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Coco114

Pinot I took your advice & decided to leave the mess till the morning ......... Then when I went to lock up midnight - kitchen mess was waving at me, so I did it then :eek:
I then sat in sofa - and promptly fell asleep till 4am !!! When I woke up freezing cold with awful neck ache - what an idiot :rotfl:

Talking of idiots - it's visit day today
Youngest staying at a friends tonight so my eldest is making me watch "saw" - I am dreading it !!! Scary I love - blood & guts I don't !!!!

I now need to get my car back on the road in the next two weeks - ex wants his back which is fine. I want my little car back anyway. So need to get it over to the garage this week so he can put it through MOT and see what needs doing. He is under strict instructions to do no work on it till he tells me how much !!! I am praying for £150 max but it's doubtful ..... Keeping my fingers crossed it's about time I got a bit of luck !

Right - tea time then on with the day !

Coco x

Coco114

Now it has been firmly established that I am never going to heaven - I feel it's ok to share this .......

I accidentally found a new game to play on a Saturday morning :A

Normally once I am up & about - I unlock front door & open patio doors. This morning I didn't. I then went up for a very long shower..... Not only was front door still locked but the key was in it. When I finally came down after drying my hair - ex was sat in his car out the front tapping his steering wheel

Normally he just walks in. And as I had left keys in he couldn't get in at all :rotfl:

I think I am going to like this game ......

Coco x

vasseur

Coco114 wrote: »

Now it has been firmly established that I am never going to heaven - I feel it's ok to share this .......

I accidentally found a new game to play on a Saturday morning :A

Normally once I am up & about - I unlock front door & open patio doors. This morning I didn't. I then went up for a very long shower..... Not only was front door still locked but the key was in it. When I finally came down after drying my hair - ex was sat in his car out the front tapping his steering wheel

Normally he just walks in. And as I had left keys in he couldn't get in at all :rotfl:

I think I am going to like this game ......

Coco x

Love it! Do you think he might start to get the message or is that really asking too much?

Coco114

The chances are slim to none ..... But it caused me a lot of amusement first time I was grateful the kids sleep through anything !!!

I hope life is good in loved up land Poles

X

vasseur

Coco114 wrote: »

I hope life is good in loved up land Poles

X

Sadly not....all gone t*ts up.....better off on my own I guess

Coco114

Ah Poles I am sorry Hun , but I hope you enjoyed the fun while it lasted

I feel like I am rapidly turning into the mad cat woman from the Simpsons - you know the crazy , curly haired one who rambles incoherently with cats draped around her neck ??!! That's me :rotfl:

A proper catch me :rotfl:

Coco x

PinotGrigio41

Coco114 wrote: »

Ah Poles I am sorry Hun , but I hope you enjoyed the fun while it lasted

I feel like I am rapidly turning into the mad cat woman from the Simpsons - you know the crazy , curly haired one who rambles incoherently with cats draped around her neck ??!! That's me :rotfl:

A proper catch me :rotfl:

Coco x

You can join the crazy club then, that is me to a tee. I ramble about anything and everything as you have probably guessed totally oblivious to if anyone is even interested at all !!

Sorry about the dodgy sleep on the sofa, maybe dont take my advise next time, although must confess I was tidying my kitchen at 1am when I had decided to leave it until the morning !

I have the opposite to you today, my eldest is at a sleepover and the youngest is home with me. Thankfully she wont make me watch SAw ( I am terrified of Crime Watch ,let alone Saw) no doubt I will have the pleasures of The Smurfs Movie instead !!

Enjoy your new game !!

Coco114

Well what a nice day yesterday pottered in the morning - went for lunch with my friend (bogof so only paid £4.00 Inc a drink )
Dropped youngest to friends in the afternoon. Eldest and I watched tennis - as it finished so late I was too "tired" to watch Saw so we are saving it for another time
Phew !!!

