Anyone got a Toyboy?

Gigervamp

Well, I had 3 kids when I met hubby. It didn't put him off and he's been a brilliant step dad.

Trazy

I was seeing somebody for about a year, he was 14 years younger than me.
I finished it in the end as I found him immature and jealous. I couldn't go anywhere without an inquisition

jetplane

My husband is 10 years younger than me we have been together over 20 years. I think it's other people that have the problem with it, lost count how many times people have said 'oh he must like mothering, or it will be hard work keeping him interested' or about me being the lucky one. I have to remind them that actually he is the lucky one

I think as long as you remember and respect that their is an age difference and it does make a difference then you should be ok.

mummyoftwomonkeys

PasturesNew wrote: »

Cons: Their mums hate you.

lol my husband is 4 years older than me and my M.I.L hates me

hazyjo

Around 5 years ago I went through a bit of a spate of toyboys - never again. I was late 30s - three were between 22-24, one was 27. The 27 year old lived with his parents and was a VERY young 27. I felt like the 'mum' when we went to a restaurant or something as he'd always get me to order our food.

I like a man to be a man and have some confidence about him. And an opinion, and someone who's capable of making a decision by themselves.

The other 23 year old was a gorgeous Turk on holiday so I don't count him really - although he was very keen! Great for the ego As above, he was stupidly jealous!

Another was one I'd known since he was 18. Fifteen years between us. We'd dated a couple of times. He'd gone back to Uni as a 'mature student' (haha yeah right) and that's really what killed it I think. Never felt like the age gap was a problem with him.

The other one cheated on me. Had been together just over a year. Not sure if that was cos of his age, or just cos he was a bit of an @rse! I felt a bit like I did with the other one, whereby I was the one doing the ordering and decision-making. I don't really like that in a relationship.

I don't really believe in age gaps. You either connect or you don't. So long as neither (even subconsciously) takes on the role of 'parent'!

It helps if you look a similar age. My friend's early 50s and dating a 30 year old. They've been together 6 years. They got away with it more a few years ago, but twice in the last couple of months, people have thought she's his mum. Can't be nice!

I apparently look 'ridiculously young' so not such a big deal for me - although I do much prefer older men. My ex husband was only around 6 years older, but at least 3 people thought he was my dad when we were out! Rather embarrassing...

Jx

Hezzawithkids

My OH is 2 years 4 months younger than me and we've been together for over 25 years. It's roughly the same age gap as my mum and dad and my maternal grandma and grandad. Never been an issue (except for jokes on birthdays!). As someone has already said, its how you connect mentally that counts. It also probably helps he's very mature and I'm very immature!

gonzo127

well i am the toy boy, wife is 14 years older than me and we met when i was 20 just turning 21 been together nearly 10 years now married just over 5 year and have a 3 year old.

was a bit weird to start of with especially as she had 2 kids from her previous marriage, one of which is closer to my age than i am to hers, the other is 14 years younger than me, so this means i am in the middle of my wife and step daughters age.

yes my parents where a little bit reserved to start of with but once they got to know her they chilled.

otherwise i think the main thing that are cons are as someone else has said, when she is reminising about something and some of the time it is about something that happened before i was born, or something equally as strange such as when she got married the first time it was the same year i started primary school

piglet74

thatlemming wrote: »

Mines 6 years older and I still have to do those things :rotfl:

:rotfl:mines 11 years older and so do i:D

Hanky_Panky

We have a toy boy in our family - she is approaching 70 and he is 46 ! All very weird as she has two daughters who are older than him and his Mum is about the same age as her. They kept her age quiet for years and even kept the fact that she had 5 daughters (in all) from his Mum.

Frankly he is a lot older than his years and would not have stood a chance of getting anyone even close to his own age although it really is starting to get weird now as she is now starting to look and feel her age whereas in the past she was probably the 'younger' one of the two.

firebird1

Is having a "Toygirl" the reciprocal?

My partner is way, way younger than me.

Her 25 years younger makes for a lot of fun times.

We have been together for many years now.