Son being hit at school

doodoot

OK, so having a chat hasn't worked.

So it's back in on Monday, ask for a copy of the bullying policy and contact details for the board of governors.

If you're asked why, tell them it's a private matter - DON'T talk about what's been happening.

Don't get into any discussion at all with anyone...this is so important.

The head will be told that you've asked for the above and she will get twitchy...some headteachers don't like parents who 'interfere' in their little world.

Don't contact the mother on FB, stay away from her as it will only fuel the fire.

Hopefully you making waves at the school will mean that this is nipped in the bud.

Mojisola

zoelouise88 wrote: »

(boys name) wil be so upset if i have a word, he'll be devasted.

This is a very bizarre thing for a teacher to say! We can't follow this up because we might upset X. Isn't your son upset? Isn't he worth even having a talk with the other child?

I can't see you getting any satisfaction from the Headteacher. Be prepared to go much further.

meritaten

you write to the governers detailing what happened and the interview with the head. YOU COPY the letter to the LEA - this is unacceptable!
I would, personally, withdraw my child from school - but that option is of course up to you.
I would however keep him home and write to the head and the governers and the LEA that until they can satisfy me of my childs safety he will NOT be returning and a letter will be sent to Ofsted.

zoelouise88

meritaten wrote: »

you write to the governers detailing what happened and the interview with the head. YOU COPY the letter to the LEA - this is unacceptable!
I would, personally, withdraw my child from school - but that option is of course up to you.
I would however keep him home and write to the head and the governers and the LEA that until they can satisfy me of my childs safety he will NOT be returning and a letter will be sent to Ofsted.

Thanks i think thats what i will do i might wait til the end of next week to see if infact they do actually do anything if anything else happens.

I did consider keeping him off but due to his disabilty hes behind as it is and im worried if i withdraw him from education it may effect his statement (of educational needs)

zoelouise88

Mojisola wrote: »

This is a very bizarre thing for a teacher to say! We can't follow this up because we might upset X. Isn't your son upset? Isn't he worth even having a talk with the other child?

I can't see you getting any satisfaction from the Headteacher. Be prepared to go much further.

I know thats exactly what i thought but i know from past experiences its just not worth me trying to make my point as the head is pretty useless.

I feel as though she doesnt take it seriously as hes been bullied twice before, it seems as though she thinks maybe im lying about it or something she doesnt seem to understand that its due to his disability that hes seen as an easy target.

jollymummy

I work in a primary school and this would not be tolerated.

Speak to the headteacher in person and tell them if it isn't nipped in the bud you will write a written complaint to the chair of governors and the local education authority, this should make them take it seriously. Also if they receive a written complaint they have to do something about it and you won't get upset when talking to the headteacher.

I'd also want to speak with the teachers involved and find out why they were not doing anything about it.

Ask the headteacher to update you and let you know what they are going to do to stop it, while your son is at school the school are responsible for his safety

Good luck.

claire16c

If she messaged you on facebook, why dont you bring the print out into the school the next time, so you can prove it?

thunderbird

Do you know any of the older children who you could ask to keep an eye on your son in the playground?

redpete

zoelouise88 wrote: »

at this point i was starting to get frustrated and angry so said ok and left,

You still haven't asked about their anti-bullying policy. If you might find it difficult to have another conversation then put the request in writing. If no satisfactory response then go to the governors.

kelloggs36

In many cases, the teachers are just as frustrated as you are - I have worked in a school where this type of behaviour is rife, yet nothing is done as it may upset the parents - they are from a deprived area and have issues. That may well be the case, but the children and parents need to understand that this type of behaviour is unacceptable. Take the advice re reporting it to the LEA and the Governers - kick up a big stink about it. As a teacher, I told a parent to make a formal complaint if they felt that the school were not doing enough and was hauled into the head to be told off for making the school look bad! I said that my concern was the safety of all the children, not the concerns of the parents of the child who had punched the other child in the head. Some heads don't want it to make their school look bad, particularly as OFSTED are now looking more closely at the behaviour within the schools. Good luck.