visits to parents

tinktinktinkerbell

my mam died in 2010, before that we used to see them every week (bar the 2 weeks in july they went on holiday)

i hardly see my dad now, put it this way ive seen him 3 times in the almost 12 weeks since boxing day (and that includes boxing day) so technically ive seen him twice!

gingin_2

I see mine between every 2 and 6 weeks, they live 1 1/2 hours away. We are in birthday season at the moment so it's quite a lot. Quite often it's overnight stays.

Inlaws visit for up to 1 month at a time, once a year, from overseas ( as I have moaned before!) they are lovely people but it's way too much all at once.

ka7e

Whn my Dad was alive I used to walk my dog past my parent's house once or twice a day and usually popped in - it just seemed strange to walk past the door and not do so! Myself, OH and the kids had Sunday lunch with them every other week, alternating with my sister and her family.

When my Dad was terminally ill I would call round every evening and sit and watch an hour of TV with him or sit in the kitchen with Mum and keep her company while he slept. Since he died, my sister and myself have been round to see Mum every evening. We have coffee, do the crossword and gossip about everything. We also see her during the day several time a week - to go shopping, take her out or spuddle in the garden or allotment.

lostinrates

It changes. My parents are separating and both retired. My mother soends a few months a winter overseas now, so go a few months with out seeing her, then tend to see each other a few times quickly, e.g. Have seen her three tiones in the last month, will settle down to once a month or so, then she will go away again. We call not quite everyday, just really to touch base. Sometimes miss a few days, we are both quite independant.

Never used to see my dad, but since the retirement and impending separation he is more interested in my life. See him 4 or more times a week atm, even if i don't really want to.....he drives over here!

I went to my parents house for the first time in over a year today for mothering sunday breakfast.

Dh's father lives over seas, they have nt seen each other for months and months, when they do its lucn, supper or a concert in London while dh's father is visiting. He did invite us to his home town Last weekend, but too short notice and too far for me to travel ..ill health.

XYZ1000

Wow thanks so much...I didn't expect so many replies. I have read through them all. It seems to be quite a mix of the number of times that people visit. Also noticed that men don't seem to see their parents as often as the ladies in a few cases so that is interesting.

Mojisola wrote: »

Would they really expect to see you more often than once a week?

I suppose it depends on their age, state of health, whether they're working or not, how active their social life is, and so on.

Also, are you talking about a quick half hour call and a cup of coffee or a whole evening or day spent with them?

Yes this is very true.... State of health not so good but stable. So early retirement for one parent. Quite a few close friends of theirs have past away resently. Almost no social life.
Usually a few hours.. 2 to 3 or more. Lunch out or dinner at mine. Coffee ect.
Maybe I should try to call or e- mail alittle more during the week

stormbreaker

melanzana wrote: »

2 or three times a week, more if Mum is not too good. Dad died ten years ago, and Mum in full time care now, although she is taken out by us four siblings every weekend, we each take a turn, and visit a couple of times during the week too.

kopperlis_123 wrote: »

2 or three times a week, more if Mum is not too good. Dad died ten years ago, and Mum in full time care now, although she is taken out by us four siblings every weekend, we each take a turn, and visit a couple of times during the week too.

I take it you are related then?

ladymarmalade

I am in my 20s, parents both in 40s.....they have just split up in January of this year...so it's harder to see them as much as I have to do everything twice!

I try to see them once a week, but would like it to be more. However, I am in my first year of teaching and a proper stressed eric at the moment...I have been working til gone 10pm every night this week and of course at the weekends....so am struggling to fit my social life in!

I do try to see them both once a week though, and of course it is more in the holidays.

SingleSue

Pretty much everyday unless they have gone down to their static caravan, they only live 10 minutes away. Amazingly, I still see my ex mother in law at least once a week too!

System

I go and stay with my parents maybe twice a year (once at xmas, and for a week during summer).

They usually come see me on my birthday but other than that i don't really see them.

I talk to them about every 2 weeks and on special occasions (like today obv).

Haven't seen or spoken to bio dad in 6 years..

Mags_cat

My parents live about 30 miles away (in the middle of nowhere, about 45-55 minutes drive).

I go to see them about once a month - usually for a free Sunday lunch! Speak to Mum about once a week on the phone and occasional emails/texts.

Mum comes here every few months for a trip to Costco. The last time Dad was here was when they dropped off my Great Aunt who'd been staying with them so I could take her back home to Manchester. That was last year.

I know Mum would like to see more of me - I lived there for ten days recently while my bathroom was being refitted - but I work f/t, sometimes long hours so she's realistic about it.