Baby Girl Names

clairelh

JC9297 wrote: »

It is not about a child being more likely to become a 'chav' if they have certain names, rather that people think the child's parents must be chavs because they chose that name. I think what people really mean is lower class.

Whether we like it or not people, rightly or wrongly, do jump to conclusions about children (or rather their parents) because of their name. Many names are used by all sections of society, including a lot that would have been considered quite posh in the past e.g. Victoria, Sophie, Louis, but there are some names that would never be used by middle or upper class parents (I won't give examples so as not to offend). There are also some names that most of us would still consider very posh, I'm thinking Montague, Araminta, Jacinta, Marmaduke etc.

Quite honestly, if someone judged by child - or me - simply because they didn't like the name I called them, that would say a lot to me about that person. Personally, if that's how they want to be then that's absolutely fine because that's not a type of person I would associate with anyway. There are a lot of names I absolute hate, and yes, I would associate 'chav' with hundreds of names, but likewise there are an awful lot of 'posh' names that make my toes curl too. I don't judge the child by it; I make my judgements on by my experiences of the child and the parent and nothing more.

A child will grow according to how it is raised, not according to its name.

kj*daisy

Dizzi - the relative dibsing a name would really annoy me, you can't "save" names for your own child before its even conceived by banning others from using them! Winds me up when people say , so and so knew I have always loved the name Fred but have now called their baby Fred, just have 2 Fred's in the family if you love the name - and if the parents of the first born Fred complains its tough on them too!

elfen

Ann is my middle name and I DETEST IT - however, it beats being called Margaret Rose.
I quite like our name choices, they flow off the tongue even if they are unusual in their background. LM, if I had the guts to use Daenaerys I would!

QuackQuackOops

Parents who come up with new spellings of old names are quite silly, I feel. The poor kids go through life correcting anyone when they spell it incorrectly and half the time it just comes across as pretention.
Emily is fine, but not Emi-lee or Emma-Leigh or any other silly spelling.

Poor Jack with a name spelt Jak or Cassy being told to spell it Kassii. Its not neccesary.

bravobeastie

My baby girl (11 next month lol) is called Amy-Marie. It always bugs me when people assume Amy must be spelt Amie or Amee (yes we've had that)

She was so called as I loved the name Ann-marie but also the name Amy and decided to put a different slant to it. Marie after her nan and god mothers middle names. To start with I used to insist on her being addressed as Amy-Marie but over the years she is now just Amy.

rachel90

Daisy is a lovely name and my best friend is called Emily . I don't like it spelt Emilee, sorry.
The other names are not to my taste but it's your baby and you should call her what you want!

JC9297

clairelh wrote: »

Quite honestly, if someone judged by child - or me - simply because they didn't like the name I called them, that would say a lot to me about that person. Personally, if that's how they want to be then that's absolutely fine because that's not a type of person I would associate with anyway. There are a lot of names I absolute hate, and yes, I would associate 'chav' with hundreds of names, but likewise there are an awful lot of 'posh' names that make my toes curl too. I don't judge the child by it; I make my judgements on by my experiences of the child and the parent and nothing more.

A child will grow according to how it is raised, not according to its name.

But you do exactly the same thing, associate certain names with being chavvy or posh. I wasn't suggesting people would judge what sort of a person a child is because of their name, rather they make assumptions about their social background. I'm not saying it is right to do this but people form first impressions based on many different things, eg. accent, clothing.

Mely

I chose my daughters name when i was still a child myself! I told my dad that if i ever have a daughter i would give it the name that i loved. I never mentioned it again but when i had my daughter, my dad remembered me saying it...and yes,she suits her name! Coincidently my hubby also loved the name so there was no conflict there! I think that any name suits any child as they grow into it anyway (but chav names are vile and cruel!!!!)

clairelh

JC9297 wrote: »

But you do exactly the same thing, associate certain names with being chavvy or posh. I wasn't suggesting people would judge what sort of a person a child is because of their name, rather they make assumptions about their social background. I'm not saying it is right to do this but people form first impressions based on many different things, eg. accent, clothing.

I might think of the name as being a bit chavvy, but I wouldn't judge any child with that name until I'd met them. I think that's where some people differ; some people have suggested on here that a child with a strangely spelt/unusual name wouldn't even get to an interview stage solely based on their name, they've judged before meeting and they're the people I don't have time for. I think there's a difference between simply not liking a name and insinuating that the name 'makes' the person.

Dunroamin

clairelh wrote: »

Quite honestly, if someone judged by child - or me - simply because they didn't like the name I called them, that would say a lot to me about that person. Personally, if that's how they want to be then that's absolutely fine because that's not a type of person I would associate with anyway. .

Except you're not talking about people you'd choose to socialise with as much as people you and your child could come across professionally in education and employment.