MSE Pregnancy Club 24

Maddie

I agree Kitten_Pie; it's perfectly logical for you to feel anxious and to look for bad signs everywhere. I'm sure you know yourself that this means nothing of the sort, but was just another difficult experience for the two of you.

emsbet

((hugs)) kitten, sorry you had a rubbish time trying to buy things. I know it's difficult to not see signs in things, I'm terrible for doing the same, but it's not a sign it's just toys r us being really crap. Big squeezes for you and OH.

xx

LittleMoog

Evening all

Kitten, that's rubbish about ToysRUs, hope you're not still too upset When we ordered our shed from Homebase the checkout woman assured us that it was flatpacked so would fit in our car (3 door Focus) When it arrived it was flat, but consisted of the 4 sides of a shed plus 2 roof panels, so there was no way it would fit in a regular car! :rotfl: After a load of hassle arranging delivery we eventually managed to assemble the shed we ordered in September in mid December, but had to abandon halfway through as it started to snow. Not my happiest day ever!

Have had a really good day today, got to Ikea to get our new bedroom furniture, they finally had all the separate parts of the wardrobe in stock. We've been trying to buy it since January Dropped it all off at home and then went for a pub lunch with friends, just back now.

Good mood soured though, as one of my relatives has sent me a message telling me that I need to make up with my Dad before the baby arrives as I'll be transmitting my "bitterness" to my unborn child :mad: (Brief history, my Mum died when I was 16, my Dad then went totally off the rails with alcoholism, and became very emotionally abusive. He lost several jobs and I ended up trying to run the house and keep my younger brother in school. When I was 18 he gave up completely and social services stepped in. I went to live with my Dad's brother and my brother to live with Dad's sister. I no longer speak to him as he's manipulative, unpleasant and incredibly self obsessed and I don't need his influence in my life. My aunt and uncle and their daughters are now what I'd call my immediate family.)
I know she means well, but no one on my Mum's side ever discusses anything unpleasant, so no one's ever heard my side or why I've chosen to cut him out of my life. They've only had his version, which is probably only 20% true and that part chosen to make him appear badly done by. So to get this email saying that I'm harming my child by not making contact with him has really upset me. I'm currently trying to write a response to make clear that I have no intention of having him in my life, or ever exposing my child to him without appearing "bitter", as I feel that I've largely moved on and I'm not actually angry with him any more, just sad. Doesn't mean I have any intention of trying to mend our relationship though, as I don't want him in my life and I don't see why a blood relationship entitles him to more than I would give a non-relative who treated me in the same way.

silly_moo

Wow you sure do write a lot. I was away for a weekend 3 weeks ago and it took me all this time to catch up! Next week is my last week at work so you'll probably see more of me on the forum - for now I mostly read and don't write.

Thanks to whoever posted the nursery stickers - they look cute and I may go for them as well. I was looking at Fisher Price ones but the reviews say they tend to peel off after a few months so was reluctant to buy them.

Our baby was having a lazy Sunday and hardly kicked all day so we ended up in labour ward late in the evening strapped to a monitor. Had to go back on Monday and having a scan tomorrow to make sure all is fine. MWs said all looks good and the scan is just a routine follow up procedure. The MWs were absolutely nice and lovely - I hope all of them are like that in my hospital.

As far as bedding is concerned - we bought 2 mattress protectors, 4 fitted sheets (white and yellow), one sleeping bag 2.5tog and a couple of blankets. Will probably buy another blanket just in case the other two get puked on.

And a question to those who will be using reusable nappies. I worked out that it's not any cheaper than using disposables but possibly I am missing something. I think I'd need at least 30 nappies to start with and 10 wraps, so that's about £400. However, looking at rating on the Nappy Lady website re drying time, containment and absorbency, I like Mothearese Wizard Duo most - they are sized so I'd probably need to buy small and then medium size - ca £700-£800 and that's excluding boosters. So where's the saving?

