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Advice needed - ex-husband being unreasonable about maintenance

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  • daska
    daska Posts: 6,212 Forumite
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    FBaby wrote: »
    Why the assumption that OP would get tax credits (or at least enough to offset the cost of childcare?)

    My ex was without a job for many months, didn't pay a penny in maintenance (not even the £5 a week), I had to pay everything but for food when he was with him. I worked full-time and paid morning and afternoon clubs. I did ask him once if he would consider having them some mornings/afternoons but he refused because the school was a 30 minutes walk....

    I didn't insist because I didn't trust he would manage to get the kids to school on time or that he wouldn't tell me with no notice that he wouldn't do it any longer, even without a job. They could have enjoyed regular quality time with his children (something he always moaned he wasn't getting....) and it would have been good exercise for them. Instead, i had to pay over £300 a month childcare whilst only entitled to £45 a month tax credits.

    It is an assumption, the OP may be earning over the limit for these or not enough hours etc.

    Presumably you got an explanation as to why you didn't qualify for help when you applied for them?
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