visits to parents

moneypuddle

Mine live 11 miles away. We see them probably once a week, but speak every other day on the phone

OH's parents are seperated. His mum lives 20 miles away and I've never met her so he's not seen her in a number of years, and dad lives maybe 100 miles away, and I've met him twice

Why the question?

Superbiatch

XYZ1000 wrote: »

Hi ya thanks for all your replies. I just feel like I don't do enough in my parents view to visit or invite them over. I am busy and try to meet up with them around once a week. I am an only child and don't have anything anyone to compare myself with so thought I would ask you guys. They are local.

I think you will always be in the wrong as far as parents are concerned. Both mine although initially shocked at me wanting to split up with my husband (I'd been married less than a year although spent 8 years together previously), were quite supportive. I see them maybe twice a week although they live less than 3 miles away, but i have my own life and they seem to take issue with me only seeing them as often as i do

TheConways

Twice a year - sometimes three times. We live on different continents these days, so we have to find time to make trips to coincide.

We see Mr. Conway's father more frequently, as he is at least on the same continent (albeit a plane ride away)

melanzana

XYZ1000 wrote: »

Hi ya thanks for all your replies. I just feel like I don't do enough in my parents view to visit or invite them over. I am busy and try to meet up with them around once a week. I am an only child and don't have anything anyone to compare myself with so thought I would ask you guys. They are local.

Seems like your folks are missing you.

Easiest thing to do is invite them over. But if they need transport, that can mean difficulty, but not insurmountable.

If you feel they want to see you more, and you want to see them aswell, then see them more. You will never regret that, but you might forever regret not doing it.

penelopedee_2

Mum's dead so I suspose things are a bit different for me, but Dad only lives about a mile away and I see him birthdays, Christmas and anything else important inbetween.

Its not that we've fallen out or anything and I get on very well with my stepmum, but they are always out and about - which is great because I would worry more if they were not.

We both know where we are, we text and phone etc. We just don't seem to do the family thing.

When Mum was alive I would see them at least once a week and speak to her probably daily.

tanith

From a parents perspective I love to see my kids as often as they can spare the time.. but its a two way street and I visit them too. We don't wait for an invitation in our family its fine to just turn up unannounced but both my girls live closeby so its easy for us.. my son I see 3/4 times a year as he lives and works abroad but he always pops in to see me and his sisters when he's in the country.
You have to remember your parents won't be around forever and I know that I regretted not spending more time with mine after they were gone, but things going on in my own life seemed more important at the time.

loztredders

My parents are separated, my mum lives 10 miles away. See her once or twice a fortnight. My dad lives 20 miles away but only see him once every 2 or 3 months.

puppypants

I used to take a flask of milky coffee round to my Mum in the nursing home every morning at 11 am. She died on 2nd March and so my mornings feel very strange at the moment.

My Dad I try to see every other day, take him out for lunch or shopping, he's struggling with his loss at the moment as they were married for almost 67years.

This is my first Mothers Day without a Mum in 61 years.

secretshopper75

puppypants wrote: »

I used to take a flask of milky coffee round to my Mum in the nursing home every morning at 11 am. She died on 2nd March and so my mornings feel very strange at the moment.

My Dad I try to see every other day, take him out for lunch or shopping, he's struggling with his loss at the moment as they were married for almost 67years.

This is my first Mothers Day without a Mum in 61 years.

So sorry to hear about your mum, sending you a very large hug for today and thinking of you xx

jackomdj

We see my parents about 6 times a year, we live about 3 1/2 h apart. They will look after the children for 2 sessions (I work 3 days a week) so this year it's 3rd and last week of summer holiday. They came up last weekend to surprise dd on her 5th birthday.

OH's we see about 3 times a year. When we visit she does not make an effort with the children (more a children should be seen and not heard type, and if truth be told probably shouldn't be seen either!). Last year she took a turn in the summer but after what happened she won't be looking after them on her own!

My parents we talk to at least once a week, OH's Mum we can go for months if it is left with OH suggesting she call us!