MSE Pregnancy Club 24

emsbet

lisa26 wrote: »

I have the opposite problem, i struggle to get my DH to eat enough, and he's very skinny so needs to eat as much as possible. Although he never puts any weight on anyway, even if he eats loads. He's 6' tall and never weighs more than 10 stone!!

This sounds like my DH. This is the first relationship I've been in where I've not been the "skinny" one. It took me ages to get used to that For my DH eating is just an annoying necessity.

xx

lovecrafting

my DH could eat and eat ll day and still want a full meal at night i even took to deviding treat money and gving him a set amount of money to spend on treats but i felt like a controll freak and promptly gave up he will think nothing of eating a multipack of chrisps in a day or so. its always at night when he is online or bored.

ginvzt

Glad to hear I am not alone with OH eating. I have never been very skinny, but my weight was more or less stable before we met, once we moved in together, I quickly started piling up weigh, to the point, that by the time we got married 4.5 years later, I was 20kg heavier!!!!! I love food myself, and find it hard to just sit there at the dinner table to watch him eat extra portion of what we cooked (we used to cook dinner, make more so it would be lunch, however, that rarely stays for lunch). I managed to stop 'growing' the following winter, when we came from our honeymoon in New Zealand, and even thought I was ill most of the time there, the scales where dangerously close to 90kg (by a couple hundred grams!!!). I got it down to 75kg this summer, and gained some back when we started IVF, as I simply stopped running and I was not feeling too well, but now with this pregnancy it seems he thinks I shouldn't be putting any weight on, and even when I show him the information how much extra blood etc. I am carrying, he thinks that the weight basically shouldn't be growing much at all.

Sorry, got off again. I am becoming like his mum - don't know when to stop. It is getting scary, I don't want to be like her - I don't like her!!!!!!

I may have hurt him, but during our class at Surestart centre this week, they were talking that if you are feeling down and things are getting on top of you, you should speak to someone, don't keep it in you. And i said to him - as long as I don't tell you, I will be fine, as otherwise you will get your mother to come over for god knows how long. Don't think he was pleased, but she is so overbearing and all has to be her way, that if I am already on tenterhooks, it is the last thing I need - to be made to feel like a failure and I am doing things wrong. Because only she can be right.

Dinah93

Hi ladies, I've been awful at keeping up with the thread again as for the third week running I went to my blood pressure check on Tuesday and the midwife sent me back to the ante-natal day assesment unit after my check was at 140/100. I took cookies to bribe the midwifes in there (plus I'm getting to know them quite well and if I give them half the cookies I made DH doesn't feel the need to eat all 18 in one evening). Cookies got me a scan for reassurance and very fast test results, but readings stayed between 140/101 and 170/114 so at 8pm on Tuesday I was admitted so they could monitor what happens throwing nifedipine into the mix as 2g methyldopa apparently really is finally the limit.

Nifedipine made the readings lower for about 6 hours, but also gave me the headache to end all headaches, hot flushes, and I kept waking with a pounding chest and racing pulse as though I'd had a bad dream or was being chased, and I was so anxious I couldn't get back to sleep.

On Wednesday they were ready to discharge me (despite my protestations that a headache so bad I couldn't stand light or movement wasn't a great long term solution), but then my bp swung from 125/92 to 170/112 in the space of an hour and they started panicing.
The consultant changed me to Labetolol, so I'm now on 200mcg Labetolol 2x a day and 500mcg Methyldopa 4x a day, as well as 75mcg aspirin. I swear if I jumped I'd rattle. Labetolol suits me better, no headaches, has brought the bp down to a good place, but I do seem to get sort of hot pulsing in the muscles of my neck and back, and numbness/tingling in my face and arms. Very odd.

Annoyed that the hospital only gave me 7 days supply though, and no repeat prescription. My doctors is closed until Tuesday as they're moving building, and then I have to try to get an appointment with the busiest doctor there the same day (she's fantastic but always fully booked) to get her to read my hospital notes so she will put the tablet on a repeat prescription for me and I can get it filled by Wednesday.

I didn't realise you could get pre-e without protein in the urine. Last Sunday I was having really, really bad pains above my bump/bottom of rib cage, didn't think it was gas/indigestion type things but no idea what it was. As I was being discharged last night that's exactly what she was telling me to look out for, and if I get that pain to call the hospital immediately or just come in. I also didn't realise I could get some warning signs, but then they can go away again, so I'll keep a better eye on things from now on.

ginvzt

Dinah, sorry you have all this to go through!!!!! But - they are taking care of you, hope all goes well...

The first coat of paint in the nursery is on, and I quite like it! I also changed the light switch to a dimmer last night, so things are moving along. I know what furniture I want (two cots, one bought already, one still to buy on ebay, changing table to be ordered from mothercare, wardrobe from Ikea, a glider chair - ebay or maybe Boots with points I have), but I am struggling to imagine curtains/blinds in that room! It is not helped, that none of the standard nursery curtains will be fine, as the window is huge (about 220cm!!!).

Re glider chairs - has anyone got one? If so, what brand is it? I am a bit weary of buying it unseen, I would like to be able to sit on it before parting with my money, but the ones I saw in the shops are ridiculously expensive (think few hundred pounds!!!!)

Darkphaery

ginvzt wrote: »

A question: when you ladies sent your letters to HR informing them of your maternity leave and giving them MAT B1 certificate, how long did you have to wait for them to reply? I have sent mine last week, I think Monday, so it hasn't been long, but I haven't heard a peep from HR yet, not even an email saying that we have received your letter.

