Internet Dating Discussion

llh189

I have been trying internet dating ( without much success ) and was just about to give up when I started getting e-mails from this really nice sounding guy.

We have been exchanging e-mails everyday for about 10 days, they are not that newsy but really funny, we haven't exchanged loads of personal stuff about one another, the are really light hearted and he seems really cute and funny.

On Friday, I got an e-mail to say that he had been unable to get back in contact properly as he had a drinks thing, he was a bit tiddly but really liked my last e-mail and would get back in touch over the weekend - but I haven't heard from him since.

We have been using our own e-mail address, but he hasn't logged on to either his myspace account or the site that we met through. The fact that I have checked those already makes me feel like a bit of a stalker, but I am a little bit worried about him.

Which sounds really odd, but he has been really consistent about getting in touch and the e-mails were going really well, I did get in touch on Saturday but didn't on Sunday, I do acknowledge that stuff comes up or he might have changed his mind about emailing me.

So my question is should I drop him a really brief chatting e-mailing just to see how he is - or completely leave it and just probably accept that it was a laugh for a couple of weeks.

What would you do?

KPR_2

I would wait till he gets back in touch with you as you have made contact with him since they stopped so he will see that and when he gets back online hopefully he will contact you.

G/L

lilac_lady

I would definitely not contact him. It's at an early stage where the hurt you feel is managable but if you ask him to get in touch and he doesn't, you'll feel worse. Maybe he can't log on at the moment but if he's interested, he'll email you as soon as he can. If he's just not replied and dropped you you've had a lucky escape because he's not the type of person that you'd want in your life.

AnnieH

Mayeb he's lost his internet connection for a few days. There are all sorts of possibilities. Of course he may have just dropped you, and like someone else said, if he has then you are the lucky one as he is obviously not the kind of guy who would treat you right anyway.

I have to say though it does hurt. I emailed a guy a few years ago now. We got on really well, but as soon as I sent him a pic of myself, I never heard from him again:eek:
That really didn't do much for my self-esteem let me tell ya LOL. But now I know that he was a shallow individual and I had a very lucky escape:) Not to worry though as a few months after that, I started chatting to a lovely guy (just friends - I wasn't looking for a man) and we've been married for 5 years in April.

Hope that helps, and if it has ended now, then better than further on down the line when you would be really hurt.

Angel777

Hi, well i would wait until tues/wed and then send a light hearted email just asking about his weekend tell a little about yours.

It could be a genuine reason why he has not got in touch but by sending a message to him i dont think you have anything to loose.

Then if you dont hear anything i would leave it.

llh189

Just to let you know, he did get back in touch and made no reference to not being in touch fopr three days.

Just my over active imagination - thanks for posting though!

going2die_rich

Maybe he was busy with hit wife and kids so thought he best not say anything

thesaint

He made no mention of the fact that he said he was going to get in touch over the weekend, and you are okay with it?
You are only online, but you have a right to some consideration none-the-less.

You have now set the tone for this friendship I believe.

victory

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llh189

Thanks guys - your posts mcuh like my experience of internet dating so far has made me smile.

And yes I didn't mention his absence, thought that might be a bit pushy / rude - and to add to the wife and kids theory I he mainly e-mails me from work.

I will obviously attempt in a subtle way to establish that he is single although he hasn't said anything that would lead me to worry. He is a busy guy and 5 e-mails a week is pretty consistent by anyones standards ( I think). if he continues to avoid me at weekends I might ask the question though.

Thanks again folks,