Being given food

Big_Graeme

...and take the hint, invite her for dinner :-)

Seriously though as another poster has said, no matter how old you are you are still her daughter.

carefullycautious

Ive been helping a neighbour who has fell on hard times.

As I am decluttering all the many things we accumulate over the years and would have given to the charity shops, I have given to them for car boots, ebay etc. (We have so much stuff that the charity shops are still benefitting) cant believe how much stuff we had.

It just another way of recycling and if someone benefits whether family/friends/neighbours so be it.

My mum used to help us out many moons ago and I would do the same for my own adult children if the need arose.

Big hug and a kiss for a good mother

OrkneyStar

krlyr wrote: »

If she wants to do it, why not? You may be 42 but you're still your mum's daughter. I've got my own house with OH but I know if I was ever struggling, my mum would step in and help out - but equally I'd help her out where I could too.

Exactly. :T:rotfl::):T:rotfl:

janey183

Im 44 and my mum still does it.
Luckily she shops in M&S so I end up with a freezer full of glorious fodder!
I used to be embarrassed and go into a strop etc, but now I just love it, she loves doing it and after its all gone, we compare notes of what we enjoyed and what we didnt and thus the next shop changes accordingly!
Best thing she and my late dad did was fill up my freezer when I was away on hols, came home and FAB!:T

valk_scot

She's your mum, she loves you and she wants to help. As long as she's not going short herself to help you, I think you should make her happy by accepting her assistence with grace. Why not ask her to join you for a few meals as a thank you? She shops, you cook, everyone is happy.

I used to take my elderly mum a freezer full of meals round every week, because she couldn't be bothered to cook for just one any more and it was as easy and almost as cheap for me to make five portions of whatever instead of four. In return she used to keep the kids in sweeties and biscuits and, for some odd reason, made a point of buying us all our tea bags. I didn't ask her to do this, it's just how it works in functional families as has been said.

CH27

What a lovely mum you've got:)

Possession

I agree, that's what (nice) mums do! But I wouldn't spend money on taking her out for a meal or something when she knows you're short of cash, as presumably things will still be a bit tight after payday. I'd make sure she's invited round a lot to enjoy her family.

ETA: I've said this because in the same situation my mum would rather I spent the money on myself/my family, but everyone is different.

shelley_crow

It's not about food but has your OH looked into a weekly pass for the train?

My other half has being paying £14 per day since September, he asked about a weekly pass at the start of this week and was told it was £26 for the week. It might save you a few quid anyway.

black_cat

janey183 wrote: »

Im 44 and my mum still does it.
Luckily she shops in M&S so I end up with a freezer full of glorious fodder!

My mother loves bringing us a "goody bag" every time she visits. Once she brought 6 boxes of M&S washing powder because they were on offer! There are certain tins she knows we like and always stocks up for us when they are on offer. She knows we don't take it for granted and loves dong it. (I'm 43)

Flibsey

my mum does this, and I did it for her when we were better off. it's what families do... isn't it?!