I must cut my grass today. It's so long my house could definitely pass as a bungalow.... And I am sure I saw Dave Attinborough lurking with a camera crew earlier :rotfl:

Now to the strange bit had a very civilised coffee & chat with ex yesterday afternoon .... Updated him on house hunting etc and he then said he had a suggestion ..... What if he moved back in and I move out leaving the boys able to stay here ??!! Now fact is , yes he earns more than me but even on his salary he would still struggle. And that's before i reminded him of all the cooking, cleaning, organising , getting youngest up for school , groceries etc, etc ..... I didn't panic because , frankly, he just talks ***t so am not overly concerned , it was just a curve ball I wasn't expecting ....
Also , what about what the boys want ? Whilst eldest would be fine here with his Dad , not so sure about the youngest - he still needs me. And there is no way I am splitting them up unless that's what they want ?
Anyway, not letting it get to me or worry me , I just thought it was strange out of nowhere. It appears he has already mentioned this to eldest - when I tentatively asked him last night if that's what he wanted , he shrugged and said he wasn't bothered where/who he lives with ...... Hmmm. Not sure what to make of this ?

Like I said , most of what comes out of ex's mouth is rubbish anyway - but still very strange .....

Got a lazy day planned today - must do some housework and organise a bit only 3 weeks till the end of term and counting... :T
15 more get ups for youngest then the pressure is off my mornings for a while.

Hope everyone's enjoying their weekend

Coco x

triple_choc_chip

Hi Coco

I've been subscribed for a long time but your latest entry compelled me to exit lurkdom! Just a thought, but when you have a thread can you see how many subscribers / lurkers you have?

Coco114 wrote: »

Now fact is , yes he earns more than me but even on his salary he would still struggle. Maybe not if the new partner moved in?

frankly, he just talks ***t so am not overly concerned , it was just a curve ball I wasn't expecting .... Yes he does talk ***t, he's a man that just doesn't get it, but 99% of them don't. A father can do his best but that will never measure up to a loving mother where kids are concerned. I can't remember if you wrote that he was seeing a new partner or had moved in with them but you can bet that his fairy story ends with a new 'mum' being installed for the kids - like it's ever that simple! - Idiot!

And there is no way I am splitting them up unless that's what they want ? No of course they don't, put that thought away immediately, don't devalue yourself and never consider that again. That's an order!

Anyway, not letting it get to me or worry me , Yes you are, that's why you posted it but you mustn't let it because you are the most important, loving and stabilising influence in your children's lives and they have already suffered rejection from their father regardless of the circumstances.

I just thought it was strange out of nowhere. It appears he has already mentioned this to eldest How ***t is that?! How dare he weigh up a major adult decision by testing the water involving a child and planting seeds of insecurity and future upheaval.

- when I tentatively asked him last night if that's what he wanted , he shrugged and said he wasn't bothered where/who he lives with ...... Hmmm. Not sure what to make of this ? He's being a loyal son, not wanting to choose between parents and children should never be expected to do that at any age. He's unwittingly hurt you by not trying to hurt either of you because he's been put in an impossible position. If you make anything of it, be proud of his loyalty and maturity.

Like I said , most of what comes out of ex's mouth is rubbish anyway - Exactly.

Just read this back and it may come across as a bit bossy, sorry but it has made me cross. He was probably all nice and reasonable about it yet he was proposing to remove you from your home and your children while making out he was doing you a favour! Maybe you should have thrown very heavy objects in the direction of his head as he ran from the house after that!

And by the way, your comment yesterday about the key in the door led me to think he still has a key to your house - do you have a key to his new home? Thought not - time to change the locks, girl!

Good luck and don't let the bar stewards get you down x

Coco114

Ah thanks for that
Not sure if you can see how many lurkers/subscribers tbh ....

Firstly - at the end of the day , what my kids want is all that matters, end of and I think I am right in saying even youngest at 13 is old enough legally to decide who he wants to live with ?

He never uses his key - door is always unlocked anyway. I have asked him for it back - he said no it's still legally his house. I am only allowed to change the locks if he is posing a threat which he isn't . Even if I said I was doing it following a burglary attempt or such like - I guarantee he would get a key off one of kids anyway so , there's not a lot of point.

I don't think the girlfriend comes into this tbh - he says it's not going anywhere. Sounds more like "someones better than no-one" to me. I think what's more likely is , there is a big promotion looming and probably more ££ hence he is thinking he could do it on his salary ?

I am just p****d off that we are all settled the 3 of us & life is more or less normal , money aside , then he throws this in to the mix & messes with their heads - it's not right. At the end of the day - if both kids decide they want to live here with Dad , it will be decision made. But , I don't think that is what they want
Like I said he talks rubbish most of the time.

It just seems like I seem to get one day of relative peace & calm and then something else comes along to consume me with worry. That's life I guess

I actually feel sorry for his girlfriend tbh - wonder how long it will take this one to realise what a d******d he is :rotfl:

Coco x