Moving on...

mazza111

Have to say, I could have wrote the same thing several years ago...


We all get there in the end. Enjoy your children, give yourself time to meet someone. There's no rush. Give yourself time for you and your children. You will get there too

property.advert

From a bloke's perspective, a woman having kids is not a deal breaker but it does limit the amount of other baggage she can carry. Too honest ? perhaps, but an inability to look after the kids and yourself, getting deep into debt, kids out of control, bad mannered, everyone sponging off the state etc. and it is too much.

Of course there will always be blokes who just want a pound of flesh and have no real interest in the kids or actually in you as a person so don't fall for their craptrap.

Do your best, instil the right virtues into your kids and if possible work for a living and the right sort of bloke will admire the young lady who copes with so much on her own. Far better that than an endless series of dole whaller deadbeats.

themull1

I'm 43 with two kids and i met a nice man last year when my husband of 13 years left me.

bossymoo

Hi
I was sort of looking for a single parents thread. Slightly different reason. My husband recently passed away. I have a 3yo DS and a 16mth DD. while I am nowhere near considering starting again, I do feel lonely. I know it will be a good while before I'm ready. Then it will be another good while before I meet anyone (I don't get out much...) then it would be a longer while still before I could live with anyone. That's a lot of time to be lonely. Who would want to take us on when we are all grieving one special person. I'm also grieving for the future we've lost.
Sorry to be such a misery.

go_cat

Has he threatened you at all if so report him to the police

Hovel_lady

bossymoo wrote: »

Hi
I was sort of looking for a single parents thread. Slightly different reason. My husband recently passed away. I have a 3yo DS and a 16mth DD. while I am nowhere near considering starting again, I do feel lonely. I know it will be a good while before I'm ready. Then it will be another good while before I meet anyone (I don't get out much...) then it would be a longer while still before I could live with anyone. That's a lot of time to be lonely. Who would want to take us on when we are all grieving one special person. I'm also grieving for the future we've lost.
Sorry to be such a misery.

Sorry to hear about your husband passing away.
You don't need to apologise for being a misery. You are bound to be grieving and unhappy.

You could, if you wanted to set up a thread for single parents on here? I don't think (?) there is one at the moment.
xx

meds12_2

bossymoo wrote: »

Hi
I was sort of looking for a single parents thread. Slightly different reason. My husband recently passed away. I have a 3yo DS and a 16mth DD. while I am nowhere near considering starting again, I do feel lonely. I know it will be a good while before I'm ready. Then it will be another good while before I meet anyone (I don't get out much...) then it would be a longer while still before I could live with anyone. That's a lot of time to be lonely. Who would want to take us on when we are all grieving one special person. I'm also grieving for the future we've lost.
Sorry to be such a misery.

You poor thing, so much to have on your plate with such young children. My Gran lost her husband when her children were young, she felt lonely at first, but eventually grew to love her independence - she worked in a bank, and lived modestly. When eventually she did meet someone, she refused to either marry or live with him, and enjoyed holidays together around the world and a life of dating...she would not give up her independence.

Nickitree30

Bossy moo, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm uncertain about any threads but I didn't want to read and run. I also have a 16mth DD and I know how much work there is in looking after her (and her 13 year old brother from a previous relationship) I just wanted to say stay strong and take comfort in your lovely children.
Take care.
Aimeesmum, I've been where you are now. It gets better. I was on my own with my son for three years and I wouldn't change that for a thing. I credit it with the close relationship we have now ( of course he has only just turned 13, still plenty of time for hormonal hating of me :rotfl:)

meds12_2

AimeesMum wrote: »

Hiya everyone!

Looking for you to cheer me up lol

I am 23yrs old with two children and have recently split up with my partner of 5 years.

I just can't see how I can ever move on?

Surely no-one is ever going to want or love me with this baggage My ex is rathr psycho and freely admits that although he doesn't want to be with me that he won't let anyone else bring up his kids.

I'm just feel so lonely and while I don't want another relationship, I would like to think that sometime in the future, I would be part of a stable relationship with someone who accepts me kids as his own. Do you have a relationship with someone who has accepted your kids? did you feel the same way as me at the beginning? xx

Give it time...you've had a traumatic split, and at 23 you are not quite over the hill yet! One of my best friends, had a bad split with her husband of 15 years, 3 years ago. He turned, by all accounts, into an absolute pest too - police injunctions, threats, nasty phone calls, the works. But somehow she has got through it, at the age of 40, with children, and has met someone who matches her personality even better than her husband once did. She is now very, very happy. Time is a great healer

Nickitree30

Meds12, your Gran sounds awesome!