It took my HR department nearly 8 weeks to send me the "official" letter. They never even acknowledged that i had sent in the form or anything before that, i thought it would have been nice to drop me an email to say they had received it and were processing it but nope

ginvzt

8 weeks!!!! Sounds like my HR then. I am finishing work in 4 weeks, taking all my annual leave, and the maternity leave officially starts on May 14th, when I am 36 weeks. So, I guess they think they have plenty of time. Did it tell you what your maternity pay is going to be month by month or anything?

dizziblonde

ginvzt wrote: »

Re glider chairs - has anyone got one? If so, what brand is it? I am a bit weary of buying it unseen, I would like to be able to sit on it before parting with my money, but the ones I saw in the shops are ridiculously expensive (think few hundred pounds!!!!)

The nursery chair we've got is the kiddicoture one from Kiddicare http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_165_10751_-1_14692_100835_10001_14053 (excuse the bimbo sat on it in that picture)... we were going to just go get one of those Ikea cheapie Poang ones for in there, but went to the actual showroom to testdrive buggies mainly, and everyone walking by those chairs and sitting in them was making comments like "sod the Ikea one - we're getting this"... was actually hubby who insisted we had to get it as it's so comfy - think he's got designs on it as a TV watching one in years to come! When you add in the cost of the cushions and footstool it worked out about the same as the Ikea ones anyway.

As for nursery curtains - we've just put the same ones back up that were in the room originally (plain cream) but I had some funky ribbon from a Lush parcel someone had bought me that I've cut in half to make tiebacks to snazz them up (if I get motivated I'll actually sew the ribbon onto the curtains but I doubt that's realistically going to happen). Put blinds up in there as well (obviously with the cords cut to ridiculously short levels for safety) which I'll actually use rather than the curtains since none of the curtain poles in this house aren't utter pains in the rear to pull curtains along (and the walls are so awful to drill into that replacing them's not a faff I can be bothered with... joys of a 1920s house).

Tooth seems better - had another disturbed night from her ladyship deciding to do some interior remodelling on my innards but at least got some sleep which is progress! Currently washing the latest batch of cardigans and hats my mum's been knitting for me - this kid's going to have so many hand knitted cardies it's nuts! MIL knitted one, concluded she hated knitting and gave up - my mum's like a demon with knitting needles!

Need to get through to B+M when I next have the car - they have some bubble small mirror tiles I want to put on the cupboard doors in the nursery, then toying with mirroring the bubbles with applique silk on the plain curtains and painting some bubbles in the colours I used on the shelves onto the cupboard doors as well - basically trying to snazz up a fitted cupboard a bit... think in years to come I'm going to actually paint the cupboard doors in blackboard paint.

Triangle

Hi all

I'd like to properly join in this thread now please - reached 24 weeks today :j I'm on the list but need to add boy flavour - please can someone do this for me? Thank you

I'm currently signed off work with SPD, have been very unhappy but trying to pull myself up now (and promise I'll try not to moan too much!)

Looking forward to chatting to you all

T
xxx

ginvzt

dizziblonde wrote: »

The nursery chair we've got is the kiddicoture one from Kiddicare http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplayA_165_10751_-1_14692_100835_10001_14053 (excuse the bimbo sat on it in that picture)... we were going to just go get one of those Ikea cheapie Poang ones for in there, but went to the actual showroom to testdrive buggies mainly, and everyone walking by those chairs and sitting in them was making comments like "sod the Ikea one - we're getting this"... was actually hubby who insisted we had to get it as it's so comfy - think he's got designs on it as a TV watching one in years to come! When you add in the cost of the cushions and footstool it worked out about the same as the Ikea ones anyway.

As for nursery curtains - we've just put the same ones back up that were in the room originally (plain cream) but I had some funky ribbon from a Lush parcel someone had bought me that I've cut in half to make tiebacks to snazz them up (if I get motivated I'll actually sew the ribbon onto the curtains but I doubt that's realistically going to happen). Put blinds up in there as well (obviously with the cords cut to ridiculously short levels for safety) which I'll actually use rather than the curtains since none of the curtain poles in this house aren't utter pains in the rear to pull curtains along (and the walls are so awful to drill into that replacing them's not a faff I can be bothered with... joys of a 1920s house).

Tooth seems better - had another disturbed night from her ladyship deciding to do some interior remodelling on my innards but at least got some sleep which is progress! Currently washing the latest batch of cardigans and hats my mum's been knitting for me - this kid's going to have so many hand knitted cardies it's nuts! MIL knitted one, concluded she hated knitting and gave up - my mum's like a demon with knitting needles!

Need to get through to B+M when I next have the car - they have some bubble small mirror tiles I want to put on the cupboard doors in the nursery, then toying with mirroring the bubbles with applique silk on the plain curtains and painting some bubbles in the colours I used on the shelves onto the cupboard doors as well - basically trying to snazz up a fitted cupboard a bit... think in years to come I'm going to actually paint the cupboard doors in blackboard paint.

Glad to hear your tooth is better!

Thanks for the chair!!! We do have a Poang one, but I find it that it is too much back for me, I have laying in there, can't imagine feeding babies in that position. Maybe they are different now, we bought ours about 5 years ago. I have some cream material for curtains we bought in Holland in 2010, when I was there with work (ridiculously cheap - it was something like 3 euros for running meter, and 3 metres wide, I think we got something like 6 metres (too long ago to remember, will have to take it out and measure) thinking to use it in the living room but then just went with overlap blinds and didn't bother with curtains, as they would not get drawn anyway. I would probably have plenty of material left, so could make some cushions with that... We put a Roman blackout blind in another room, but getting one in over 220cm is going to be a bit of a struggle, as B&Q, Dunelm and similar I think stop at 180cm.