Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

zagubov

silvercar wrote: »

Much hilarity from the kids as we went to a gig last night. A friend rejuvenated his rock band from his student days. He really should have left it there.

They weren't called "Crème Brûlee" were they, not that I'm suggesting you live in Royston Vasey or anything.:D

lostinrates

Well, at aout five this afternoon my legs went and my back gave way, so an early end to the weekend for me! I am very hopeful that a warm bath and a good massage from dh will get my nerves firing and i will be up tomorrow.

Its amazing how much warming up has motivated me and got me wanting to be busier.

silvercar

Interested in other NPs views.

I've always been against employing tutors. Mainly because I think the students don't make so much effort to understand the subject themselves because they rely on the tutor explaining it to them and they know the tutor can explain any school work they don't understand. Whereas with no tutor in the background, they really try to understand things for themselves. Plus OH and I can really offer some help in most subjects between us, so there is some support available.

So we've only ever used a tutor for a few lessons for each of them for secondary school entrance exams.

Youngest wants a tutor for one subject, he says the class is too big in school and the boys mess around. He has found a tutor and sorted out availability etc. Now that he needs an A in the subject for his chosen uni, it seems mean to say no, and possibly not give him that extra boost he needs.

sss555s

He sounds like he's wanting a tutor for the right reasons...

I say go for it :beer:

misskool

silvercar wrote: »

Youngest wants a tutor for one subject, he says the class is too big in school and the boys mess around. He has found a tutor and sorted out availability etc. Now that he needs an A in the subject for his chosen uni, it seems mean to say no, and possibly not give him that extra boost he needs.

Well, he wants to do it and wants to do it for the right reason. He could give up pocket money/chores if you don't feel it's necessary (ie he could pay for it himself).

I had a few tutors and have taught a few students, nothing really beats one-to-one teaching

lostinrates

Its not what you believe is usually right, but it is what he thinks is right for him now. If you are not right you cost him confidence and ability i.e. you decision effects someone elsesp's life, if he is not he has made a choice for his own life....though of course, you will never know what outcome would be other choice made.

If its an ethical decision on paid for extra tuition, raher than extra tuition then perhaps you can allow it as part of a gift, so its his money his choice but with you not standing in his way.

Doozergirl

Silvercar, If it's his request then I don't see why not.

I don't think children should be tutored for things like the 11+ if theupshot is that they end up at the wrong school for their actual ability.

It sounds the opposit to that - DS isn't getting value
from the teaching he receives in that subject, as it's arguably substandard teaching he's getting. He's asking you to help supplement that and it's Highly commendable of him, afaic. Answer is yes, from me.

GDB2222

vivatifosi wrote: »

A quick NP poll for those of you in on a Saturday night. Subject: popular culture.

The Voice, Britain's Got Talent, both or neither?

I have only heard of one of those shows and never knowingly watched either. Apparently, there was somebody on called Jonathan recently, who caused quite a stir, at least enough to get on the news.

zagubov

Go for it as regarding the tutor. Makes a big difference to some (maybe not all).

11+ tuiton is a huge industry in the last borough we lived in (which had grammar schools)

silvercar

doozergirl wrote:

I don't think children should be tutored for things like the 11+ if theupshot is that they end up at the wrong school for their actual ability

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I thought that, then when you realise everyone else is tutoring, you realise you could miss out on a place just because you are the only one not tutoring.