The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

MarkMan

1 AF day for me please Shaggy!

Well done to Antonic! That's fantastic. Almost a year - I guess this birthday will be better than your 45th :T:T:T(unless I'm misreading what you're implying?)

I was so pleased with myself this morning (after ONE AF day ) that I had breakfast for the first time in i-dont-know-how long! Nice healthy bran flakes. Knowing I managed it kept me happy all day until I left work and then all through the 2 hour commute home it was "maybe just one or two at the local before I go home"? No. Yes. No. If the weather stays nice I will. But if it gets rainy, I'll need cheering up. Anyway, long and short was that lots of sweets later, I got home an actually went to the gym! Swapped 4 units for 4 miles.

Now I'm home cooking tea for DW, and keeping the wine and beer firmly at the back of the fridge. I'm going for two-in-a-row

And it's all thanks to you little lot :A Thank you so much !!!

CuppaTea

That's great news Mark, you sound so positive today long may it last eh?

I'm back here after a few weeks away, not on a bender, just busy with the kids and life.

But I did have a lightbulb moment on sunday, i have realised a few things and subsequently have stopped drinking. I have given all my booze to a friend to finish, so there is nothing in the house I like to tempt me. I'm all or nothing, i haven't missed it yesterday or today cos I haven't go to have that argument in my head of shall I shan't I. My head has been less busy today not having that conversation I can tell you. Subsequently my eating has been better these last 2 days as well as I haven't been filling up on drink and binge/purging later either.

However as much as I want to stop completely and i keep telling myself that, I really don't know what to do or how to handle things like christmas, celebrations etc. Or what to tell people who know I enjoy a drink.

Oh and DH is still away, its 10 weeks now, so i'm still plodding along with the kids, school starts this week and our routine starts up again. I'm looking forward to having the energy and enthusaism for their little lives.

Shaggy, your link to the traffic light system was really interesting. I have been worrying about my health for a while and I am worried about what damage I may have done to myself, still too scared to ask for a LF test though.

The pains and sensations of discomfort have always been worse when I am drinking heavily so I can only assume it is linked.

Anyway, please put me down for 29 days for september of which I am 2 days in!

Thanks and hello to all the new people, I have enjoyed catching up on this thread and as usual finding it inspirational

trainingdad

Mari, I'm up for the School Night Challenge. All 5 of them.

I got passed wine-o-clock tonight and found it a bit easier knowing that it is probably just my body's habit for that time of the day. Stayed AF today so that 1 week AF for me now. That's about 6 days longer AF than I've been in quite a long time. (Excuse me while I whoop and pat myself on the back).

Well done everyone who has reported good news. There seems to be a lot recently. It is all very uplifting and inspiring stuff.

CuppaTea, last time I stopped for good, I just decided to tell people that I had stopped drinking. People's curiosity usually kept them asking questions, so I would just end up saying that I am an alcoholic (sort of an all or nothing approach...). No biggie - at least I had recognised it and was dealing with it. The thing that surprised me most was the number of my (drinking) friends who would then argue hard and long that I wasn't an alcoholic. Hmmm....

Drinking or not, I'm still an alcoholic but at least I'm dealing with it

CuppaTea

TD, thanks for your thoughts, that's really upfront and honest but i dont think i'm that brave enough to follow suit. Too frightened of people judging me, especially as a mother yof two young kids. Does that make sense? I think i'll just say for a while i'm not drinking, esp with DH away I need a clear head.

Oh and i'm in on the SNC too please, 2 down for that please.

maman

CuppaTea wrote: »

TD, thanks for your thoughts, that's really upfront and honest but i dont think i'm that brave enough to follow suit. Too frightened of people judging me, especially as a mother yof two young kids. Does that make sense? I think i'll just say for a while i'm not drinking, esp with DH away I need a clear head.

Oh and i'm in on the SNC too please, 2 down for that please.

It makes perfect sense to me cuppa, and it's a very good line to use. If you think you might still fancy a drink when you're out and not responsible for the children then it accommodates that too. If you're like me the less you drink the more your tolerance will drop too so if you do drink, you won't need much.

:Ttd and markman, you're going great guns especially dealing with the wine-o-clock bells!

I was tempted myself late afternoon. Had a nice evening in with DH planned and thought a drink might enhance it. Put a bottle in the fridge but decided against it. I'm out for a meal twice this week and will have a few glasses then so decided I'd grab some AF days while I can. I think having AF days is important even if I'm drinking moderately in between. Absolutely determined not to return to the daily drinking habit.

1 AFD for September please Shaggy.

antonic

MarkMan wrote: »

1 AF day for me please Shaggy!

Well done to Antonic! That's fantastic. Almost a year - I guess this birthday will be better than your 45th :T:T:T(unless I'm misreading what you're implying?)

I was so pleased with myself this morning (after ONE AF day ) that I had breakfast for the first time in i-dont-know-how long! Nice healthy bran flakes. Knowing I managed it kept me happy all day until I left work and then all through the 2 hour commute home it was "maybe just one or two at the local before I go home"? No. Yes. No. If the weather stays nice I will. But if it gets rainy, I'll need cheering up. Anyway, long and short was that lots of sweets later, I got home an actually went to the gym! Swapped 4 units for 4 miles.

Now I'm home cooking tea for DW, and keeping the wine and beer firmly at the back of the fridge. I'm going for two-in-a-row

And it's all thanks to you little lot :A Thank you so much !!!

Thanks Markman !

In fact I had a really good 45th birthday on the booze, the reality check was when I woke up the next morning and didnt feel good !.

I then thought to myself "Why am I doing something to myself which has a bad effect on me & I cant really afford as I am on a DMP", that was the point when I decided to go AF.

I then thought "what am I going to do at weekends to fill the time, as that was when I used to drink", so I now listen to sport etc and enjoy having sober weekends and having a bit more money to myself.

Like you it started as 1 AF night, and has now stretched to 300 + AF days so take heart MM you CAN do it !.

(BTW these AF days include going on a works Xmas meal , and being AF - which I enjoyed !).

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 AFD for me.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

Kia wrote: »

Today is my 4th AF day

Fantastic :T:T:T

shaggydoo

*Mari* wrote: »

So on that note I will be doing the school night challenge if anyone wants to join in let me know and I'll put you on the list.

please Mari (that is 4 and 1 done already)

shaggydoo

antonic wrote: »

322 consec AFD`s for me now, the 1 year anniversary will be Oct 14th, (the day after my 46th Birthday).

:j:j:j:j Brilliant!