She's infected with rage.....

System

Wow, ten years ago i was the teenager from hell. I (thought i)hated my mum and wouldn't have been been surprised if she hated me too! 10 years on i don't live at home and we get on great! There is hope!

Person_one

I don't envy mums of current teenagers though, we didn't have facebook when I was at school, I was 16 when I first got a mobile (that weighed about half a stone with an aerial out the top!) which would probably be considered shocking these days!

Its so much easier to keep tabs on the house phone bill then MSN, Skype, texts, facebook etc.

pandora205

Just reading a fab book for parents of teens called
Get out of my life but first take me and Alex into town...

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Get-Out-My-Life-First/dp/1846680875/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

It's very funny and reassuring - and has very good reviews on Amazon.

loracan1

jamespir wrote: »

i sugeest you watch this may give you some light relief when it gets too much other than that good luck

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8k9x4R4k4k

This is better, and not so much light relief as documentary!

Mupette

omg i agree boys are bad.

OH showed me my razor yesterday and enquired had i shaved (down there) over the loo.....

DS has his own razors but will take any and shave, but knowing he used my favourite razor (you know the one for trimming as well as shaving) i had to throw it away and shudder.

i gave up with his room ages ago, the bottle of empty pop bottles.. the crusty sheets and pj bottoms, that i make him do his own washing now, the room that stinks of stale sweat and socks and general teen smells.

the squashing of spots over the mirror, the dribbles around the loo, the stench after they have used the loo and don't spray..

the practically demanding pressents and cards for birthday and christmas..
oh the list goes on

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

DD (12) is a stroppy wotsit at the best of times and always has been (my ex is an ultra-alpha-male type and she adopts a lot of his mannerisms when she's stayed there - you know, not saying please or thank you, informing me everything is rubbish, that kind of thing), but since she started puberty, she has found out that there was one thing she had never allowed for.

I gave her a lot of leeway for being a small child.

I have an explosive temper, but I prefer to control it, rather than let it control me. So she wasn't shouted at, wasn't smacked and I generally tried to take steps to avoid a problem coming up in the first place (and have the cracks in my teeth to show for all the grinding I have done as a result). I therefore was regarded as one of the calmer parents at school (even though I would be the one carrying the enraged 3 year old over my shoulder rather than pandering to her).


Now she is almost as tall as me, she doesn't have that advantage anymore. And having been left to wake up by herself (shouldn't have talked to me like a piece of dirt and refused to get up every morning for a week then, should you?) when 11, having to scrabble around when running late for school, searching for her schoolbooks, to find them dumped in a cardboard box in her room (I asked you seven times to take them off the living room and kitchen floor and I told you once) and to have not had clean underwear for over a week (told you to bring your washing downstairs), she has found that life is much tougher when you're nearly 13 and being a brat to a woman with an explosive temper - as when she pushes me too far, I take action that she is guaranteed not to like, rather than get upset and try to reason with her.


This may not last forever, but she now knows that I think she is old enough to deal with the consequences of p***ing me off.

BitterAndTwisted

I was a complete and utter a-hole as a teenager but remarkably my mother seemed to forgive me for it and rarely brought up any of the truly wicked and repugnant things I did to her. Sainthood wasn't good enough for that remarkable woman.

One day, I was over at my sister's house on one of my infrequent visits when it was decided that she and I were going somewhere for a reason I can't remember now. Probably girly shopping. 13 year old daughter was going not through the monosyllabic stage but had regressed to rather expressive and emotive grunts. Probably as a result of long and accomplished experience. So, sisters going out and daughter not invited because some foul transgression has occurred and a previous promise about withdrawal of privileges had been made. Howls of pain and anguish when sisters walked out of the front door. Daughter throwing a paddy on the doorstep and when the realisation came that no-one was going to give in she draped herself over the bonnet of the car. The screams of wicked and unfair torture had practically every single neighbour out on their doorsteps ready to call the police.

Sister was so angry and upset I made her pull the car over to the side of the road pretending I'd forgotten something. I was that afraid she'd lose control and maybe kill us both.

Now, ten years later her daughter is a charming and congenial young lady and the two of them are as close as sisters and as thick as thieves. It's lovely to see. I think someone must have broken into their house in the middle of the night and swapped her for someone else's child...

gonzo127

can i move in with some of you lot please...... sounds like you have a nice quite house compared to mine

19 year old lad, at Uni most of the time but can be interesting when he comes home
14 year old girl, mood swings drastic enough to give you whiplash
3 year old girl, wonderful toddler tantrums, on top of her copying her older sister and brother....
menopausal wife

oh and since i am 'only' a step dad to the older 2 it can have some interesting twists when the moods kick in, although thankfully i have not had the 'your not my dad' comment thrown at me, but then again that could be because they realise the ramifacation of pulling that one would probably be dire as far as their social lives go, since mum doesnt work everything comes out of my wages, so not being their dad means i have no obligation to allow them to connect to my internet, or watch my sky tv, or pay for any mobile phone credit, or even be a taxi service to them. yes i am EVIL, but i have found a calm and calculated removal of social life works far better than screaming and shouting at them

gairlochgal

Hmmmm yes - removal of the Internet works well with my 14 yr old - she was horrified to discover how easy it is to remove the router.

blue_monkey_2

Oh this has made me laugh so much. Thank you for cheering me up.

I have one of each, my DD has been hormonal since birth, LOL. Looks like I have more to come then!! Or maye she has got it over and done with early and she is going to be the perfect, non-whinging teen..........