a fathers responcibilty to his kids

killiebabe

Hey guys and gals... in responce to all ur posts and advice we are looking at ALL the options that you's have all suggested i.e move job .. Move home ... Get custody in some cases posted on here ..everything has been taking on board ... Its only been a week since i first posted the thread looking for opinions/advice...A busy week where wev both been working at our jobs.. BUT we will look into every option thrown at us along the way... I wish i could jus magically sort it all out in a week .. But this is the real world we live in and things take there own time to resolve...

But thanks for all your posts they have given us numerous ideas of what to look at .. To hopefully see what will be the best soloution for the child.

euronorris

Have you responded to the grandparents yet? (that was the only step I was realistically expecting you to have taken this week)

killiebabe

Yes we have euronorris... Yesterday

euronorris

Coolio. I hope you get a positive, or at least non-confrontational, response from them.

emweaver

Marisco wrote: »

I can't understand why folk are picking on so called inconsistencies! Does it matter who left who, when and why? The fact is, they are where they are now. Personally I think the little lad would be better off living with his dad, and having visits and holidays with his mam. From the sounds of things (and we can only go by what we read) neither the mother or grandparents are coping very well, it's probably doubtful if the mother will get back to "normal", and the grandparents are getting older! If I was in the op's position, I'd go for full custody.

The gf is no fitter than the mum she can barely walk either so how is she to care any better than the mother and grandparents.

duchy

killiebabe wrote: »

Also to clarify my partner relations with his ex were over along time before the stroke.. ex partner had moved on with other relations, when exs health deterioated.

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Does this mean he had lots of affairs but stayed living with his family-or had left the family home ?

coolcait

(Quoted by duchy from killiebabe's post)

"Also to clarify my partner relations with his ex were over along time before the stroke.. ex partner had moved on with other relations, when exs health deterioated."

duchy wrote: »

Does this mean he had lots of affairs but stayed living with his family-or had left the family home ?

Or does it mean:

My partner's relationship with his ex had ended a long time before she had a stroke. His ex-partner had moved on to another relationship/other relationships before her health deteriorated?

killiebabe

Yes sorry my bad way of writing ... It means my partners ex had moved on to other relationships before her health deterioated

killiebabe

Excuse my spelling not my greatest gift lol

Marisco

emweaver wrote: »

The gf is no fitter than the mum she can barely walk either so how is she to care any better than the mother and grandparents.

Where does it say that?? I can't see anywhere in the op's posts where she said she cannot walk!