Labour vibes to those who want them and congrats to all new mummies!

LittleMoog

We've gone for a one-sized set of nappies, which should do us up til toilet training. We chose pocket nappies, to speed up drying time as we have no tumble drier. Our whole set came to about £240, and included all the accessories (bucket, wet bag etc). We got 15 daytime and 2 nighttime nappies, so we may end up buying another 5 or so nappies for daytime and 1/2 more for nighttime depending how we get on.

Sized nappies do work out more, although you need fewer in the larger sizes as they wear less nappies per day than when they're tiny. I think the set you're looking at seem very expensive, 20 nappies would probably be enough I think, from what I've read?
A lot of the value comes in being able to reuse for a second child, but I'm still expecting to save a fair amount on nappies for number 1!

savageHK

silly_moo wrote: »

And a question to those who will be using reusable nappies. I worked out that it's not any cheaper than using disposables but possibly I am missing something. I think I'd need at least 30 nappies to start with and 10 wraps, so that's about £400. However, looking at rating on the Nappy Lady website re drying time, containment and absorbency, I like Mothearese Wizard Duo most - they are sized so I'd probably need to buy small and then medium size - ca £700-£800 and that's excluding boosters. So where's the saving?

I'm not doing the reusable nappies for moneysaving but for the environmental impact. But, one thing you haven't taken into account is possible resale value of the nappies (which may or may not be much, I've not been keeping an eye on eBay for those).

I've just bought the intro offer from Little Lambs (thanks Ikkle...) and for £135 got 20 nappies and 4 wraps, some laundry liquid and two nappy bags - and I think that includes the boosters. They are also sized, so will need more later on but as you use them for less time they hold up better for resale/reuse on a later child. I will probably need more nappies and wraps but would like to see how I get on with these first before buying more.

silly_moo

Thanks SavageHK and LittleMoog.

I was thinking of washing the nappies every 2nd day so at any given point I'd need 3 days worth of nappies plus a few extra to allow for different drying times. That's how I came up with 30. Per Nappy Lady one wrap can do ca 4 changes, so I'd probably need 2 wraps a day. But you are right I would need fewer of the larger nappies, I never thought about that.


I do know that you can resell nappies on Ebay but I never sold anything on Ebay in my life and don't know how to go about it. I know it's meant to be simple - I think I'm just too lazy to find out about it!

savageHK

silly_moo wrote: »

I was thinking of washing the nappies every 2nd day so at any given point I'd need 3 days worth of nappies plus a few extra to allow for different drying times.

Hmmm you've got me thinking now. It seems most 'kits' come with 15 nappies which would seem to be just shy of two days' worth. Little Lambs' 'birth to potty' kit (so 2 sizes of nappies) is 40 nappies + 12 wraps.

How many nappies make up a load? I think I'd rather do 1 load a day, if it was full, than 2 every 2nd day. And then of course there's the drying time as well (although we do have a dryer if needed).

LittleMoog

I'm expecting to do one load every other day, but our nappies are very slim fitting and quick drying. We have 15 to start, but are planning to buy more once we see how we get on with them so will supplement with disposables if necessary while we get started. 1 bucket/wash bag full = 1 load, so will see how quickly it fills up and put it on whenever it looks full!

edit: I'm going to give them all a wash next time I get a sunny weekend day, so I'll let you know how many I can fit in the wash then!

mysk_girl

savageHK wrote: »

Hmmm you've got me thinking now. It seems most 'kits' come with 15 nappies which would seem to be just shy of two days' worth. Little Lambs' 'birth to potty' kit (so 2 sizes of nappies) is 40 nappies + 12 wraps.

How many nappies make up a load? I think I'd rather do 1 load a day, if it was full, than 2 every 2nd day. And then of course there's the drying time as well (although we do have a dryer if needed).

I have the Little Lambs birth to potty pack, I don't have a child in nappies at the moment, but I used to wash 10-12 at a time, every other day. But I did use disposables overnight...