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grumpys1daughter wrote: »

Fudge thanks again you are a real :A it really means a whole lot when someone takes the time to ask how you are and lifts your spirit you are a star xx

Thank you! and goodnight, sleep tight xxx

Sleepy time for me too xxx

CookieRaider

:beer::beer:Nite all

Westvleteren

Good morning

-6 here and just about to go and walk the dogs by moonlight :cool:

debsjc

Morning, it was a lovely minus 5 in rural Berkshire this morning when I left for work. The forecast is for fog at Heathrow, lets hope that it stays away.

brand8

caz2703 wrote: »

Thank you

I never posted because I've tried so many times recently to hope that things could be fixed and I'd live a fairy tale life. Unfortunately week after week I get more and more disappointed but become more and more realistic that I was only good enough to help raise his other kid and allow him to have a nice lifestyle and provide him with more kids that he can 'play daddy' with when it suits. It hurts like you wouldn't believe to know that his other kid means more than his sons. I love those boys so much and it breaks my heart that he's allow to play happy familes each weekend, tearing me and the boys apart from eachother and all the while the boys are too young to understand what is happening. In future years if asked, I won't lie to them about why we split. I couldn't continue being married to someone who gave his ex extra money behind my back, someone who when questioned by his ex about the new (2nd hand) car we were getting changed his mind and went for a cheapie so his ex couldn't complain that we were getting a car and not giving her extras. Someone who complained that I bought our son a £20 cot instead of using one that had been lying out in the garage for months. Someone who gave off because I bought some juice for DS1 and didn't get anything for his kid (who wasn't even there at the time). Yes, it really was that pathetic.

I've not had a penny from him since we split although he is at least paying the mortgage - well this is what happens when it's just his name on the mortgage and he was escorted off the premises by the local plod.

So there we have it for those who like to make fun of me and my situation. Wanna swap?

I really feel for you caz i know just what you are going through i was in the same situation a few years ago. My ds father only sees him when he wants he hasent paid for him or given me anything for over a year, and hasent seen him for 9 months. But last week he phoned and asked to see him i couldnt believe his cheek, but i let him see him and i dont bad mouth to my son about him. The reason is he shoots himself in the foot all the time, and the older my son gets the more he realises what a waste of space he is. So i can just sit back and be there for my son when he has been let down again, but one day my son will not take his antics no more then he will lose out and i won be the bad guy to my son.By the way i have a really really good dh now who will do anything for my ds and pays for everything he needs and plays and takes him anywhere he wants so there are some good guys out there, things will look up for you you just have to ride the bad times there is always light at the end of the tunnel sending hugs to you.

brand8

3Dogs wrote: »

Been catching up on here as I watched tv so took longer than normal, but happy to report from my trip to March Mr T

Ben 10 figures 17p
Dr Who figures in bubble pack - 40p
Gormiti Starter pack - 20p
Medium sized bouncy glitter balls - 36p
Tent pegs - 62p
Selection of girls headbands, flower slides, ponybands, etc - 50p each

Not much on the reduced counter but got cous cous for 16p, 2 x packs of pastrami 40p each, and tomato salad 28p. Then the SA reduced sliced beef heart (for doggies) to 38p, and lamb joint (original price £8) to £1.60 so was a happy chappess, plus got chopped onions for 5p, ripe papaya 15p, 3 x passion fruit 10p from fruit & veg reduced shelf

I only went for mullerlights ...... oh and I got a 6 pack of those reduced to £1.15 too

The extending lead for small dogs I got last week for £1 were labelled up at £6 now, so I got one to check price, but forgot to scan it, and it went through the till at £9.99 :eek: Got to return for DTD tomorrow 2 x £3.99 = £7.98 DTD so will cost £1.02 which is a good price for a spare lead

BUT for the first time in at least 2 months, I got a till slip. It was on my second lot of shopping which cost £9.73 and was for £6 when you spend £40. I have been 'resting' my main clubcard but used it for my first shop, for £40+, hoping for a CS, but, as I say, it was my second shop, with the clubcard I have been using for the last 2 months which resulting in the CS

Do you have the last digits of the barcodes for the ben 10 and doctor who pls 3 dogs

never_too_old

caz2703 wrote: »

