Finally I have a mortgage I can start to pay off!

Karmacat

Seconding what Cheery says - I've known people living in tiny little villages, mostly in Lancashire actually, who're commuters to the local big town and further afield, and just have nodding acquaintances locally.  

themadvix

Thanks both, I’ll have to see what it’s like, but we’re definitely out of the commuter belt so expecting people to be quite rooted. There’s potentially a village party happening in October (village magazine is online 😊) so hopefully that’ll be a chance to meet people. Looking forward to the horticultural show in the summer - will investigate the competition next year and enter the following year! 

themadvix

Had a very non-MSE day yesterday - it was our murder mystery day out in a nearby town. Was lots of fun with loads of teams around town (plenty dressed up although we didn’t) and we had ice creams, drinks and dinner out.

I did manage to sell an old litter tray on FB in the morning and paint some more of the fence though first. Might try and finish the fence today.

themadvix

So much for finishing the fence or putting the washing out.... It's damp here now.

So sorting and maybe boxing some stuff up instead.

Karmacat

I *love* local horticultural shows, you can't beat them.  Keep your eyes open  

themadvix

Morning all,

After a call with the solicitor this morning our paperwork is nearly ready to submit, so I have an appointment this afternoon to take that it and get my ID verified. DH will be on his way to Yorkshire (for work), so he'll have to do his later in the week.

Had a removal man come round to give us a quote this morning. Seemed very nice and I particularly liked the idea that they'll dismantle the bed and reassemble it at the other end - so you don't have to do that when exhausted, stressed and can't find the tools. (Not that sleeping on the mattress on the floor isn't fine really though.) We'll see how the quote comes out - they're all quite expensive because of the distance involved.

Didn't do much yesterday in the end, but Dad and his partner popped round for a cuppa which was nice. They are excited about our move. I'm struggling quite a bit with how negative Mum is being (and Sis too, but I've only seen her on the one occasion when I told her we were moving). It's got to the point that I don't want to discuss it with her because she makes me question everything and really brings me down. She said initially that it was because she was worried I'd be lonely, but now I'm beginning to think she's just going to miss me. But she seems to think it's *so far* away (it's 1.5 hours) and that we'll never be coming down. It feels like she thinks she's never coming to visit us either (she's a perfectly able 64 year-old who drives). She is also of the opinion that we wouldn't be able to afford to move back if it didn't work out, which doesn't help (we've discussed this and said that if we're really unhappy we could move back and Dad's partner said the same - we know we might be more limited in what we could afford, but we also have shares we could sell if we really needed to). Sorry, I'm still really excited about it, but it's definitely putting a strain on mine and mum's relationship, which is the last thing I want at the moment - I want to be able to make the most of the last few weeks living near to her, not feel I have to avoid her because she makes it all seem so bad.

MS things
* Clicks done and 10p won on the HW
* £3 Populous survey done
* @ £8.89 on Qmee
* Work is quiet today, but have more coming from old client on Wednesday
* Bonus nectar points earned at Sains/ 25p saved at Coop - both from apps

Gratitudes:
* DH is being very supportive when I get emotional about stuff (I just have to stand in the room where we've started dismantling stuff and I tear up - just sentimentality!)
* Positivity in some quarters
* Roast dinner last night - teamwork cooking and homegrown beans and free potatoes and carrots - was lovely

Have a good afternoon all!

South_coast

Sorry your Mum is being so negative 🙁 She has to understand you're a grown-up though, and that really she's very lucky that you've been so close for so long. You never know, she might decide to follow you at some point like my Mum is doing 😮!

Chiglepig

Goodness @themadvix that is tough, I think you're right to avoid conversations until it happens, then you can prove that it isn't the end of the world.

Cheery_Daff

That is tough indeed - from what you've said it does sound like she's feeling sorry for herself rather than being concerned about you. It's a shame that she can't see that making your final weeks uncomfortable isn't likely to make you want to stay! Can you have a frank conversation with her - 'I know you're going to miss me but I'm really excited about this move...' etc

themadvix

Thanks ladies. I have had words already, but i think you’re right Cheery and I need to say something else. Chiglepig, the problem is that not talking about it is just as bad - it’s the elephant in the room, especially as it’s my main topic of discussion at the moment! SC, you’re totally right and I know that plenty of people don’t live so close to their family and still seen them plenty and that it’ll be alright, but I just can’t seem to get this through to her. I don’t think it helps that she doesn’t really know Norfolk, so can’t see the appeal. I think she’d be more likely to move down to the south coast if she moved though! She’ll be joining you instead! 😂

Anyway, in other news, the people who are buying our house are lovely. The lady’s mum lives at the other end of the road, they have lived in another one with the same layout as ours, and her sister who will be living in it is a keen gardener, which makes me so happy! They’re really keen on the pond too, so we’ll be leaving them some fish (and unfortunately the pump and filter, which will cost us to replace, but I’m happy that they want to keep our garden as it is). I also overheard them saying they didn’t need to do anything in the kitchen, which is great as I really didn’t want people coming in and ripping perfectly good stuff out. Really really pleased that we chose them. 😁