Custody release?

confused1305

thank you - even if he had to undergo an MHA do you think he could still be out today?

Seanymph

It would depend upon the findings wouldn't it.

Cherry_Bomb

confused1305 wrote: »

thank you - even if he had to undergo an MHA do you think he could still be out today?

It depends. If the Dr is happy with the outcome of the informal assessment then he's fit to release so could be out anytime. If he or she's not happy then it would go to a Formal assessment which involves an approved social worker and another Dr. That can lead down the sectioning route but I wouldn't worry about that just yet. Give it until later on this afternoon or early evening.

flutterby_lil

I don't understand why you'd ring police but then not want to follow through with it, surely that sends a message that he can do it to you but then nothing will come of it. There are too many perpetrators of domestic violence who get away with it time and time again.

I have been there, worn the t shirt and done something about it, so know what it is like. My ex is currently in prison now!

Errata

confused1305 wrote: »

He has bi-polar type 1 and sociopathic tendancies, he is currently being assessed for early-onset dementia as well. He was probably drunk when he was picked up - or at the very least 'tipsy'
Have just phoned them to say I'll come round with his medication and can they make sure that he has taken it.
Thanks guys

No they can't 'make sure he takes it' They can offer it to him but it's his choice to take it or not. As he apparently hasn't been taking his medication, he may not.

Mupette

flutterby_lil wrote: »

I don't understand why you'd ring police but then not want to follow through with it, surely that sends a message that he can do it to you but then nothing will come of it. There are too many perpetrators of domestic violence who get away with it time and time again.

I have been there, worn the t shirt and done something about it, so know what it is like. My ex is currently in prison now!

Then you'll also know that it's not as simple as that..

someone who is a victim of DV often are brainwashed into thinking that everything is their fault, it can take years for someone to find the strength do actually do something.

I should know took me years of being a victim myself..

so here we have you and me both were victims, both dealt with it differently, shows that people do things their own way, Just because you worn the t-shirt etc etc, you have a better understanding.

confused1305

If he hasn't been taken it it will be because he has forgotten, if someone puts it in front of him he will have it. Sorry I didn't make that clear. I wouldn't say that getting the police involved is sending a message that it's ok to do it and nothing will happen because something did happen. I do not know what will happen in the future, I want to figure that out when I see him because while he does not have an excuse he does have a reason and if he is willing to do something to change, then I would be quite happy to help him with that change. Although I may feel differently once I see him.
Anyway, have given them his meds and they have said they will get them to him but can't tell me anything else due to data protection!
Thanks for all your help.

TonyMMM

confused1305 wrote: »

I do not want him to be charged - there is no evidence really - apart from my statement

In Domestic Violence cases these days, whether you want to charge or not isn't really the issue. The police will charge anyway if they think it appropriate.

fluffnutter

confused1305 wrote: »

He wouldn't be sectioned but likewise I do not want him to be charged - there is no evidence really - apart from my statement, there are no marks on my body as he did not hit me hard. I would like to work through it with him and go to counselling together and give it a bit of a shot... I know that sounds completely stupid though!

Yes, it does. I know you don't want to be judged but you're coming out with every abused woman's cliche in the book.

Don't press charges if you don't want to. That's up to you. But it's crazy to think you shouldn't simply because there's no evidence. It's up to the CPS to determine whether evidence exists or not, not you. TBH, you're just making it easy for him.

And letting him use you as a punchbag? And then saying 'it's ok because he didn't hit me hard'. More fool you.

I want to be sympathetic, I really do. I have utmost support for people who are in violent relationships. But you need to open your eyes, love.

flutterby_lil

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yes, it does. I know you don't want to be judged but you're coming out with every abused woman's cliche in the book.

Don't press charges if you don't want to. That's up to you. But it's crazy to think you shouldn't simply because there's no evidence. It's up to the CPS to determine whether evidence exists or not, not you. TBH, you're just making it easy for him.

And letting him use you as a punchbag? And then saying 'it's ok because he didn't hit me hard'. More fool you.

I want to be sympathetic, I really do. I have utmost support for people who are in violent relationships. But you need to open your eyes, love.

I agree. Your making excuses for him.