Scuba's Second try - Sink or Swim!

scubaangel

Managed to get hold of Dad between meetings this afternoon, hes still ok to do the guarantor thing for me, although my L.A did express concern over my ability to actually pay the rent which was annoying even if it is understandable.

Spoken to my mum too, she and my step dad are going to come down on moving weekend in my step dads small van while my dad brings a transit to help me move and then take away anything I don't want/need/can fit in the new place for storage at home somewhere.

I carefully avoided mention of the bloke, since I know that would cause me some grief at this point - if I'm still seeing him I'll admit to him when I'm home for Christmas and New Year.

Done a couple more mystery shops yesterday with the bloke, surprisingly nice pub lunch and a quick visit to a furniture shop happily both of which are passed and ready for payment already. I've another shop booked for tomorrow, not a particularly well paid one but since at the moment every penny is going to be well used it'll help, I'm also planning to empty one of my change pots and start paying it in to the bank since the two branches on my local high street will only take 5 bags per day per customer. Once that pot is bagged up I'll start on the other one, and given the amount of money I need to find before I move I'll most likely need to break in to the sealed tin of £2 coins.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

Found a place

Details?

scubaangel wrote: »

The other problem of course has been the amount of time I've been spending with the bloke, staying over with him is great as it saves me driving to and from work, and heating at home etc but isn't so great for the getting organised thing, and on the evenings we come here we end up on the sofa chatting and watching terrible TV

Almost plausible...

scubaangel wrote: »

not sorting boxes of stuff. I do need to start packing though, the books I did this evening are a start, need to sort the books on the shelf downstairs too, and then I can at least claim to have made a good start.

It goes twice as fast with two.


Apparently...

scubaangel wrote: »

I carefully avoided mention of the bloke, since I know that would cause me some grief at this point -

Why?

scubaangel wrote: »

if I'm still seeing him I'll admit to him when I'm home for Christmas and New Year.

Confess! Confess!

scubaangel

I'm not ready to admit to him as although things are going well, it's too early for me to want my parents questionning me about him.

I don't feel like it would be fair to drag him round here and make him help me pack some how....and the sofa is comfy

Couple more mystery shops done and partly written up. As well as keep plugging away at swagbucks so am getting closer to my next £100 payout.

Jjust requested a £25 amazon voucher from one of the survey panels and withdrawn £15 from paypal.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

I'm not ready to admit to him as although things are going well, it's too early for me to want my parents questionning me about him.

Why? When you can exaggerate outrageously...

scubaangel wrote: »

I don't feel like it would be fair to drag him round here and make him help me pack some how....and the sofa is comfy

It wouldn't be fair to drag him round there *only* to make him pack. Besides, he can get to know you through your old collection of Leo Sayer records...

Just keep him away from those leather bustiers...

scubaangel

He's already rather familiar with my music collection - apparently cheesy 90's and early 00's pop makes his ears bleed and him want to jump out of windows.....so my mp3 player is banned from being plugged in to my car radio. :rotfl:

It's the rubber one's I'd be more worried about him finding:p

Got some of the coin tin counted and bagged up, need to go in to town tomorrow after work to return some things I bought doing mystery shops yesterday so will try to get them in to the bank while I'm there.

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

He's already rather familiar with my music collection - apparently cheesy 90's and early 00's pop makes his ears bleed and him want to jump out of windows.....

Ah...so he has taste...

Though saying that, driving home tonight, I had O Fortuna followed swiftly by Mr Mister - I just call that eclectic...

scubaangel wrote: »

so my mp3 player is banned from being plugged in to my car radio. :rotfl:

Always wise. It prevents your car electronics catching fire.

scubaangel wrote: »

It's the rubber one's I'd be more worried about him finding:p

Why? Don't they wipe clean?

scubaangel wrote: »

Got some of the coin tin counted and bagged up, need to go in to town tomorrow after work to return some things I bought doing mystery shops yesterday so will try to get them in to the bank while I'm there.

Efficiency win! :T

scubaangel

My car is cheesy pop proof - it'd need to be or it wouldn't still be on the road!

My main concern would be him trying to borrow them!

