I'm miserable :-( Neighbour came round & saw how chaotic my home is & I'm ashamed...

meenlaragh

Hi Mics_chick, you and your husband sound like lovely caring people who do much for others and who have a home, not a showhouse. I am sure that is what your friend saw when she was in.

Don't worry, we are all so much harder on ourselves than others are.

meanmarie

Gail...I frequently tell people that if they visit me to see how clean and tidy my house it that I would rather they stayed away....if they come to see me they are very welcome.

Your house, your rules.

Marie

c_denise

Hi Gail, don't worry much about it. Cleaning and tidying are lifetime work. I am not the tidiest person and so is my OH. I would tell ppl that it's an "organised mess" and put on a big smile. It's not easy juggling a home and family. What can i say but chin up, keep calm and soldier on.

Purple_kitten

You both sound like lovely people, home is just that your “home and sanctuary” Our place has a cluttered lovingly called lived in look and that’s when it’s what I would call tidy. And still if anyone pop’s round the first words out of my husband’s mouth are apologies for the mess, it does wind me up sometimes.

I watched my mum iron all of the time and she “hated” it and I don’t tend to only special occasions.

When we got together there was 2 of everything again, but it’s gradually whittled down, I look around now and it is still cluttered with “things” we collect stuff that is memories of where we have been and our animals.

Ameyturtle

I think if anyone should be judging here it's you, you said she was overly pushy about coming in for coffee, I hate that.

She has no right to judge if your house if abit messy, when shes invited herself in.

More to the point even cleaning creates mess, and so what if your house is messy, surely with your children you have more important things to worry about, than how clean your house is.

I'd rather be a happy pig in mud than a clean pig that is unhappy.

snookey

Misc chick come and join the messy thread. You will find that a home can be messy and you need not have any shame.

prosaver

Mics_chick wrote: »

It doesn't sound like a 'big' thing to get upset over but it is to me.

My neighbour and I are involved with a charitable group to help kids with special needs as we have at least 1 'special' kid each.
She came round to show me some crafty stuff she had bought today for an event we have planned next week for an Easter holiday activity.

She was politely pushy (iykwim?) so I couldn't put her off...
I took her into the kitchen and I pulled the door nearly closed to the lounge as it's the messiest room but she popped her head round the door to say hello to the kids who were watching tv. :eek:
I could see her eyes roaming around the kitchen looking at everything...

I'm ashamed and know I should be but it's still very difficult for me to deal with.

I'm on my own tonight coz my other half is staying with a disabled friend for a couple of days to redecorate for them before they have a special bed delivered next week.
This means I'm feeling it more coz I've got nobody to talk to, go 'there there' or put it into perspective...

Please be gentle... Gail

you should of joked and said
you should of seen the place before i tied up

Mics_chick

prosaver wrote: »

you should of joked and said
you should of seen the place before i tied up

She also came round to tell me that my adjoined neighbour had been burgled last night so I joked that if I'd been burgled I wouldn't be able to tell :rotfl:

Mics_chick

Thanks to everyone who posted I do feel better for your kind, sympathetic or practical words.
But also coz I've slept on it and as one of you said it's done so I can't change it now...
I'm off to look at the messy thread

Hardup_Hester

I used to have a sign in my kitchen that said 'Many people have eaten in this kitchen & gone on to lead perfectly healthy lives'
When I had 4 kids under 10 my house was always a mess.
When I was living with my hubby, his son, my DD, SIL & DGS & my son & his GF, in a 3 bed house, my house was always a mess.
Now there is just me & hubby, my house is aways a mess.
Always remember that a tidy house is a sign of a boring life.
Hugs Hester