Attends nursery comes home with a dirty backside

generaloneill

Get him out of nappies during the day. Pack an extra pair of pants and trousers in his bag and explain you are trying to toilet train him. Dont know why you have him going to nursery in nappies in the first place.

sulkisu

generaloneill wrote: »

Get him out of nappies during the day. Pack an extra pair of pants and trousers in his bag and explain you are trying to toilet train him. Dont know why you have him going to nursery in nappies in the first place.

OP explains that her son has special needs- presumably this is why he is still in nappies.

Spendless

I know the blue roll you mean. We used to have it at work and you're right it is hard (rough) and not to be compared with using cloths (flannels) or cotton wool with water. I think I'd go back to them and say you appreciate that they don't wish to use wipes, but their current items are not suiting your child, not cleaning him properly and causing problems. You could ask them if they would use cotton wool with water or baby lotion if you supply it, if they won't use wipes even ones supplied by yourself.

When my DD's nursery stopped checking her nappy and I started picking her up from there with a messy one, I changed nurseries. ETA I see that isn't an option. .

pinkladyof66

generaloneill wrote: »

Get him out of nappies during the day. Pack an extra pair of pants and trousers in his bag and explain you are trying to toilet train him. Dont know why you have him going to nursery in nappies in the first place.

As i said earlier he has special needs and therefore is not your average child - not all children are out of nappies at 3 let alone a neglected and abused child that has the development age of 2. Some children of 6 or 7 with special needs wear nappies are you saying dont send them to school.

We are working on toilet training but it is hard when he doesnt understand the concept of pants, potties and toilets etc.

sunshine_1988

Hello OP

I have worked in 4 different nurseries when I was a nursery nurse. Have to say that I have never heard of a nursery refusing to use wipes, especially when the parents would be supplying them, however I havent worked in any special needs nurseries ran by volunteers etc which is what your son appears to attend.

If they do not want to use wipes and prefer different methods, they need to ensure that these methods are at least meeting the basic needs of the child. Clearly it is highly innapropriate for your little boy to come home with a sore bum and remainders of his previous nappy left on him, poor little lad.

Mention it to the manager of the room he is in or the manager of the nursery, say whilst you are not wishing to raise this as a complaint at this time you would like the situation to improve - if it continues then you will have no choice but to contact Ofsted or the provider and make an official complaint. I know it is hard to be confrontational, especially when they are looking after your little boy - maybe write it in a letter and leave it with your fees or something if you dont wish to raise it.

Have to say - I find it really weird they send home the dirty nappies!!! Surely health and safety and hygiene come into this somewhere along the lines? I doubt many parents would actually want to open up the nappies and have a look at what is in there?!?!

I hope you get the situation solved. x

pinkladyof66

Each child has to send a rucksack to the nursery which is hung up in the toilet with their nappies in and you get the rucksack back with your childs dirty one in. So you know it is your childs

mildred1978

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

Each child has to send a rucksack to the nursery which is hung up in the toilet with their nappies in and you get the rucksack back with your childs dirty one in. So you know it is your childs

That is disgusting. Do you pay for this shoddy nursery?

MX5huggy

Go into the toilet, open every rucksack and put all the poo in a big pile.

pinkladyof66

mildred1978 wrote: »

That is disgusting. Do you pay for this shoddy nursery?

Before our son was 3 it was being paid for by our local council as he was in care since he has turned 3 it is paid for by the 15 hours a week a child gets but is charity based.

flutterby_lil

If you can't change nursery and they won't use wipes, not sure what else anyone can suggest.