Not sure how to cope

BitterAndTwisted

I suspect that once the true situation is clear that the friends you haven't heard from will be in contact when they know exactly what is needed and how. It's quite natural for people to be unsure about how to react when there's so much uncertainty.

As you said, now that your husband is home you can concentrate on practical matters, so you can sort out how you can free up time to be with him next week. How far away is the hospital that he's going to be admitted to?

EssexGirl

It's in London and we are in Essex (yeah really ) so a train ride away as it's in the congestion charging zone.
The children are going to stay with their grandparents, they already have the dog lol. I've organised for some school work for my son for the last week of term. The cats are going to be fed by a friend.
This frees me up to stay in London for a few days.

peachyprice

I'm gald to hear he's home with you for a few days, make the most of the cuddles and companionship. I'm sure it will do him good to be at home with you in his own home and his own bed. There's nothing worse than being stuck in hospital surrounded by ill people, it's so depressing if you don't actually feel so bad yourself.

Hopefully this weekend will give you a chance to re-charge your own batteries and gather strength before the next round of visiting him in hospital begins.

Welshwoofs

EssexGirl wrote: »

I'd love to have a nice glass of something alcoholic, but I know I can't because I'm in sole charge of the kids. The house is in a state too.

Errr why can't you have a glass of wine or a bottle of beer or something? There's no law saying you can't have a drink if you're in sole charge of kids.

It's a really tough time and if having a glass of something helps, do it!

saidan

essexgirl - sorry to hear about your husband.

i was in the same situation 11 years ago - mass in abdomen, lengthy stay in hospital while they found out and operated.

i found out who my real friends were - in hospital for 12 weeks my dearest friends visited everyday, did my washing, bought stuff i needed (like new knickers & PJs)

i've had my problem now for 11 years - and 11 operations - and i am still surprised occasionally at who helps and who steers clear ("friends are the family we choose for ourselves" springs to mind as my family are useless)

ask your friends for whatever you need - your true friends will be waiting and hoping they can help - and be glad to help you.

i hope all goes well - saidan