Difference of opinion re bathroom waste recycling. What's yours?

aliasojo

Nicki wrote: »

..... and that it is disrespectful of the girl's father not to allow her the privacy to do so.

paddy's_mum wrote: »

The potential for damage to his daughter's soul by his insensitivity cannot be excused by his desire to do right by the planet.

I'd think it an entirely reasonable response if, in years to come, she feels that he cannot be trusted with her self - her privacy, modesty, hopes, fears, secrets, mistakes ...

Guys can I just point out that this is a new thing, it's not like our daughter has spent weeks/months/years being 'scarred' by her Father. I think maybe your comments were a little unfair to him.

He genuinely never considered it an issue and was astonished when we put him right on that. I suspect his male 'Army' type brain just wasn't thinking in the same way that our female 'delicate' brains were, on this issue. He's not a bad man in any way, he's just not always 'au fait' with women's thoughts. And I do think this is largely a female 'thing'. Most men wouldn't really care too much who rooted where, iyswim.

As I said earlier, the problem is solved now by my intention to have two bins. He now knows one is offline to him whilst the other is for the usual recycling and is 'safe' for him to be near. :rotfl:

aliasojo

meritaten wrote: »

if you think a moment - perhaps one bin for 'sanitary waste' which is out of bounds to males, and another for ordinary bathroom waste would solve the problem?

Thanks mer....but I said that several posts ago.

meritaten

aliasojo wrote: »

Thanks mer....but I said that several posts ago.

sorry Ali! I must have missed that - rofl!

mer indeed!!!!!!!!!!!! lmao - never been called that before ............give it another couple of years and peeps will be calling me 'M'!

aliasojo

meritaten wrote: »

mer indeed!!!!!!!!!!!! lmao - never been called that before ............give it another couple of years and peeps will be calling me 'M'!

Sorry...I just thought first name terms were ok. :rotfl:

moneypuddle

Your poor daughter. Regardless of age I would never want any of my family searching through the bin after me. How odd. Also how big is you bathroom bin?!? Sounds huge that he can go rummaging around in it. Ours would only take a bottle, a few balls of tissue and it would be full

Nicki

aliasojo wrote: »

Guys can I just point out that this is a new thing, it's not like our daughter has spent weeks/months/years being 'scarred' by her Father. I think maybe your comments were a little unfair to him.

No intention to be unfair to him. My comment was based on you saying that you had asked him not to do this, and he responded in a way which suggested you were overreacting to the issue. If its just a question that it never previously crossed his mind, and he's now going to stop doing it, I'm slightly bemused why you needed to poll opinion on which of you was being unreasonable

tescobabe69

We have a small bin in the bathroom, if I see a recyclable item in it, I ask who put it in and then they ferret through and put it in the right place.

aliasojo

Nicki wrote: »

If its just a question that it never previously crossed his mind, and he's now going to stop doing it, I'm slightly bemused why you needed to poll opinion on which of you was being unreasonable

I was interested in how other people viewed this, simply because both OH and I both felt we had a reasonable point.

If I'm honest though...even if every reply on this thread had been along the lines of 'no big deal if the bin is looked though', I would have ignored you all and still felt the same.

meritaten

aliasojo wrote: »

Sorry...I just thought first name terms were ok. :rotfl:

s'ok Ali - YOU can call me 'mer' if you want to! anyone else try it and they will get short shrift!

Tho why you think my first name is mer and my second is itaten is beyond me????????????:)

hmmm - just for fun - perhaps a new thread on this????????

aliasojo

Just as another sign of the difference in the way people (men/women) think......OH showed me a comment from a bloke who can't understand why women will happily walk about outside on a beach in a bikini but will shriek and try to cover themselves up if anyone was to see them in their bra and pants. Even if they matched. :rotfl: