Being given food

VJsmum

My MIL used to be very generous - she seems to have curtailed a little now. I always had the philosophy that if I asked her to get something then I would insist on paying her for it, but if she got somehting off her own bat then i wouldn't.

HoneyBee83

I'm a single working mother and times are tough...same for everyone! My mum doesn't exactly bring round food parcels but will pick up extra household/cleaning bits; like washing powder and toilets rolls etc She will pop a few bits into my fridge tho such as yogurts and orange juice, i've even come home to a bottle of wine before now :o She buys DD clothes throughtout the year too and my Nan always puts her hand in her pocket when it comes to new school shoes!

Its the little things that really help me out and she knows i wouldnt accept the cash. She refuses to let me pay for lunch/coffee or anything so DD and i take her flowers or bake cakes for her and dad to enjoy. I'm very grateful and i know i'll do the same for my DD whether she needs it or not!:D

jeanniebeanie_2

My Mum bakes for me. Fruit cakes for lunch boxes, cheese and onion pie etc. I am not hard up and I do cook. Mum just loves to cook and doesn't want to fatten Dad up further! I accept graciously It makes her feel she is contributing and that her skills are valued and best of all it keeps her active. She turns 80 soon!

bearcub

It's what we mums do, isn't it? We've given our girls financial help when needed, as they live a bit of a distance to help out with food. They've not wanted to take the money, and they've always paid us back asap. Not that we've wanted the money back. Plus, we've given them practical help. And the giving doesn't necessarily stop when we get older. I'm 59 and, just after Christmas, I was in the local Co op with my mum. I stopped to look at some rather lovely teddy bears that were being sold cheaply. Mum bought me one! I didn't need it, but she wanted to treat me.

Incidentally, Food Banks were mentioned earlier. I'm a volunteer at one, but we've had very few 'clients'. We think it's because this area is seen to be fairly well-off, and those who are really struggling don't want to admit it. We suspect that families are helping out. IF anyone on here should find themselves in a really tight financial situation eg benefits late coming in, then do consider contacting the local food bank. It will only be short term - because that's what our rules state - but it is there to help.

3v3

bearcub wrote: »

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Incidentally, Food Banks were mentioned earlier. I'm a volunteer at one, ..... IF anyone on here should find themselves in a really tight financial situation eg benefits late coming in, then do consider contacting the local food bank. It will only be short term - because that's what our rules state - but it is there to help.

Found this information if anyone does need, or is thinking about going to a Food Bank: (Source)

Under the scheme, people whose benefits have been delayed, or have been refused crisis loans, will be referred to their local food bank. A claimant will be limited to three consecutive referrals – each time giving them enough food for three days. They will be given basics such as tinned soup, baked beans, meat, fish and pasta.

ms_london

Ahhh, this thread has really cheered me up and not only made me very grateful for my mum, but also other members of my family. It has warmed the cockles of my heart :0) xx

apesxx

thats really nice of your mum. yep i too get a bit embarrased when my mum gives me stuff but i've learned that thats just what they do. Couple of years ago when it snowed really bad i needed shopping and drove to asda and couldnt find an empty parking space without 2ft of snow in it. not wanting to get the car stuck with a 3 month old baby i drove home. told my mum and that night my mum rang to say she had left some shopping on my doorstep. Was 2 massive bags full of shopping that really helped us out.

Also new years eve my car was wrote off in a hit and run. Even though i got a payout from insurance my dad gave me his old car which means i can now put that money in a savings account. I feel really bad because even though its an old car its still in fab condition and they could have sold it. They even put 2 new tyres on it for me, MOT'd it and bought me a new child seat because my old one was in the car when it was hit im 25 and like to think i can stand on my own 2 feet now i have 2 children but i sometimes think i would be lost without all the help i get from family

Memory_Girl

My Mum has just been on the phone having been to L**L and picked up a load of reduced stuff

Asparagus
Sugar snap peas
Chilli peppers
Blueberries
Green Beans
3 red peppers
Pkt of parsnips

............. all at 15 p each.

She only went in to swap a voucher for a box of the own brand weetabix cos she knows that what I use.

So is so pleased - not just at the reductions, but that she managed to snaffle stuff that I would regard as treats ............. and stuff that I will be able to stretch really far, even though she only spend just over a quid.

Goes off dreaming of asparagus risotto, asparagus quiche, Fried rice, stir fry, Blueberry pancakes, blue berry muffins, parsnip soup, roasted pepper pasta, stuffed peppers, gazpacho ................... in fact she has probably saved me doing a whole shop this week

MG

majenta

I'm a mum and love giving food to my now grown up children, especially as they only occaisionally eat at home with me these days. My mother did the same for me (whether I needed it or not) and in turn no doubt our children will do the same for theirs. Giving food is a way of giving love.

A piece of child rearing advice given to me many years ago was to 'Love 'em, feed 'em, leave 'em be.' The first two are easy.

Hope I'm not butting in, this is my first post. Now I've got to figure out how to send it!

MRSTITTLEMOUSE

majenta wrote: »

I'm a mum and love giving food to my now grown up children, especially as they only occaisionally eat at home with me these days. My mother did the same for me (whether I needed it or not) and in turn no doubt our children will do the same for theirs. Giving food is a way of giving love.

A piece of child rearing advice given to me many years ago was to 'Love 'em, feed 'em, leave 'em be.' The first two are easy.

Hope I'm not butting in, this is my first post. Now I've got to figure out how to send it!

What a lovely post and one I fully agree with.
There's nothing I love more than to have our family come eat with us.
Just tonight I've had my daughter,grand-daughter and my grand-daughters boyfriend round.
They always raid the cupboards before they go as they know I buy stuff just for them,things we never eat ourselves.
I love feeding people and miss those family meals where we'd spend ages laughing and talking round the dining table.
Its a little pleasure of mine being able to cook for them and let them take a bag of goodies home afterwards.