Supervisor being horrible about having time of with toddler (Long)

cruella_de_vile

sexy_fufu wrote:

to be honest i dont take the !!!! and they said i had 10 occasions of last year, half of those are appointments, thats less than 10 days in total. i dont think thats unreasonable for a child maybe others do.

But personally i dont !!, espically being a single mother.....

like this year, she had a hospital appointment 3 weeks ago i took half a day off shes got another in april i will take half a day again.

I cant help it if she as to go hospital... can i ( at the end of the day the government want to get mothers in work companies have got to be understanding)

Like i aid if i took the !!!! and was of alot it would be a different story..

Do you take annual leave for the appointments? If you do your employer is out of order complaining but if not then I really do think they have a point, sorry if I sound harsh but it is not your employers problem.

sexy_fufu

I did point out...

Where i work have shut downs, They are set periods.

All i can take is my 1 service day, that is all i get. my holidays are as follows

2 days easter
1 week whit week
3 weeks summer
1 week october
8 days xmas

The holidays are very good, but we cant take them when we want them, so i couldnt use them to cover time of with baby, i could possiby mention that i would make the time up during one of the holidays.

But again, then i would want paying for it.... ( if using my holiday for it)

sexy_fufu

liney wrote:

For appointments, i think you should use your holidays to be honest. As stated above, you do need to consider your collegues while you are away. The Care of Dependent rules are for emergencies.

Now that you have your boyfriend moved in (re other thread) at least you will have some help on the child care front. His continental shift pattern will mean he has plenty of off days during your work days. Perhaps you could mention this to your boss, just to show that you really aren't extracting the urine, and that you do understand their concern.

My boyfriend moving in will care for her when hes of work BUT if you read on the gov website he in not entitled to take time of for her because she is not his legal responsibility and he is NOT her father.

We cant even get tax relief on his wages for childcare vouchers because he isnt a legal guardian.

plus we both work for the same company...

plumpmouse

Prudent wrote:

plumpmouse wrote:

As for his Dad, we couldn't afford for him to lose his wage (I earn less than half his wage and only work 2 days) and also he is a teacher so it is harder for him to ring in for this. quote]

I am a teacher and get time off when my child is sick without loss of pay. I had a week and a half at one point (see above). The last paragraph of my post shows that there is also another side to this coin for teaching parents.

I don't think it is standard though. He was told by his new head (after all the problems) that he could have a day off if needed. My employers would allow 1 day as carers leave (but resented it) and the rest as holidays, he however as you know gets no holidays other than school ones so can't use them. He certainly wouldn't get a week and a half off so I think you must have a very understanding head.

liney

Your boyfriend wont be entitled to take time off, but with his shift pattern the chances of the child being ill when neither of you are at home will be halved.

As you work 8 - 1 on Fridays you could make Friday afternoon appointments as needed.

sexy_fufu

Liney have you tried to make hospital appointments on a friday afternoon to see a ear doctor. i have managed to get my next one at 4.10 means i need to leave work at 3pm i should work till 5.

they will moan about that no doubt..

They resent me having anytime off.

But again for appointments it should be me taking her, and when shes bad it should be me there.

I dont take the !!!! and if its a mon or tue my mom will have her.

But with my dad just being diagnosed with cancer this may not always be the case.

liney

In the duplicate post on the benefits board you said you worked from 8am - 1pm on Fridays. My misake.

Anyway i asked him for a friday off we work 8-1 on a friday for a hospital appointment for my 2 1/2 year old, at first he said i cud take it without permission. (in the end i got on to the union and he alowed it with permission) this was 3 weeks ago.

cruella_de_vile

sexy_fufu wrote:

Liney have you tried to make hospital appointments on a friday afternoon to see a ear doctor. i have managed to get my next one at 4.10 means i need to leave work at 3pm i should work till 5.

they will moan about that no doubt..

They resent me having anytime off.

But again for appointments it should be me taking her, and when shes bad it should be me there.

I dont take the !!!! and if its a mon or tue my mom will have her.

But with my dad just being diagnosed with cancer this may not always be the case.

Perhaps if you offer to make the time up eg; go in a bit early leave a bit late over a few days might be the compromise needed to keep your employer happy

sexy_fufu

Cruella i do 10 hours over time per week, what more can i do...

Yes i get paid for it

and Liney read my post i do finish at 1 on a friday, but hospitals ear doctors dont work friday afternoons...

Alot of hospitals wont work around your jobs....

Mumstheword

It can be very difficult to get appointments when you need them. I have struggled with appointments for sight and hearing for my youngest two, but stand my ground and explain that their dad is in teaching so has restricted holidays (I'm unable to take them due to illness-different story)

In most cases once they know the situation, the clinics will do all they can to help.

I understand that your job pays more than you think you would get elsewhere. But, your job restrictions are not fitting in with your job as a mum. It's a difficult one, but your employers have told you up front when your hols will be so if the job doesnt suit........

If I was well enough to work I know that I would need a job with 13 weeks holidays during school hols, starting after 9.30, finishing by 2.45, and with say 2 or 3 weeks holidays per child (x 3) for illness or events where a parent is invited, often with short or no notice.

Employers who want me, please form an orderly queue!!:D

I realise that you have had all the responsibility of bringing up baby alone so must bring in a wage. However, you also need to decide whether the employer really is being unreasonable, or whether you are not able to be available when the job needs to be done. Is there an y way you could make up hours at home or during your hols? If you want to keep the job and want it to work for you, you will need to put in a lot of thought on exactly what you need, what you can offer, what they want, and how all of these can live together. Now might not be the best time to try to resolve this, with all the stress of your dad's recent diagnosis.

Hope you get better news with your dad.