retirement plans

Mojisola

Newly_retired wrote: »

Meanwhile I will try to take the advice to begin my own share of decluttering - a drop in the ocean of course compared with his stuff - but it will show willing.

It's surprising how small things can be the start of major changes.

In a couple, it's often the case that, in order to encourage change in your partner, you have to make some changes in yourself.

As your husband has been a workaholic, he may not want to stop working completely. My 90 year old FIL has been doing one day a week until very recently. He really needed to keep that contact with the work environment.

cajef

Good God, sounds like you are trying to organise the poor chaps life, I am not surprised he took another job five years ago, have you considered divorce sounds like it would be a good option then he would have some peace and quiet when he retires.

Newly_retired

DH has several things he will keep going on but can give up with very short notice- can't name them here to avoid identification. I'm OK with these. I have similar commitments and interests too. I agree he will take years to retire properly.

Mojisola

Newly_retired wrote: »

DH has several things he will keep going on but can give up with very short notice- can't name them here to avoid identification. I'm OK with these. I have similar commitments and interests too. I agree he will take years to retire properly.

After five years, it must be frustrating for you but, as you can see from the consensus, you're going to have to give him more time.

Can you set yourself some things to do in the coming year without him so that the pressure comes off you both? Sod's law, once you do that, he'll suddenly see the benefits of retiring.

chesky369

cajef wrote: »

have you considered divorce sounds like it would be a good option then he would have some peace and quiet when he retires.

I think that comment is totally unnecessary.

hostertlady

when my husband retires i hope he doesnt expect me to do everything/go everywhere with him..

that would drive me mad....:rotfl:

globetraveller

I get the feeling that you can see things a bit clearer now- just writing about it can help and I think (almost) all of the comments have helped in their way. Enjoy your joint retirement:)

Ken68

I've often wondered about 'retirement courses' provided by employers.
A chap up the road, previously a supervisor to about 30 staff, still thinks he's at work, except that I and his other neighbours are his 'staff'. He's a pain in the rear.
No doubt he went on courses to learn how to be a foreman etc , his retirement course should have been to get rid of all that empowerment.

desert_rose

We're in the same boat! A few years off retirement and I'm ready to talk and plan and he's not interested.

Think its a form of denial to be honest as he doesn't 'get', the fact that he's not that far off claiming his pension.

At first, I found it frustrating, annoying and hard to cope with. Now, I just take a 'whatever', view as he's firmly stuck in the past and just about copes with the present.

Pointless going on about the future therefore as he can't envisage not working just yet.

Newly_retired

I am also wondering what to with with various savings that are maturing. Going to put them in easy access or one year fixed maximum at the moment in case something comes up.