To those people who cancel attending a wedding the week before

ILoveEoin

shame on them!!!

upgrade some guests, i did the same and honestly it all be ok:)

breathe and ur mum will b back to normal the day after phew xx

hugs

floss2

koloko wrote: »

....I guess we're entering Project "invite evening guests to the day". Sounds awkward but I'm sure people will take it as a nice gesture.....

Your upgraded guests will be really pleased they have made it on the day - and don't worry about it being awkward....just be honest and say you "have been let down but would be delighted if they were able to accept an upgrade to day-guest" It worked for us!

cte1111

That's a shame about the cancellations. I wouldn't feel awkward about upgrading evening guests though. We've been invited to an evening do of a wedding a few weeks and I'd be quite happy to be a last minute upgrade! Who wouldn't like a lovely meal to celebrate their friend's wedding?

White_Sapphire

Some people can be incredibly thoughtless.

OP, please don't feel awkward about upgrading guests; as long as you make clear that you wanted them there in the first place but numbers wouldn't allow, and you're now delighted that you're able to invite them to the whole thing.

I have been an upgraded guest before; tbh I just felt honoured to be considered that far up the evening guest list!!

fubar4164

Hi there

Ignore what people say about spending too much. Your money, your choice what to spend it on.

I completely agree with you that it is very bad manners to cancel so late.

My fiance & I were upgraded from evening to day guests the evening before a wedding. We were thrilled, it wasn't awkward, it was flattering.

Best of luck upgrading your friends.

Mupette

I'd be so angry that i would send a lovely card with a bill for late cancellation fees

clearing_out_my_pockets

From a former poster on this forum, be grateful that they at least gave you a week's notice so you can 'upgrade' people. I had one person text me (TEXT ME!!!!!) the evening before saying that their partner didn't fancy the journey from Birmingham down to Kent, so wouldn't be coming any more. Another two just didn't turn up on the day.

Incidentally, I've not spoken to any of them since.

joho

Oh dear koloko, I feel your pain. Stuff 'em. You'll have more fun with the guests who DO want to be there.

I had a guest and her fiance accept and then cancel because of their cat - no-one would look after it. As it happens, I'm glad they didn't come.

And 14months after sending invites and 5 months since the wedding I still haven't had a response from about 8 people that were invited. 1 person accepted and then didn't turn up on the day, and I've never heard a word of apology from them.

People are just rude and inconsiderate sometimes.

DaisyFlower

Perhaps they have genuine reasons for the change in plan, if you sent out the invites months ago then things change. I had an invite 18 months in advance, a huge amount of things can change in a week let alone 18 months.

They probably have no idea how much you have paid out and I certainly wouldnt have thought it was costing the bride £100 to host a guest so perhaps they dont know either.

Cant you see if there is some compromise, ie the babysitting issue is easily solved as there are now spare places for the children etc.

Olokia

I too wouldn't feel awkward upgrading evening guests.

Exams I can sort of understand because sometimes you know it is in the exam period but you hope that you don't have an exam on the day (unless your wedding is on a weekend then I agree, no excuse).

I have 3 guests who have all accepted the invitation but have warned me that they might need to cancel which I think is fair as they are all family and really want to be at the wedding but have situations that they can't control.

First guest has exams around the time of the wedding but will only know the exact day a month in advance (Wedding is on a Monday)

Second guest is job hunting and depends on when she gets a job, they might not allow her the time off (In France they are difficult about holidays if you have just started)

Third guest is an organiser of the paralympics and they have an event around the time of the wedding but she won't know the exact day until around a month before.