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Sad Mother's Day

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  • Boots888
    Boots888 Posts: 367 Forumite
    cloudy-day wrote: »
    First Mother's Day without my Mum.

    Beem tough but the hardest thing is friends and family thinking that 4 months after she died I'm 'over it'.

    I'm not.

    Hugs to all

    I so understand you. Where has all the help, love, compassion gone? & so soon?? phone calls etc?? People are really inept at following up, it sounds so crass but while your world has come to an abrupt and painful end, how can others carry on like nothing happened. I feel for you. i said to my neighbours, who were friends with my Mum and came to the memorial, only weeks later that I didn't know what to say!! - They said "just say hello". - THEY DID NOT GET IT!!

    Anyhow, I guess these threads prove that procreation is all that matters, as long as the world keeps on turning, losing your parents are just part of "Life's Rich Pattern":cool:
  • Boots888
    Boots888 Posts: 367 Forumite
    I mean just look at the thread "Trying for a baby - Part 7"!!??

    With 15 thousand posts???:o

    Life moves on!!

    & Yet its soooo painful when it ends.
  • madelaine
    madelaine Posts: 268 Forumite
    I also lost my Mum when i was 17, I am 51 now and Mothers day is still hard to deal with, been to churchyard to put flowers on her grave, and have shed a silent tear today, my Daughter made me breakfast in bed this morning, bought me some lovely gifts and a card, Also my 1st Mothers day as a nana My Son wife and Granson been too see me and brought me lovely gifts and cards, so i have been spoilt and made to feel special, i have a lovely family, just wish my Mum was here to see them.

    Thinking of the people who don't have there Mum today x x
  • Caroline_a
    Caroline_a Posts: 4,071 Forumite
    My mum fell ill with her last illness on Mother's Day. 7 days later she'd gone. It was over 20 years ago and I miss being able to talk to her, show her how well her lovely grandchildren have done, and to share the sad and the happy things with her. She was special to me..
  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    cloudy-day wrote: »
    First Mother's Day without my Mum.

    Beem tough but the hardest thing is friends and family thinking that 4 months after she died I'm 'over it'.

    I'm not.

    Hugs to all

    I don't think you ever completely get over losing a loved parent. My Dad died just before Fathers Day 7 years ago, and I still find myself sometimes with him at the forefront of my mind, and its always tinged with sadness that he's not here anymore.

    When it comes to grief, feel what you feel, because those are the right feelings for you.
  • kittykat100
    kittykat100 Posts: 534 Forumite
    Car Insurance Carver!
    I lost my mom when I was 19 and she was 39. I am now 42 and still have a little cry nearly every month and sometimes more. I ususally go into hiding today and hide from the forums but spotted this one and thought I would add to this .

    Kittyx


    Life is sometimes a bit pants but occasionally you can wear your french knickers! :D
  • cazxx1
    cazxx1 Posts: 433 Forumite
    me too.....I lost me mom 12 years ago its as roar today as the day she died hugs to you all xxxxx
  • Ames
    Ames Posts: 18,459 Forumite
    Thanks for this thread.

    It's my first mothers day without mum and early next month is the first anniversary of her death.

    I haven't got used to her being gone yet, I have dreams where she's still alive and then wake up and realise she's gone.

    I was supposed to be going away yesterday but I missed my flight. I'm going to go away later in the week though, I don't think I can handle the first Easter and anniversary.

    I don't have anyone to turn to, sister's struggling too, and dad just jokes about it.
    Unless I say otherwise 'you' means the general you not you specifically.
  • cazxx1
    cazxx1 Posts: 433 Forumite
    bless you ames...........you never get over it you just learn to live with it xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • rachbc
    rachbc Posts: 4,461 Forumite
    My mum is stil with us but I try and send a special message to my friends who are without their mums or without their children on Mothering Sunday. Hugs to all those on here feel sad today xxx
    People seem not to see that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.
    Ralph Waldo Emerson
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