17 and pregnant, not entitled to benefits?

rotoguys

Deleted_User wrote: »

Yes bring back the Mother and Baby homes!

Why not!! And while you are at it, why not bring back compulsory adoption for unmarried mums who are under 21! Done of course, in the interests of the child!!

elvis86

killiebabe wrote: »

you no its a crazy old world we live in .... junkies n alkies etc get evrything handed to them on a plate no matter what age they are... but someone thts 17 n preg gets f**k all help!!! Our goverment should be ashamed... grrrr rant over !

What makes you think that the irresponsible 17 year old is any more deserving than the drug addict or the alcoholic?:cool:

[Deleted User]

killiebabe wrote: »

yes i am her fathers new spouse... my hubby paid up front over £7000 to his daughters mother 2 years ago for child maintenance money as his daughter was then in college .. althou technically when she started work last march .. her father since then doesnt have to pay child maintenance for her. so thru a lawyers advice the money hes paid upfront will go towards his younger sons upkeep for a few years to come... so really its her mum who holds all the money wev paid upfront ... so she should be supporting her?

Ok back to the topic and putting my personnal opinions of teenage pregnancy aside.......

I have just asked my friends daughter who was in a similar position at 16 and ended up living with her boyfriends parents as Mum was living overseas. She was able to claim Income Support at 28 weeks pregnant and she got healthy start and sure start grants.

In the meantime it might be worth reconsidering if you can help his parents out? Afterall if the were not willing to support her and she ended up living with you then you would be supporting her anyhow? :-)

wattdallas

rotoguys wrote: »

Why not!! And while you are at it, why not bring back compulsory adoption for unmarried mums who are under 21! Done of course, in the interests of the child!!

:eek:

The interests of the child is to be with the mother

elvis86

Deleted_User wrote: »

In the meantime it might be worth reconsidering if you can help his parents out? Afterall if the were not willing to support her and she ended up living with you then you would be supporting her anyhow? :-)

By the sounds of it, her mum and dad (who, if anyone, should be the ones feeling ashamed, along with the 17 year old, rather than "the goverment") have somewhat washed their hands of her. Her mum's kicked her out and her dad paid his maintenance "up-front" some time ago(?!) and moved away, and seemingly thinks that his fatherly duties are done.

Of course the state should be throwing a flat and benefits at her now, she's pregnant! Having worked for all of 3 months last summer and paid at least £30 in tax into the system, she's entitled!:cool:

killiebabe

Hi joanne

i understood what you ment wen u wer asking how far preg she is ... so dini worry! x

killiebabe

Deleted_User wrote: »

Ok back to the topic and putting my personnal opinions of teenage pregnancy aside.......

I have just asked my friends daughter who was in a similar position at 16 and ended up living with her boyfriends parents as Mum was living overseas. She was able to claim Income Support at 28 weeks pregnant and she got healthy start and sure start grants.

In the meantime it might be worth reconsidering if you can help his parents out? Afterall if the were not willing to support her and she ended up living with you then you would be supporting her anyhow? :-)

at this moment in time we cant afford to offer money to boyfriends parents.. as i myself have been off work for nearly a year, after an operation and wev only got hubbys wage coming in,,, maybe in hindsight we shouldnt have paid the maintenance money upfront,, which the mother now holds... and i dont think my step daughter would move to scotland as she wants to be with babys father in england for now.. but if she ever does then wel cross tht bridge when it happens... but the money we gave her mother was maintenance provisions for my step daughter up to august this year....thats why i say her mother should be supporting her..

killiebabe

elvis86 wrote: »

By the sounds of it, her mum and dad (who, if anyone, should be the ones feeling ashamed, along with the 17 year old, rather than "the goverment") have somewhat washed their hands of her. Her mum's kicked her out and her dad paid his maintenance "up-front" some time ago(?!) and moved away, and seemingly thinks that his fatherly duties are done.

Of course the state should be throwing a flat and benefits at her now, she's pregnant! Having worked for all of 3 months last summer and paid at least £30 in tax into the system, she's entitled!:cool:

why should her mum and dad be ashamed??? shes 17 shes an adult and its her life to do with what she pleases... her dad certainly hasnt washed his hands with her... n it wasnt her mum that kicked her out it was the grandparents who own the house she lived in with her mum n brother. and what gives you the right to PRESUME that becas her father has moved away and paid maintenance that his fatherly duties are done? THIS IS NOT THE CASE...

FOR 1 ... i wouldnt be on this site asking for advice about english law...
nor do i expect to put up with cheeky disrespectful quotes from people like you .

IF YOUVE NOT GOT ANYTHING CONSTRUCTIVE AND HELPFUL TO SAY ... DONT SPEAK!!

wiccanlou

These have been very helpful to a friend who's teenage sister is pregnant.

http://www.gingerbread.org.uk/content/425/Helpline

wiccanlou

Oh yeah and try this too.

http://www.gingerbread.org.uk/content/336/Parents-under-18