Thank you

I never posted because I've tried so many times recently to hope that things could be fixed and I'd live a fairy tale life. Unfortunately week after week I get more and more disappointed but become more and more realistic that I was only good enough to help raise his other kid and allow him to have a nice lifestyle and provide him with more kids that he can 'play daddy' with when it suits. It hurts like you wouldn't believe to know that his other kid means more than his sons. I love those boys so much and it breaks my heart that he's allow to play happy familes each weekend, tearing me and the boys apart from eachother and all the while the boys are too young to understand what is happening. In future years if asked, I won't lie to them about why we split. I couldn't continue being married to someone who gave his ex extra money behind my back, someone who when questioned by his ex about the new (2nd hand) car we were getting changed his mind and went for a cheapie so his ex couldn't complain that we were getting a car and not giving her extras. Someone who complained that I bought our son a £20 cot instead of using one that had been lying out in the garage for months. Someone who gave off because I bought some juice for DS1 and didn't get anything for his kid (who wasn't even there at the time). Yes, it really was that pathetic.

I've not had a penny from him since we split although he is at least paying the mortgage - well this is what happens when it's just his name on the mortgage and he was escorted off the premises by the local plod.

So there we have it for those who like to make fun of me and my situation. Wanna swap?

Morning
do these legal people not see logic..... and is your ex so insensitive that he doesnt want to put a roof over his childrens heads. You may not be on the mortgage but you have put money into the house it makes me mad.
You give them the best gift you ever can give them the gift of children and this is how you are treated.
:eek:

Snap-ant

Hallo you marvellous Elite + ♥

Caz & G1D you are fabulous people & very strong

Horrid cold frosty morning here - but I did put a bag over the Aloe Vera last night so hopefully safe

Working this morning & ironing mountain to tackle later as we're running out of clothes :rotfl:

I put the 9 roman blinds on Freegle - with individual photos & details. Then said please say which ONE you would like to make it fair.
Responses back - 'I'll take them' :eek: Is it just me but firstly greed comes to mind & secondly where are their manners? :mad:
Haven't responded to them - just deleted calmly

Debating whether to go to Boots but I don't need vitamins - but it is so tempting as it's there

Snap-ant

naked_lady was yesterday's smartest player!

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65 players yesterday :T & lots of good scores It does get easier with practice

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Good Luck 11+ :T

katesmum

brand8 wrote: »

I really feel for you caz i know just what you are going through i was in the same situation a few years ago. My ds father only sees him when he wants he hasent paid for him or given me anything for over a year, and hasent seen him for 9 months. But last week he phoned and asked to see him i couldnt believe his cheek, but i let him see him and i dont bad mouth to my son about him. The reason is he shoots himself in the foot all the time, and the older my son gets the more he realises what a waste of space he is. So i can just sit back and be there for my son when he has been let down again, but one day my son will not take his antics no more then he will lose out and i won be the bad guy to my son.By the way i have a really really good dh now who will do anything for my ds and pays for everything he needs and plays and takes him anywhere he wants so there are some good guys out there, things will look up for you you just have to ride the bad times there is always light at the end of the tunnel sending hugs to you.

I split from my ex when my DD was just 18months. No maintenance until I dragged him through the courts, never turned up for visits, then rang to complain he never saw his daughter. Back to court, changed visiting days, late picking her up, early bringing her back, when she got old enough to talk I found out he took her to his mums, dropped her off, then went out and came back, picked her up and brought her home.
When DD was about 12 she said she didn't want to go anymore, I told her to ring him and tell him (l tried to stay out of it) and after that she went maybe once a month.

When she got to 16 she stopped going altogether.

When she got to 18 she turned round and said she had made enquiries and would like to change her surname to mine, thereby getting rid of her dad full stop, which she did, legally.

She got married last year and when I asked if she wanted to invite her 'dad' she said she didn't think of him as her dad, just a kind of long lost uncle that no one talks about.

You have a long road ahead of you but be true to yourself and your children and things will work out.

I don't know yr financial situation but I started putting the odd £5 away in an envelope (hidden), it soon mounts up and was an invaluable help when times were really desperate...... in fact I still do it now, I am happily remarried but the survivor in me keeps an envelope full of cash hidden away. (my husband knows about it, occasionally if we need money for window cleaner and haven't been to the bank he will ask for some from my 'savings'!! - lol - and he always replaces it.)

Good Luck
Be strong
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