Use of a dummy

janninew

ska_lover wrote: »

Parents give their children dummies, for the same reasons other parents sit children in front of the tele for hours on end.

Cos they want an easy life.


You can disect it any way you want, it always comes out the same.


Yes I know being a parent is not easy - I am one.

It doesn't always 'come out the same!' How can you say that? Do you personally know every parent in the world who uses a dummy for their baby?

I wasn't planning on using a dummy when I was pregnant, but having a very early baby and being advised by our Consultant to use one for 6 months due to babies who are born very prematurely and have the problems my Daughter has, she had a higher risk of SIDS. So for me using a dummy for an 'easy life' has nothing what so ever to do with it, but simply following Doctor's instructions and wanting to do whatever I could to keep my baby safe.

POPPYOSCAR

I read up quite a bit when I was pregnant with my first child and I came to the conclusion that a dummy/comforter was a good thing for the baby and so used them.

I was lucky in the fact that they decided when they no longer needed it and that was when they were about 12months old.

peachyprice

ska_lover wrote: »

Parents give their children dummies, for the same reasons other parents sit children in front of the tele for hours on end.

Cos they want an easy life.


You can disect it any way you want, it always comes out the same.


Yes I know being a parent is not easy - I am one.

Or we could turn that on it's head and say that parents who won't use a dummy for a baby that has a need to suck for comfort are making that baby unnecessarily distressed for the sake of their own selfish crusade.

So yes, you can dissect it any way you want, but it doesn't always come out the same. Some parents put their babies comfort before themselves.

tyllwyd

I remember my daughter embarassing me - we'd gone to the dentist, and I was just sitting there discussing 'oh no, of course she doen't have a dummy very often, maybe sometimes now and again ...' and I turned around and she'd snuck into my handback, found two dummies and put them both in her mouth together!

Both of my daughters had dummies - it's not something I would boast about, but it's not the worst thing in the world either.

DON79

ds1 loved his dummy and we had to hide them in the end so he was weaned off it by the time he was 2 years old.

ds2 was never fussy for it and we had no problems with dummy addiction.

Out of the two of them, the one we are having speech and language therapy with is ds2 who wasn't bothered with having a dummy.

We are now weaning their sister ( 1 1/2) off her dummy as she has been a complete chatterbox this past week so it's time for it to go.

I don't think dummies are evil but I do hate when I see children at my son's 3-4 year old nursery class with dummies and pushchairs! There is a set of twins at my son's nursery who only lost their dummies about 6 months ago (at least in the day time or when at nursery!) and their parents still bring their double buggy to drop them off and pick them up at nursery - they are both 4 years old.

delain

DON79 wrote: »

ds1 loved his dummy and we had to hide them in the end so he was weaned off it by the time he was 2 years old.

ds2 was never fussy for it and we had no problems with dummy addiction.

Out of the two of them, the one we are having speech and language therapy with is ds2 who wasn't bothered with having a dummy.

We are now weaning their sister ( 1 1/2) off her dummy as she has been a complete chatterbox this past week so it's time for it to go.

I don't think dummies are evil but I do hate when I see children at my son's 3-4 year old nursery class with dummies and pushchairs! There is a set of twins at my son's nursery who only lost their dummies about 6 months ago (at least in the day time or when at nursery!) and their parents still bring their double buggy to drop them off and pick them up at nursery - they are both 4 years old.

My twins were in a buggy at nearly 4... I had no car and they have special needs. Walking with them quite simply was not safe, even with reins as they would simply throw themselves backward with all their weight. These twins may be the same!

and no that wasn't lazy parenting by me, my 20 month old walks nearly everywhere, as the twins would have done if they were able to do so safely.

Incidentally they are now 8 and have the road sense of hedgehogs, despite much work on road safety with them!

fawd1

McKneff wrote: »

The othe thing I think is so absolutely disgusting is a parent pick s dummie up from the ground/table, sucks it themselves and then sticks it into a baby's mouth, horrible, just absolutely horrible,

Is it just me that has done this numerous times??? oops. my eldest loved his dummy but would drop it maybe 50-60 times a day, and couldnt use those clips because he'd just go mental and rip them off. As I didn't plan on buying, let alone carrying around 50 + dummies a day, I'd just make sure there was no visible dirt on it and give it back!

fawd1

ska_lover wrote: »

Parents give their children dummies, for the same reasons other parents sit children in front of the tele for hours on end.

Cos they want an easy life.


You can disect it any way you want, it always comes out the same.


Yes I know being a parent is not easy - I am one.

You're absolutely right. I gave my eldest son a dummy because he liked it and it stopped him from crying. As I had decided having had an epidural and doing mixed feeding that I wasn't going to win martyr of the year award then I was ok with doing something that made my son happy and my life easier. You can imagine that I've spent countless hours agoinsing over a decision that made life more pleasant and easy for everyone involved, especially when I see the small horns growing from him. Untold damage has been done.

OrkneyStar

faerie~spangles wrote: »

Why, why, why are those things plugged into babies mouths?

Mine sucked his thumb, naturally, so I thought 'great' (I hate dummies), however a few years on I am thinking it would have been easier to take a dummy away than his thumb! Dentist not overly worried, teeth looking fine, but obviously I'd like him to stop doing it regularly fairly sharpish!

Person_one

DON79 wrote: »

I don't think dummies are evil but I do hate when I see children at my son's 3-4 year old nursery class with dummies and pushchairs! There is a set of twins at my son's nursery who only lost their dummies about 6 months ago (at least in the day time or when at nursery!) and their parents still bring their double buggy to drop them off and pick them up at nursery - they are both 4 years old.

Just look the other way, its not like you're seeing parents being violent to their children or swearing and shouting at them. Its not abuse its just different.

I never had a dummy and never sucked my thumb either, but my parents had the hardest time weaning my brother off them, my mum says she was worried he'd end up at secondary school still sucking a dummy! They managed it, but even now he still gets really really emotionally attached to various 'comfort' objects, keepsakes and so on so I'm inclined to think it was just part of his personality at that early age