole wedding list either. It's just bloody greedy. Noone should feel pressured into spending money just because you don't want to buy your own kit.

johannalf88

74jax wrote: »

I'm being a bit blonde here, but I don't know what you mean? 'they' I think you mean is bride and groom, and 'you' means the op? But the op isn't going on holiday,:rotfl: story I did say I didn't understand.

Also why do you wonder how much money a bride and groom have in regards to their gift list?

Maybe I should lay off the wine....

OK, glad I am not the only one that was confused... although I am also drinking wine now, and its mixing nicely with the cough syrup from earlier! :rotfl:

Derivative

Forgot to answer the bit about gift lists.

I guess my point is that if you are well off, you might not realise that to some people spending £30 on a present is actually a bloody lot. Could be a day's wages, or more if they are part time.

Just because you're spending £10k on a wedding, doesn't mean everyone else's life doesn't go on as normal.