The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 11

shaggydoo

tracy_36 wrote: »

I did a count up, and dead on 50 days today for me

shaggydoo

missrlr wrote: »

Well planned indulgence but very pleased , one glass wine one glass port and now peppermint tea

Very restrained :T:T:T:T

shaggydoo

Oh Rachel so sorry to read your sad news. When my Mum died the first month was really tough.....evenutually the pain eases and then you can remember the good times - and that is the best feeling.

shaggydoo

mackeroo wrote: »

Hope you okay Bearacus not seen you around lately, thinking of you x

Ditto .

shaggydoo

darwins_mum wrote: »

Today is my 365th day alcohol free

Fantastic News!

shaggydoo

rachelww1 wrote: »

I am not AF this evening. Have been to mums' today at to be honest it was ok. Had a bit of a wobbly when I read a letter of coldonesnces to us all, to my sister. Went through her wardrobe and managed to sort most of that out. Then came across the thousands of photos..and I really mean thousands. We pulled out a draw where I knew they were.... then found loads more in mums' wardrobe.......Then when we went into the back bedroom that was a different story............There are thousands of photos in there and have no idea where to begin...we need a few for a montage for the service. Have brought a few home but my kids weren't interested! Maybe it's just a personal thing for me, my brother and sister....

Definitely. Old photos are so wonderful. I'm sure they will bring you a lot of joy and many trips down memory lane. I created a profile on FB (facebook) just for my close family and loaded all our family photos up and we have had so much joy looking at them.....remembering family holidays, christmas past, funny "looks" you had....

shaggydoo

April :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 29 days AF

= target achieved


Bearacus /TF

Beck7 4/16
Chloris 7 /30

Cleggie 5/20

Evilsquid 6/15

Gardenanna /TF
Mackeroo 7/16

Maman 3/10

Markman /7

Melg 3/15

Miss P 5/20

Miss rlr 5/19

Peterbunny /21

Rachel 4/TF
Shaggy 7/17

Pricey SOS 6/23

TotallyInzane 3/16
Tracy_36 7/25



PLEASE PUT YOUR TARGET AFDs IN A BOLD RED FONT and good luck! (and if I've made any mistakes, don't be shy, please let me know!)

EVERYONE WELCOME

mrsrainman

Rachel - So sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Congratulations to everyone who are doing so well at the moment. Lots of AF'ness about .

Lovely weekend in the Rainman household. Sunday lunch at my parents where BabyR got her first taste of Nanny's homemade trifle.
MrR's mum is on the verge of driving me to drink :eek:. She's broken her ankle. Now I do feel sorry for her, she has had a really tough 12 months. But it's fair to say she is testing everyones patience.

MrsR xx

*Mari*

Hello All

Its been a while since I last posted, in that time my father has been seriously ill and passed away a few weeks ago. Hence any AF thoughts have been far from the forefront of my mind. However, now that the funeral is over and life is sort of getting back to 'normal' I really need to get back to trying to be AF, I know it's not going to be easy as I've used alcohol as a crutch over this period but I need to try and stop relying on it.

rachelww1 sending hugs my dear thinking of you at this difficult time.

Well done to all those who are celebrating landmarks

right I'm off to catch up on all I've missed over the last couple of months...oh and Shaggy could you please put me down for 10 AF days this month if it's not too late, thank you.

lala1974

Hi Everyone :hello:

See my Signature...

I've done it!!

In the last 12 months I have been AF free through:

My Birthday
Friends birthday parties
BBQ's
All bank holidays
A concert
2 trips to Wembley with my beloved football team
A 10 night All Inclusive holiday
Redundancy
New Job
A Christmas Ball with overnight stay
Christmas
New Year
........every night in between all of these occasions

It really wasn't easy to begin with because I could REALLY hold my drink and was always up for a party. I even had a reputation as being the person to have at a party who was guaranteed to bring fun with me. When I first gave up drinking I felt like I was on a prison sentence of some sort - I felt very resentful of not being able to drink. I can honestly say now that I don't miss it and I don't feel like I miss out. Seeing other people get drunk around me only serves as a reminder of why I don't. There are so many experiences lost to the numbing effect of alcohol and I feel sorry for all of the fun memories I had and probably forgot or didn't enjoy enough because of the fuzzy alcohol. I can now recall everything that occurs at family parties and other occasions - they are wonderful memories that i know I wouldn't have half of (things that I talked about, songs that I danced to and the food that I enjoyed). I still am up for parties and enjoy seeing friends but what I love most is going to bed with a head as clear as it was in the morning. I love getting up without even the slightest hangover. I am a more positive person, do more and have more interest in life.

On the sad occasions and times when I would have had a drink to commiserate I was able to think more clearly and stay far more upbeat. I didn't have to experience the self loathing and self pity that alcohol certainly contributes to in me.

All of the occasions above would have been the very best excuse to have drank to excess and well beyond as I have for many years before them.

I lost some friends along the way - one in particular I would have described as my best friend. It seems that the only thing we had in common was wine. I think she struggled to get her head around me not drinking when I went around for a girly night in and to be fair I think I would have if the shoe were on the other foot. Things have improved slightly between us but only in the last couple of weeks. I went around, she drank wine and I drank juice and a cup of coffee.

I also had to put my foot down with a few people about my not drinking not automatically making me designated driver. In fact on one or two occasions we got a taxi there for that reason alone.

I am very proud of myself. Its lovely to see you all on here - some old faces and some new too. You are all doing so well in your targets and where you want to be whether that is cutting back or cutting out. I didn't have a choice in this - I could never have just one and tip my hat to everyone that can. Be very proud of yourselves. This is a lovely, supportive group who never judge. :A

I regularly look in to see how you are all getting on - well done to you all :T
Best wishes and be happy.


Lala xxx