Family fall out over wedding!

rachbc

As with most family fall otus in which you are not directly invovled I would stay out of it.

yes of course he shouldn't talk to your mum like that BUT there is little you are do to change him...supprt your mum, your brother, help him have a fabuous wedding and ignore the miserable old git!

jfh7gwa

Your family members need to grow up.

It's lovely being invited to a wedding, but no one has a right to demand they get invited, especially not by throwing a tantrum and stamping their feet!

It's up to the couple, who they want, what the venue can hold, what they can afford, and so on. It's immensely unfair of your uncle to behave in this way.

I mean, is your uncle 10 years old?!

As for the passing of messages (X is annoyed with Y, so tells Z, so Z has pressure to sort it out with X) - it sounds like a typical family interaction where people don't get on and they're not used to being open/honest with each other. Again, this sort of crap belongs in the playground.

In short - the uncle needs to get over himself and remember his manners, and the happy couple needs to focus on THEIR special day.

CH27

Stay out of it & let your mum deal with her brother.

adamantine

i would have just stayed out of it. its between your mum and your uncle. he should have gone to your brother if he really was bothered about it but he didnt and just wants attention imo. dont give him any.

londonsurrey

Can't-be-bothered uncle is unhappy. Boo hoo. What's he going to do? Refuse to talk to you all again? If so, can he put that promise in writing please?
Direct his emails to spam, and tell your mother that it's up to her what she does with him, but to please not bother relaying any messages from him, and thank her.

margaretclare

Isn't it amazing, (some) relatives throwing toys out of pram over nothing really. When my (late) daughter got married in 1993 there was a big family on the husband's side and because their venue was a 'Wedding Belle' preserved steam train with a meal in Pullman-style carriages, they had to be very selective who could be invited and some were - inevitably - disappointed but they didn't 'kick off massively' about it.

FWIW, I think that those guys and girls who are, or are about to be, in the front line deserve massive respect and it's very understandable that they want to get married. No different from what has happened in other wars. Think of those 6 boys from the Yorkshire Regiment being 'repatriated' tomorrow - or what's left of them - and uncle should be ashamed of himself.

PenguinOfDeath

Weddings - a group of people who barely see each other for years, and after a few drink remember why this is the case!

Ich_2

It is your brother and his bride's day, who is invited and why is up to them - NO ONE ELSE.
I know of too many weddings where the couple have ben stressed by relatives and friends making demands of them. The best you can do is point this out to everyone that they are in charge END OF STORY

victory

Send the uncles email to your brother whose wedding it is and let them sort it out between them, it is up to him who he invites to his wedding, if the Uncle is upset make sure the brother knows

stormbreaker

cord123 wrote: »

I just am not sure the best way for this to be dealt with!

Best ignored! He should be happy for them! Don't mention to the happy couple they will only feel the guilt at your Mum being spoken to in this way! Nothing will change as the chances of them coming , even if space could be afforded is very slim as he sounds the type to take the petted lip!

Support your Mum and brother! Least said best mended!