Moving on...

shegirl

Oh hun you will and you have more chance than me!

Know how you feel though,even though I only split with my partner yesterday after discovering his cheating,as I've just turned 30 I'm wondering about being alone for the rest of my life too,difference is I'm older and have a disabled child who I don't really want to have a stepdad.Maybe it's to soon for me to worry over being alone for the rest of my life but hey!

You're only young hun and there is a whole life ahead of you.Don't let yourself get to my age and sit wondering how you ended up with nothing because of some t*at.

Maybe just try a little dating at some point for some fun and to just enjoy the company of others who'll make you feel good for a bit.No harm can be done there and if anything comes of it then you can think about the future,ok x

Btw my best female friend got engaged christmas day to a guy she's been with almost two years and has two children from a previous relationship -he took it,baggage and all and they're very happy together (they also have a daughter of their own now too!)

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Oh boy. Anyone would think 30 was old.

And I'm knocking on 40's door. _pale_ Not been short of company over the years - longest single/not actually seeing anybody at all was about 6 months.


There are plenty of men out there. Don't panic.

shegirl

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Oh boy. Anyone would think 30 was old.

And I'm knocking on 40's door. _pale_ Not been short of company over the years - longest single/not actually seeing anybody at all was about 6 months.


There are plenty of men out there. Don't panic.

I bloody feel old!!!:o

On the up side though,there will be no man moaning about dogs because he doesn't like them much and I could have a bloody house full of Beagles if I want:D:rotfl::T

floss2

OP, I was 37 when I met my DH 9 years ago, with two teenage boys & plenty of baggage including an ex-husband....we married 18 months ago and my DH treats those boys as if they were his own - as do his family.

He's seen me through my mum's terminal illness, various job changes, a move to a new area, putting the kids through uni (and then having one move back in when we got back from honeymoon :eek:).

You will find someone else - just don't rush it. Nothing will get up your ex's nose more than showing that you can manage without him

Nottoobadyet

shegirl wrote: »

even though I only split with my partner yesterday after discovering his cheating

Eek shegirl I'm massively impressed you arent scraping yourself off the floor a day after!

Thinking of you and wishing you very happy, dog-filled years ahead :T

Caroline_a

You can be sure the dogs will never cheat or lie (although my Shepherd has the guiltiest look in the world, even looks guilty if the other one has chewed something!! :rotfl:)

AllyS

Hi

Try not to worry, I thought exactly the same way, but I actually met someone else very quickly. He was single, never had kids and he took on me & kids as a family unit. It has not been easy and we are still learning how to live with one another everyday, but we all love one another and that get's us through. The kids love him the same as their Dad and vice versa, they love having another adult to give them attention. Their dad & my partner have different things they like doing with the children, Dad more sporty and out doorsy and partner more building, creating etc.. so they get the best of both worlds - very lucky children in my opinion - to have 2 men in their life that would protect and look after them no matter what

It is scary, and family unit will never be the same again. I was devestated when my marriage ended, but it is just different these days, not particularly better or worse, just a different type of family unit.

Re: the Psycho bit, my ex isn't psycho, but he hasn't made things easy, he has made no secret about the fact that he doesn't like the relationship my partner has with the kids, but there is nothing I can do about that (I have tried) and I just tell the kids it's because they are so awesome that Dad is scared of losing them (which he won't)and that hopefully it will be ok one day. I certainly hope so anyway

shegirl

Nottoobadyet wrote: »

Eek shegirl I'm massively impressed you arent scraping yourself off the floor a day after!

Thinking of you and wishing you very happy, dog-filled years ahead :T

Honestly,I was to start with,couldn't sleep and poured my eyes out,but after all his crap reading the lies that he'd been telling people and him messaging me while I was trying to sleep last night I honestly don't feel a thing for him!!!

reheat

Mojisola wrote: »

If he ever puts this in writing, texts or emails it, save the messages in case you need to get some legal help against him in the future.

That is actually VERY good advice. When it comes to psychos, if you don't do this as routine, by the time you realise you need to do it it will be too late.

big5

When my brother met his partner, she had a 2 year old daughter. My brother has always loved kids and took to being a step-dad like a duck to water. My mum was initially a bit worried about getting attached to the child in case the relationship didn't work out, but now the whole family have accepted the wee girl (and her mum!) as 'one of us'.