Son being hit at school

meritaten

hun - you need to see the headteacher - explain that there is a problem with your family and this childs family. and give him/her time to sort it out.
Two days of your child reporting this other child is hitting him - it may not be enough time for the staff to gather the evidence and if he does it without being seen.......difficult for the staff to decide what to do. See the headteacher then give them some time to sort it out.

zoelouise88

meritaten wrote: »

hun - you need to see the headteacher - explain that there is a problem with your family and this childs family. and give him/her time to sort it out.
Two days of your child reporting this other child is hitting him - it may not be enough time for the staff to gather the evidence and if he does it without being seen.......difficult for the staff to decide what to do. See the headteacher then give them some time to sort it out.

Im going to go in first thing in the morning, last time he was bullied it went on for months and each time the teachers said nothing was happening which is why i have no faith in them anymore. Its stressful enough for him with his dissabilty and suff like this really shatters his confidence.

Other children saw it but the teacher was insight.

meritaten

ok - then go in and state your son is being hit and you want to know how they are going to deal with it. you also want a copy of the school bullying policy. tell the head that this has happened before and you are NOT happy with how it was dealt with. THIS problem is either dealt with ASAP or you are writing to the governers. and you are fully prepared to write a complaint to the LEA as well. then ask how the children are going to be dealt with. and make sure that it is in line with the bullying policy! which you fully expect to be produced there and then! if it isnt - then phone the LEA and complain. A copy of the schools anti bullying policy should be available to parents on demand!

lucylucy

Even at this early stage, keep a diary of everything your son tells you and everything discussed at meetings. Any promises of action etc.

Hopefully it wont be needed but if this drags on and you can show you spoke to (x) on (date) with a list of what they promised, and if they take time to produce the anti bullying policy you can refer back to show how long they failed for.

I hope they sort it quickly. He's just 5! Bless him


Also, make a damned nuisance of yourself if necessary, so they dread seeing you darken their door. Be the squeeky wheel

zoelouise88

lucylucy wrote: »

Also, make a damned nuisance of yourself if necessary, so they dread seeing you darken their door. Be the squeeky wheel[/QUOTE

I tend to get angry n shout then stressed then upset, its hearbreaking seeing my son so upset, hes even asked me to keep him off school till hes in class 5 (september) as then the boy will be in juniors which is seperate to infants.

I was fuming that the women could do this and have emailed her via facebook asking if she could speak to her son as its unfair and that if she really has that much of a problem id rather me and her sort it out but all i got was f*** off.

mum2one

I hope it gets sorted soon, my DD was bullied when she was 5 as well in reception class, at the time the then head was so laid back he was almost horizental..... I ended up getting the LEA involved.
The proper route is headmaster then govenerors then LEA.
xx

indebtinsussex

i'm being lazy and copied and pasted what I put in a previous post as I had quite a similar experience to you

we have had exactly the same problem with my sons school, he was being kicked by another boy then got punched in the face by the same boy because he didnt want to play with my son anymore (this caused a major nose bleed, which the school didnt care about). and the school were useless, really really useless, then my son got stamped in the crotch by the same child (they're both 5?!?!) and again it was my sons fault.

so apart from wanting to kill the headteacher and the childs father, what I have done is put everything in writing and demand everything in writing back, told every other parent I know that if this child is a sh*t to their child put complaints in in writing to the school. with my initial letter the headmaster had a week to come up with a satisfactory agreement with me before I was going to go to the school governors, I sent a copy of the letter to the education authority as well, and told the headteacher that if it wasnt sorted my last stop would be Ofsted as I know that if it gets put against the school its also put against his own record. So now the child is kept away from most other children apart from friends that he hasnt attacked in the past. and the teachers monitor him all the time, so far touch wood we've not had any problems. but I still dont trust the school and so my son is on a waiting list to go to another school

I hope that helps you, we've still not had any problems since, but I get the impression that the headmaster hates me now!!!

Mojisola

indebtinsussex wrote: »

So now the child is kept away from most other children apart from friends that he hasnt attacked in the past. and the teachers monitor him all the time, so far touch wood we've not had any problems. but I still dont trust the school and so my son is on a waiting list to go to another school [/B][/I]

I hope that helps you, we've still not had any problems since, but I get the impression that the headmaster hates me now!!!

Good for you! The school should have initiated this kind of monitoring without you having to fight for it. If the Head hates you, it's because you exposed his inadequacies.

balletshoes

zoelouise88 wrote: »

lucylucy wrote: »

Also, make a damned nuisance of yourself if necessary, so they dread seeing you darken their door. Be the squeeky wheel[/QUOTE

I tend to get angry n shout then stressed then upset, its hearbreaking seeing my son so upset,
hes even asked me to keep him off school till hes in class 5 (september) as then the boy will be in juniors which is seperate to infants.

I was fuming that the women could do this and have emailed her via facebook asking if she could speak to her son as its unfair and that if she really has that much of a problem id rather me and her sort it out but all i got was f*** off.

do you feel yourself getting angry and shouting when you're talking to the school staff about the bullying? if so thats maybe not helping to get things resolved. people put up barriers if they're getting shouted at. would it help you to keep calm and focussed if you wrote down what you want to discuss, keeping to the facts, and take your paper in with you to your meeting with the school?

zoelouise88

well got the outcome i expected.

went in spoke to head, conversation went like so

(boys name) has been hitting my son, wednesday he was pushed over by him and another child saw it yesterday the boy grabbed hold of my son kicked him in his private parts, slapped him across the head and punched him repeatedly my son tried to get away but he couldnt, a girl saw it and told the boy to stop, she tried to find a teacher but couldnt see any

oh really? Im shocked (boys name) is a really nice boy weve never had any problems with him before, hes a really lovely boy. we always have loads of teachers on duty so cant see why no one saw this.

ive been told hes usually a really nice boy which is why i suspect his mum has put him up to it as ive had problems with his mum, ive asked her to speak to her son but she told me to f off

his mums quiet and a very nice girl, she isnt that type of person she lkes to keep herself to herself

she may be, i dont know her i have been recieving threats of her an her friends. I havent even met the women but you know what people are like when they are messaging you they some times say what they would actually say to your face. also just because she seems like that at the school she seems to be different when not. so what are you going to do about the problem?

(boys name) wil be so upset if i have a word, he'll be devasted. we will keep an eye on your son today and all of next week and if we see anything then i'll have a word. yesterday your child bumped into another child and fell over he got up and looked around to see who had pushed him but he wasnt actually pushed they just bumped

yes he told me he bumped in to *** but he knows that was an accident but with the other boy it wasnt no accident and he did actually hit him. so are you going to speak to him today?

if we see anything we will sit them both down and have a chat, thanks for letting us know



at this point i was starting to get frustrated and angry so said ok and left, she didnt seem intrested at all and so i thought it better i leave than start gettin angry and shouting as i know this wouldnt have got me any where if aything would have made the situation worse.

So now i guess i just wait and see if anything else does happen