Sad Mother's Day

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Boots888 wrote: »

Thank you MarleyBoy - you're reply bought a tear to my eye - only a little one mind!!

But it's a first as I still can't cry - Still in denial I think.

I was given 2 bits of advice when she died (I was in complete shock, deniel and full of adreneline)

1. Always think of and remember your Mum
2. You don't have to confront "everything" in life.

I think I took the latter through no control of my own I'll add.

Maybe she is up there looking out for me or:-

maybe I'm just a hard b*tch with no feelings anymore.

Anyhow, she'd have had half the neighbourhood round yesterday for soup, wine and to watch the Rugby - a real Irish star!!:T

I am very sorry that you lost your mum and hope today has not been to painful for you OP. I dont think you are hard nosed at all. I picked up on the sorrow and anxiety you are feeling through things you have written in your posts.

Your mum was obviously very special to you and you were one of the lucky ones who was deeply loved by a parent. Her loss has left a huge whole in your life and it is not one that can be filled by anyone else is it. This is not something you can come to terms with easily, it will take a very long time.

Did you have any counselling after your mums death? I think it might help you. Shock over the loss of a loved one can have a huge effect on people, and if you dont seek help for it in the early days, it can leave you feeling numb making the grieving process much harder. That does not mean you dont have feelings anymore as you state above, just that you feel unable to face and release all you do feel.

Huge hugs to you.

puppypants

I lost my beloved Mum 16 days ago. It's the first Mothers Day in 60 years that I haven't had a Mum, and it's a very empty feeling.

thorsoak

Sending you condolences and {{hugs}}, Puppypants.

It is so hard - the first Mothering Sunday after we lost our beloved Mum was her birthday as well - which made it doubly hard. But it wasn't as close as 16 days, so what you feel now is so much more raw.

Look after yourself - and your dad - and cherish yourself in the way that your mum would have done - she hasn't really left you whilst she is still in your heart. {{hugs}}

Tiddlywinks

puppypants wrote: »

I lost my beloved Mum 16 days ago. It's the first Mothers Day in 60 years that I haven't had a Mum, and it's a very empty feeling.

Same for me - mum died about 11 weeks ago... I still can't really get my head around it.

All of these "special" days will be hard I guess - this year will also be the first year ever that I won't have a birthday cake from her or a christmas stocking filled with loads of silly stuff.... I'll miss those things that were so normal yet so personal.

webitha

Boots888 wrote: »

Ah! They'll be back with you though won't they!!

I'm trying to get drunk, feel incredibly sober though:mad:

yep he broiught them back early as he was treating his mum

still nothing from the kids though they have not even acknowledged the day at all

i know in the great scheme of things its not that big a deal...but it was to me.....wa the same for xmas and my birthday too

SailorSam

It was 5yrs ago at the end of Feb my Mum died.
I've been the Crem this afternoon and got awful annoyed a card and flowers from one Sister but not the other, there was nothing last month on her Anniversary either.

grannybroon

I have never allowed my children to make me feel special on Mother's Day. I have told them over the years that I feel that it is a commercial racket with flowers etc escalating in price. Any day should be Mother's Day and I would much rather my children give me a spontaneous hug and/or bunch of flowers at any time of the year.

However, I do appreciate that some people think of today as being special and I feel for all of you who miss your Mums. xxxxx

Ames

Hugs to Puppypants and Tiddlywinks, as well as everyone else.

Grannybroon, mothers day wasn't a big deal for me and mum, but seeing all the 'I love mum', 'worlds best mum' stuff for so many weeks has just been a constant reminder that she's gone. I'll be glad tomorrow when it's all gone.

isitenough

Lost my mum to cancer at the end of January. I'll be 38 this year and kind of feel I should be more 'mature' about this, but it hurts.
There seems to have been more Mothers Day adverts this year than I remember from past years. Or maybe I just didn't realise what a special day it was before.

Judith_W

I lost my mum the week before my 13th birthday and my last birthday I had lived longer without her than with her. Must say finding it much easier now I'm married and have someone else's mum to spoil. I too made the mistake of going into town on Friday and couldn't look in a shop window without seeing something (even the hardware store!). Hugs to you all. Although day-to-day has got easier, there are always going to be more poignant days, and its good to reminisce!

xoxoxox