Anyone got a Toyboy?

PasturesNew

Cons: Their mums hate you.

jojo_2012_2

Current OH is 6 years younger. No difference really, it depends on the individual.

cornishmumof4

My DH is 12 years younger than me. We have been together 9 years, married for 4. I agree with PasturesNew the only real con is the MIL.

SailorSam

Anybody that wants one ........ I'm free.

lostinrates

My parents (almost ten years apart) had few problems with age difference (though plenty with other aspects of difference in their lives) until my moters retirment. Funnily enough, when percentage wise age was closer than ever, they were miles apart in what they wanted to do and how, and where and now, a couple of years after dad retired too, they are divorcing, the gulf having become too wide for both of them.

notisis

6 years difference. No cons really. Or pros either!

Re: lostinrates - I know couples of same age that have retired at different times - 60 for female but male had to wait until 65 and they've divorced soon after. Don't think they could deal with being together so much after they reached 65! Don't think it's an age thing but a relationship thing with different expectations, hobbies etc.

Mely

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

My mum has - she's 79 and my Dad's 73, they've been married 54 years. Think it was hard work in the beginning as women weren't expected to have a career as such in those days, and with my dad only being 19 when they married his salary wasn't great. Plus they had us 3 kids in 4 years. I think she was attracted to his bad boy image and he looked a bit Italian, which I guess was exotic in 1950s Reading!

What a great love story! x

Li0nhead

anyone want a toyboy?

cazziebo

10 years between us but he's very sensible and i'm - er - not! The other factor is I've been married and have two daughters, he's never married.

His family were always friendly but it was obvious his mother would have preferred him to have met someone more likely to give her grandchildren. They do treat my DDs like grandchildren (even tho' they're in their 20s they get cards on birthdays and Christmas and passing driving test etc)

Many of my friends are older so if we go out as a group then he will be the youngest by far. If I go out with his friends then I don't have much in common, although that could be because they tend to be techies like him and talk computer language. (or maybe that's an excuse and I'm just old!)

I had the same experience as Lostinrates. My parents had 12 years between them (father older). They split up when my dad was 72 (when he retired) and my mother was 60. I think the gap became much more obvious as they got older. I'm probably a bit more conscious of my looks and fitness than I would be if I was with someone older.

Despite all this, he makes me so happy, and I believe that what we have is special and worth working to keep.

Edited to add: And as this is MSE - the fact he'll hopefully still be earning when I reach retirement age will compensate for my meagre pension!

cloverfan

Thank you all so much for your replies, I have been told there is no way he could be interested as I am 9 years older and have kids. Just wondered about other peoples stories