Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

misskool

nhs direct will call me back but n improvement today. max ibuprofen not kicking in (800mg this morning)

going to miss bootcamp tomorrow

lostinrates

lostinrates wrote: »

Just want to say, i would be really careful with straighteners and dd's hair. I don't care how good they are i think some damage is caused and also...it can be the start of a self critical thing huge in girls of all colours with curly hair, and Hugely dispproportiately present in black and mixed race girls, as is hairdressing bills. I am sure your girls know they are gorgeous though.

Edit: I am sure you or dw would not mean to make the dd's seld conscious, but straiteners is often how it starts, then strainening, and a lot off cooing over how great the hair looks straight. Its very difficult.

Fwiw, no straighters have ever straighted mine, very occasionally i blow it out straight ( far more effective, a black woman taught me how, different for traditionally wavy or quite curly hair to really curly) or even, rollers, old fashioned sort of shampoo and set for hair that is curly but not very curly.


The problem with straight hair is that one is tempted to brush it, which is so very, very bad for our hair.

Buy dw curly girl instead michaels. Cheaper, all about protecting our natural hair and making it look better rather tyhan fighting us to make us fit in with tradtionally 'white and western' ideals. Girls will experiment, bit help them put it off as long as possible.

Quoting myself, always a bad sign.

Relaised it sounded like i havye never tried to straighten with straighteners, i have, they do not work on my hair, its too determined.

I still caution against it, certainly pree teen, and early teen, personally.

I don't thing the world is so hostile now, but when i returned to uk with curly hair and skin nopt far off the colour of your kids from baking naked most of my life under the sun, brits were always trying to straighten my hair. Its the start of such negative self image.

We do not know where my hair came from, my guess is some ancestor got jiggy with a native somewhere colonial and it resurfaced in me.

lostinrates

Hamish, go somewhere warm and sunny.

I am off to see what scraps of wood i can find that are dry. We have some chairs we can cut up. We need heat more than we need slightly broken chairs.

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

vivatifosi wrote: »

Lisbon with a trip to Sintra.
Nice, Eze and Monte Carlo
Portofino and the N Italy coast
Florence

Well done Viva. :T

Some good ideas there.

Boston
New York
Washington

The last three only if you are willing to fly Club. Going there economy for 7 hours not romantic.

No chance.

Rather spend the money and time doing something nice a bit closer to home.

And you're right, 7 hours in economy with a 6'4" Scotsman complaining about the lack of legroom in the next seat is about as far from romantic as you can get.

PasturesNew

misskool wrote: »

going to miss bootcamp tomorrow

That's probably how you got it

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

Well, I was struggling for words when I used that. But it's small stuff and quite a few instances.... things like misreading words completely and forgetting I put the kettle on (many times now). I never used to make mistakes in reading words .... but lately my brain's not processed them properly. It's like seeing a whole sentence and misreading one word, so that the entire subject matter of something is twisted.... which is annoying and worrying as everything I do relies on precision .... I depend on what I think I see.

Forgetting where you put the car keys is a nuisance. Finding the car keys in the fridge is a concern.

GDB2222

PasturesNew wrote: »

That's probably how you got it

It is like the Emperor's new clothes. Nobody dared to mention boot camp, although I am sure that everybody was thinking the same as you. (Well, I was.)

My GP is in favour of people taking exercise but dead against people going to the gym. He reckons that they cause themselves lots of damage, which in the long run limits how much exercise they can do.

silvercar

GDB2222 wrote: »

It is like the Emperor's new clothes. Nobody dared to mention boot camp, although I am sure that everybody was thinking the same as you. (Well, I was.)

My GP is in favour of people taking exercise but dead against people going to the gym. He reckons that they cause themselves lots of damage, which in the long run limits how much exercise they can do.

I like your GP!

silvercar

Hamish, I'd say direct flights are a must if you only have a weekend.

For romance I would choose Paris. Here is a hotel that we once went to:

http://www.hotel-design-secret-de-paris.com/eng/

HAMISH_MCTAVISH

silvercar wrote: »

Finding the car keys in the fridge is a concern.

I've done that.:o

Don't know if you've seen the ad on TV where the busy mother is on the phone and gives the dog a bowl of babyfood and the baby a bowl of dogfood by mistake....

We find it rather funny, as it's the sort of thing we'd both do.

Which is one of the main reasons we have neither a dog nor a baby.