Real Life MMD: Should I still get him a secret Santa present?

raddyantic

This is awful - you're doing Secret Santa and it's just meant to be a bit of fun - and what makes it fun is the randomness of it all. Quite what you think of the person shouldn't really come into it all whatsoever. It sounds like you're earwigging half the time and a bit of a gossip! If you didn't want to partake (and just wanted to buy your bessie mates pressies) then you should have said so in the first place! We all work with people who we don't like - but that's life! I think you need to be a bit more mature about this. What if someone's pulled your name out and thinks your a bit of a t**t? I thinks it's the collective taking part that counts here - a bit of light amusement in what otherwise could be another dreary day at the office!

eurovision_fan

Personally I'm quite a petulant child, but since it's my fiver to spend on them, I would probably buy something so totally useless to them since I'm not keen on them.

Hair curlers for someone who's bald.
Sanitary Towels or Pregnancy Test for a male.
Chocolate Liquers for someone Tee-Total.

Yes I'm a very vindictive person if I'm riled... So glad my boss hasn't done Secret Santa lest I get him.

JayD

Don't turn into Scrooge - or a nasty gossip!

Buy him something you like for a fiver and don't tell your friend a thing.
After all - he might just have been all talk anyway.

If he wants to be a miserly !!!!!!, fair enough but don't help him spread misery by passing that info on. And don't begrudge the £5 on his gift - it's pretty cheap as secret santa deals go and why would you want to lower yourself to his standards?

Happy Christmas and I hope you get something you like

jenniferamy

I'd give him the fiver in pennies, wrapped up

tempertantrum

Try and find out what 'rubbish' gift he's buying for his secret santa gift, and then get the same.

florere

Buy him a proper pressy, don't let your dislike make you do something which is wrong. Besides, he may be saying what he said because he thinks it makes him look big and he may buy her something that is nice. Whatever it is, for five pounds it won't be much.

dave2

My interpretation is you think this guy is a bit of a "douchebag" (sorry, I keep picking up American terms when I'm on the internet) for scraping the barrel for the present he is giving, and you're wondering whether to do the same thing back?

I guess the solution can be found by asking yourself the question: is his behaviour something you consider appropriate to your own character or aspirations? In short, are you a douchebag like him?

My impression is you are not really content with this route because your natural moral stance is at a higher level. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked.

Also, he might have been kidding around.

RichardGB

I'd spend a little time buying the best present I possibly could for £5.00. That would give me pleasure. Then, when he opens it, with luck he'll really enjoy it. Perhaps, then, next year he'll really enter into the spirit of the Secret Santa idea and get someone else as good a present as you got him. Now, wouldn't that be a far better outcome for everyone concerned? This is your chance to perhaps bring a real change of heart to this person. You might not love him, but you don't hate him and now you have the chance to turn him into a better person. And for only £5!

swmbo60

Yes you should still take part but if this guy is really not very nice I would get something like some 'small' condoms (I believe you can get them in different sizes now) even if it cost me more than the £5 stipulated. It would be worth it just to wipe the smirk off his face!!:beer:

Petaldust

Personally I'm just horrified by all the people saying "well you can't get anything nice for £5 anyway". £5 was the limit for our secret Santa and for that I bought a lovely tealight holder and candle from an independent shop in Edinburgh, plus another tealight in the shape of a butterfly from a xmas market, for a colleague who loves candles and butterflies.