MSE Pregnancy Club 24

lisa26_2

I hate pancakes! I don't know why but I've never liked them. The only type I like are the minced beef crispy pancakes and I'm not sure they count! We're at MIL's for tea tonight, i know she's doing curry but I really hope she doesn't do pancakes for pudding, although if she does that's fine as I just won't eat them!

emmylou83_2

Lisa as a kid i hated pancakes other than the Findus minced beef and onion ones! And i loved them So yeh, i`m saying they count ahaha!! Tbh, i still prefer them now!

Lovecrafting, the microwave ones are really nice! And so much easier

2 school runs done...1 to go. And its pain tonight as DD2 is at Maths club til 3.30 and DD1 is at netball til 4 so 30 mins hanging around in the cold with a 3 yr old is always fun

happydays77_2

Well I've spent the morning being a lazy mare in bed but now have to get up. Was up for a couple of hours at 6am when I had to get/drag/bribe my DS to get up for school. Waved him off at 7am and then took to bed like a true professional. My hip is very painful today and walking round is just ridiculous. I actually think I'm falling apart!!!

ladylegs

I feel your pain HappyDays:( I've only been out over an hour to the supermarket and the park with DD and I started limping on my return and to really rub it in, a 70-ish old woman overtook me and the buggy.:o Pathetic!


I've got pancake mix too but batter doesn't really do it for me - doesn't stop me wolfing them down anyway.

dizziblonde

I'm going to vent and I'm going to rant and I'm probably going to upset someone but blooming hell I am sick to death of selfish stupid pregnant women right now. They're sat bickering and whining about the fact one born every minute is daring to show a couple who've had a previous stillbirth and how utterly disgusting and inconsiderate it is and how it might upset someone if they mention that this couple have had a previous loss waah waaah waaah.

It is bloody sickening the bickering and complaining that goes on on this other site about how inconsiderate women are to miscarry and have stillbirths and have to cope with all of that - and the endless posts about how it's "ruining my pregnancy that I've got to read about this or worry about the woman at work's feelings"... like we just want them to lock those nasty unlucky women away in asylums or something so that they don't get in the way.

So bloody angry right now. I refuse to be nature's little taboo secret - it's wrong that selfish witches think they can demand this from bereaved women.

emmylou83_2

Why on earth do people feel it ruins their pregnancy by having to think about other peoples feelings?! Jeez, I feel guilty that i`ve got 3 healthy children at the best of times, and know how inbelievably lucky i am to be having a 4th. I`m sure those that have lost babies dont feel resentment towards someone that is having a baby? Its not like its that persons fault. Fair enough dont rub it in their faces, but no need to hide it/keep quiet surely! Its part of life (unforunately) and think it should be shown on tv, if only to maybe give hope to those that have lost a baby that it most prob wouldnt happen again. At the end of the day, its tv, if they dont like it, switch the tv off..... Hope ur ok anyway Dizzi xx

dizziblonde

emmylou83 wrote: »

Why on earth do people feel it ruins their pregnancy by having to think about other peoples feelings?! Jeez, I feel guilty that i`ve got 3 healthy children at the best of times, and know how inbelievably lucky i am to be having a 4th. I`m sure those that have lost babies dont feel resentment towards someone that is having a baby? Its not like its that persons fault.

I'll admit that at my lowest (we had a long trek to get here - years of infertility followed by a run of losses) I DID silently think about pregnancy-related vaginal piles to help me get past pregnant women in the street - always silently, any tears were only ever done in the toilets and I'd strategically need the loo if anyone popped into work with their new arrival... but I get really annoyed that apparently it's fair game to have utter utterly nasty goes at women who've had losses if you're pregnant - while they're the same women discreetly crying in the bogs when they're having a rough day.

It's one reason I'm adamant I won't sit and complain about the pain I'm in and try to see the funny side of it all (had the physio in stitches laughing yesterday) - because I know just how badly couples fight to GET to where we are... yes I feel like crap, tired, everywhere aches, my fanjo feels like it's lost a boxing match with Mike Tyson, I've got so many bits of elastic holding my lady bits together when I sit down I fear they're all going to ping off like Barbara Windsor's bra in that Carry On film and I don't walk - I do a high speed mince - but it's still somewhere a hell of a lot of couples would kill to be and I count my blessings (although if the blessing would like to remove her foot from my rib cage I'd be grateful)!

Baby's movements have gone odd since I got all this SPD strapping on though - I feel distinctly like I'm getting kicked under my armpit and she's furtling around in my cervix again yet has completely abandoned my left side completely... I can't quite work out the anatomy of what's going on there apart from concluding I'm in fact pregnant with a one-sided octopus.

emmylou83_2

Lol Dizzi, I think alot of women (including me!) think its kinda a given right to be able to whinge and complain when ur pregnant! Because at no other point in life can u get away with such demands as a 3am "i want ice cream" call Try not to let it upset u too much, ur baby girl needs u to be happy and not stressed! I know its easier said than done, and i cant say i know how u feel or can even imagine for a second what u`ve been thru. Just dont let other peoples stupidity spoil this experience for u hun. Enjoy every second, coz b4 u know it she`ll be out and u`ll be wishing she was still in there kicking away Sorry if i`d rambled and just made u feel worse xx

emmylou83_2

Oh and baby is most prob facing her back to ur left side if u have nothing over there lol, she`ll soon swing round and u`ll feel her lumpy wriggly bits somewhere else!! I`m only just learning what lump could be what on baby number 4 x

snoopytweety

Ahhhh Dizzi - I am with you, and as a fellow person of years of suffering before I finally got to this stage I can safely say I have sat on both sides!!

I think it is so so so important to get those stories out there so that women like us who only a few months earlier would have been able to see that it sometimes does have a happy ending. And I am certainly a stronger person for it!

On the flip side and whilst we are having a moan I have 2 gripes.

One of the poor ladies at work had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, I was devastated for her, and she told me about it personally and I asked her if there was anything I could do at work to help her get through it etc, she was fine and said she liked to hear how my baby was doing, and not to change a thing, we get on really well, and I was sensitive about it after as you would be and she was coping well, until in the middle of the office one of the resident busy bodies decided to tell me to "shut up" talking about my baby as it was clearly upsetting this other lady and I should know better as the HR Manager. Well - it was the lady who had miscarried that started the conversation (whilst busy body was out of the room) and it almost tore her apart, until that point there were very few people in the office that knew about it, and now she felt awful that everyone knew and would feel sorry for her - she was just trying to carry on as normal. Needless to say busy body is in bad books for sticking her large nose into a situation that was actually ok. Grrr at her.

Then much like you Dizzi, I am reluctant to ever moan about anything pregnancy related as I feel so so so lucky to be where I am - but also agree I would like the little mare to remove her feet from my rib cage at any point she feels ready to!!! But when people ask you how you are, I always say "good" or "really enjoying it", unless they probe further to which I will talk to people about how it has really gone - the diabetes, the aches etc etc, but it is NEVER a moan, because I don't care about all of that - I just want the lovely outcome as soon as possible. What gets my goat is when they then lecture me about the fact that I should be grateful and stop moaning - I was not! Never Have! Back off!!

Ok - I'll crawl back under my stone now lol x x