Being given food

mickey54

Oh memories. My youngest moved in with their partner - and he was only 18!!. They were both on low wages - and too proud to ask for help. I used to buy up offers on BOGOF - and pass over the free one to them - no matter what it was. We had them for sunday lunch and once through the week - and they always went away with doggie bags. THey appreciated it - and even now he says that they used to look forward to the bags - see what was in them. THis was 13 years ago - and although he has moved away - I still buy things for them because I want to - and not because they need it now.

skintmum2012

I would not worry. My mum and dad with like 5 mins away and they are always helping out with food and money and baby sitting. Today my mum came with me to the boots sale and looked after the kids so I could look then she took us to get a takeaway chips and kebab and lots of chocolate and a DVD. I see my mum most days which is good can get a little anoying and I cant do anything lol. Hubbys mum and dad live in London and when they come we dont really need to food shop for a week they bring so much they brought £30 in sainsburys voucher for x mass. We dont ask for any off it and try and show how greatfull we are in no money ways so hubby will help with DIY and taking things to the tip. I will home cook home made cakes and breads and double it up for mum I always let her know about the bargains and they come round for roasts

Christina_F

My daughter moved away to Uni in September. I spent the summer preparing a box of food goodies for her to take away. It consisted of the free parts of BOGOF and any offers which she would eat. I did the same again from September and gave it to her when she when back to Uni after Christmas, and will do it again for Easter.
I do it because I love her and dont want to see her struggle. I think its just a 'mother' thing which I like doing. Gives me a warm glow inside!

PIGSMAYFLY

Just be thankful you haven't got a mother like mine lol! Every time I see her she wants something doing or shopping paid for, I have lost my job, my other half and have been barely scrapping by for the last two months and she still has a not a nice word to say about me (she and my father are sitting on a fair few pennies may I add), nor could she care less if dd and I went hungry.... How blessed you bunch are! Your mother is a diamond let her shine...

gallygirl

I started giving my daughter food parcels when she was at uni, or taking her shopping when I visited. Now she has her own house about 2 hours away and I never visit empty handed. Usually exciting things like toilet paper, soap powder etc. And a chocolate advent calendar and Easter Egg every year :EasterBun

D&DD

My mum and dad still arrive like clockwork twice a week,shopping in hand and I'm 45!
They've seen how we've struggled over the years and know we always appreciate their help even though it makes me feel guilty them always spending on us but they enjoy doing it and it doesn't make them short themselves thats the main thing I worry about.

I do manage to get them to accept stuff back now at last,when I grab a bargain I always buy an extra for them too.
Their garage is worse than my cupboard of doom :rotfl:

BitterAndTwisted

I was another grateful recipient of Red Cross Parcels. My mum didn't live very near me so I used to visit once every couple of months. It was like the prodigal returns and she'd make some of my most favourite of her recipes. A little package would always be pressed onto me and it would be all sorts of things she knew I liked. Right up until she died. I was 45 then. I understood it for what it was meant to signify. Love, nurturing, care, spoiling. It's what Mums do, they can't help themselves.

Sunflower1227

Christina_F wrote: »

My daughter moved away to Uni in September. I spent the summer preparing a box of food goodies for her to take away. It consisted of the free parts of BOGOF and any offers which she would eat. I did the same again from September and gave it to her when she when back to Uni after Christmas, and will do it again for Easter.
I do it because I love her and dont want to see her struggle. I think its just a 'mother' thing which I like doing. Gives me a warm glow inside!

I do this too, and also send her little gifts in the post when offers are on, ie chocolate.

The funiest one was pasta from Ann Summers, you can guess what shape it was :rotfl:

Mrs_Veg_Plot

I am one of fout grown up daugthers (all with families). My two younger sisters have always struggled with money and mum and dad have always helped out with th occasional sack of potatos and carrotts etc. They will also help out with money if they can. One of my younger sisters left home at 17 and fell out with mum and dad for a while, she moved into a grotty little flat near to me. I was 21 and working so I used to help her out with hot meals and food parcels.

We have always circulated hand me downs between ourselves and our children. The baby bath stand the four of us used for our children was purchased for me as a baby by my parents from th Embassy cigarette coupons!

I agree this is what functional families do.

Hermia

I genuinely don't understand why people have such a problem with being given things. It's like those tedious "No, I'm paying", "NO, I'M paying!" arguments women also seem to get into when they go out for coffee together!

I have always been grateful for any gifts when I have been short of cash. My mum still fills my bag up my food whenever I go to visit her (she is better off than me). I have done the same for friends/relatives when they have been going through a bad time and have got really frustrated when people refuse things they really need and which I can afford to give. When my cousin was going through a bad time I took to hiding things around her flat when she wasn't in the room so she didn't find them until I had gone home!