The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

bellsbells

A son raised by a bad mother would not have cared that his mum was upset. A son raised by a bad mother would not have tried in the only way he knew how to help. A son with a bad mother would not sound like such a sweetheart as your son does! As the other posters have said, you have raised a good 'un there Weller!:j

cattie1

that post made me cry (and i'm at work!:eek: )
you haven't failed any1
look at how well you have brought your son up!, how many other people could say they had a child as lovely and caring as that?!
YOU brought him up like that, no-one else could do a better job than you, children don't understand the value of money and I remeber when I was little whenever my parents said they had no money, I would say things, like "mammy if I go away would it be better?" I knew my mam didn't want me to go and just needed reassurance sometimes.
please don't feel bad from what I have seen/heard you are an excellent mother and should never put yourself down.;)

Dumyat

weller711, you still there?
feeling any better yet? please dont beat yourself up about this. be proud, dont be sad about it.

savvykaz

Have to agree with all the above (and I filled up too).
What would be "bad" would be if you 'gave' Samuel to his grandparents to look after. Then in years to come he would feel as though you didn't care for him or love him. I know this first hand as this is what happened to my DH.
Like others have said, it does a child no harm to learn the value of money at any age. My DD is nearly 13 and even now when things aren't as tight for us as they have been, she still asks me if we're poor and can we afford things for her. I am VERY proud of her and hope she has learned and is still learning the true value of money.
Just shower both your kids with lots of love and everything will work out OK

gottabstrong

i really feel for you . my eldest son was 18 yesterday and this morning i had to borrow some of his birthday money to pay for food. i feel at my lowest ebb and after 19 years of debt and struggling to deal with it without telling my husband, the events of this morning (coupled with the realisation that my son is more of an adult that I am) have seriously made me plan to tell my husband.
my son sent me this text ..." you are a great mum. at the end of the day what is a bit of money compared to me to helping my mum" - i feel so proud of him and cant believe that me and my husband have raised such a fine young man.
i was only 16 when he was born and times have been hard.
so the reason i write back is to say that your little boy sounds like he will grow up to be a lovely young man who is very proud of his mum.
after spending an hour in tears this morning in sainsburys car park (!) I have come on MSE to ask for advice - I saw your thread first though and I am so glad I did...
a big hug from someone who has been there x x x

anniestar

Yes I agree with everyone. When I read this it also made me cry. What a little star. You are truly blessed. Money ISN'T everything- it just seems like it sometimes. Chin up and give your little man a hug from us all. Also love to gottabstrong as well.

MISS_ATTITUDE1

reading this made me cry.how lucky are you to have raised such a special little boy you are a great mum.money is nothing if you have a special bond like that.chin up and go and give him a big hug and kiss.sound like you have a very special little man there
best wishes

hypno06

I can't say anything more constructive than has already been said.

Be proud x

Triker

I can only second what people have already said but I think also its great that even though he obviously had a little worry about the money thing there should be two very happy people here.

One being you, bursting with pride for having such a thoughtful and loving little boy and your son who must be content with the knowledge that he is so loved and wanted that nothing else matters.

Plus for him to come and tell you something that he had had on his mind demonstrates how secure he is (even though you have a new little one so your family dynamics will have changed significantly) that he can tell his mum anything, that in itself is priceless.

Glitterari

it brought a tear to my eye too. bless him and you.