The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

postingalwaysposting

aww hun... this thread has made me cry too you are a great mum... the problem is children are very good at picking things up (i was) i am sure he will be fine with just some reassurance... he sounds like a great little chap and he will grow up to be a brill person/husband/father/grandfather... feel proud... i would love to have a child like that

nethesi

weller711 wrote:

I just feel so much for him because he has Dyspraxia - poor speech, little or no co-ordination, can't process things if you tell him to do more than one thing at once etc and hes come through so much especially after being bullied at school and he tries so hard and is the most thoughtful boy I know (well, I would say that) and he takes everything on board. My MIL says he is slow and shuold be in a special school and it makes me so mad - hes in the top group at school and is very clever and even if he wasn't I would love him just the same.

Hi Lisa,

Wasn't going to post anything as didn't feel I could add to all the lovely stuff people have written. However when I saw this I just wanted to add that you're absolutely right to love your son however brainy he is and I also want to reaffirm you that you're also VERY right that dyspraxia doesn't mean someone is slow. I have dyslexia and dyspraxia and got all As at A-level, went to university and have just passed the last of my accountancy exams. I'm not boasting - lots of people have done the same or better and although I had some disadvantage from dyspraxia and dyslexia I had many other advantages - not least a loving family like your son has. I just wanted to say that there's no reason why your son can't be whatever he wants.

You've probably also heard this but if you haven't already dyspraxia is something that gets better as children grow up, I was told that by the person who formally diagnosed me so that's official I guess...OK I'm never going to be Ginger Rogers but I can now stand on one leg(!), ride a bike and have even tried ball room dancing - although that last one wasn't a great success... However as an adult my daily life is no longer made difficult, and I'm not generally seen as a clumsy person (well not to my knowledge:p ).

Anyway chin up and well done on being such a fantastic mum and person generally.:A

carole_twigg

A small consolation I know but I related to your story as a similar situation occurred when my boys were little - 5 and 7yrs old. I was at my wits end as going through a very messy divorce, no money with a repossession order etc etc. I remember having holes in the soles of my shoes and having to put cardboard in them. My boys went with my friend and bought me a pair of trainers which cost all their savings.
They are now 18 and 20yrs and remember the hard times. However, they have grown up to be considerate and kind people. Love will keep you sane!
You are a good Mum and your children know this. All the best

Frugal_Fox

Weller,

Firstly - you should be so proud of yourself and of your son.
Secondly - It is REALLY important that children grow up understanding the value of money. Your son will have this and the hardship you feel you are inflicting on him actually isn't hardship - but a valuable lesson in life that you can't always have what you want straight away. Money isn't everything and love is so very important.

Keep going.... you are doing so well.

FF

moonlightpjs

Totally overwelmed by the support on here :A - making me cry (in a good way), please can you all come and live near us???????????

You are all such good people and I can't put into words how much all your replies mean to me - I think you will know;)

Samuel just told me that I'm the best Mummy in the world before he went to bed and said I was beautiful :rolleyes: (I don't think so - 15 stone of fat) but you can't beat that, can you?

To post on here and it not really about debt and to get the support you've given me - well, you can't beat that either.

Many, many, many,many thanks to you all
Lisa
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Dumyat

what a wee sweetheart. treasure those moments because when he reaches 17 like my "little darling" ,trust me he wont be saying stuff like that.

Snaggles

Weller, I've been at work all day so I hadn't seen your thread until now, but I've read it with a tear in my eye and a lump in my throat. I'm sure what your son said tore at your heart, but please try and see that the reason he said those things is because you have brought him up to be a sensitive, thoughtful, lovely boy, who would do anything to make you happy. Try not to think about WHAT he said, but rather WHY he said it - because he really loves you. I just can't believe you think you have failed him in any way. You sound like a really fantastic parent, and he just sounds adorable.

Oh and by the way.....real beauty has next to nothing to do with how much you weigh (she says, trying to suck in her enormous baby belly...:o)

Quackers

Snaggles wrote:

Try not to think about WHAT he said, but rather WHY he said it - because he really loves you.

Ditto

He was being kind, thoughtful, loving & caring and so much more - all the things you have taught him.

I've had lots of support from people on MSE & cannot believe how everyone pulls together to help or reassure each other when needed. Moneysaving or not - its sometimes the emotional support that is given that means more than general advice.

Its fab

Snaggles

Quackers wrote:

I've had lots of support from people on MSE & cannot believe how everyone pulls together to help or reassure each other when needed. Moneysaving or not - its sometimes the emotional support that is given that means more than general advice.

That's really true, the support on here is amazing sometimes, and I'm sure it stops a lot of people doing what they might have otherwise done pre-DFW - gone out and hammered the credit card to make themselves feel temporarily better. So it really is money-saving!

moonlightpjs

Oh and by the way.....real beauty has next to nothing to do with how much you weigh (she says, trying to suck in her enormous baby belly...:o)[/QUOTE]

Congratulations on the "baby belly", how long have you got to go? Bet you can't wait!