Annoyingly there wasn't quite enough to make 5 bags of change in the tin so will drop off the three I have and then start working on the big bottle of change. Once that's done I'm going to have to do battle with the tin opener to get in to the nearly filled £2 coin tin - am hoping that it'll have enough cash in there to cover the shortfall between the money I have saved and the money I need for the deposit and first months rent as I have to pay both before my next pay day (the upside being that it means I'll feel comparatively wealthy next month with no rent to come out of my salary).

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

My car is cheesy pop proof -

And I misread that as cheesy pop !!!!!!...too much Southpark I feel...

scubaangel wrote: »

it'd need to be or it wouldn't still be on the road!

It probably sits in the car park playing Classic FM to itself every day to recover...

scubaangel wrote: »

My main concern would be him trying to borrow them!

Just take the attitude that so long as you're wearing them, he can borrow them all he likes..

scubaangel wrote: »

Once that's done I'm going to have to do battle with the tin opener to get in to the nearly filled £2 coin tin

Or a knife in the slot.

scubaangel wrote: »

- am hoping that it'll have enough cash in there to cover the shortfall between the money I have saved and the money I need for the deposit and first months rent as I have to pay both before my next pay day (the upside being that it means I'll feel comparatively wealthy next month with no rent to come out of my salary).

Don't spend it all at once.

scubaangel

If only I could, my next rent payment would be due on Christmas day so can't spend any of it, although it'll be nice for my bank account to look healthy for a while before the money is taken out, in fact it might even tip me over the £1k balance you need to get cash back from the 123 account, so I need to look in to that as I should have everything set up as a direct debit at the new place rather than my current slightly chaotic pay it as I get the bill in the post system.

Feel like I'm never actually in the house at the moment though so the sorting and packing has ground to a halt after it barely started. Was home Monday night but stayed with the bloke last night (am still lurking in his room at the moment tbh) and might be staying tonight as I've an early shift tomorrow morning.

My ex is threatening to make a small claims court action against me over the direct debits he didn't cancel, so I need to phone the water company tomorrow and ask them to refund the over paid money since he clearly isn't going to do it and I refuse to pay the bill twice! The other bill he claims I owe the money for is the tv licence, which quite frankly he can go swivel over since he took his TV, and the virgin box when he left so I presumed he'd transfered the licence to his new address and bought a new one of my own when I got myself a TV, so again I won't pay for it twice, only £24 but its the principle of it.

And I need to call my current lettings agent to find out how the heck they can justify charging me £30 for a reference to my new lettings agent!

ZTD

scubaangel wrote: »

If only I could, my next rent payment would be due on Christmas day so can't spend any of it, although it'll be nice for my bank account to look healthy for a while before the money is taken out, in fact it might even tip me over the £1k balance you need to get cash back from the 123 account, so I need to look in to that as I should have everything set up as a direct debit at the new place rather than my current slightly chaotic pay it as I get the bill in the post system.

Where the excitement in having everything organised?

scubaangel wrote: »

Was home Monday night but stayed with the bloke last night (am still lurking in his room at the moment tbh)

Doesn't he know you're there?

scubaangel wrote: »

My ex is threatening to make a small claims court action against me over the direct debits he didn't cancel, so I need to phone the water company tomorrow and ask them to refund the over paid money since he clearly isn't going to do it and I refuse to pay the bill twice! The other bill he claims I owe the money for is the tv licence, which quite frankly he can go swivel over since he took his TV, and the virgin box when he left so I presumed he'd transfered the licence to his new address and bought a new one of my own when I got myself a TV, so again I won't pay for it twice, only £24 but its the principle of it.

There's no reason why you need to do anything at all. He obviously finds it easier to threaten, than to get his finger out of his bottom. The simple question to ask is: "What did your bank say when you asked for your money back under the direct debit guarantee?"

You don't want to be in the situation where you've given him money, and the he gets a refund from his bank as well.

scubaangel wrote: »

And I need to call my current lettings agent to find out how the heck they can justify charging me £30 for a reference to my new lettings agent!

"Because you're about to stop giving us money and we want to gouge you as much as humanly possible."