Not sure how to cope

NickyBat

If i were your friend, i would be expecting you to ask for help and tell me what you wanted me to do (if i hadn't already offered) and i would only be to glad to help, at a time like this no one will think you a burden.

jaxx46

Just sending you some virtual hugs & get well wishes for hubby x

uolypool

Huge hugs for you hun, I was in a situation recently where if it hadnt been for friends and the wonderful people on the daily thread I would have never coped.They are your friends they will be there for you. Use us all as a sounding board if that is the right thing , stay strong and I hope hubby is on the mend soon xx

flutterbyuk25

(((((hugs)))))) to you and your family hun x

rachel6188

Huge hugs to your family hun xx

monnagran

Got here quite by accident but my heart goes out to you. I have had many times in my life when I wouldn't have made it if it hadn't been for my friends. Just let it be known what you are going through and you may be surprised at who turns out to be your rock. It isn't always the ones you expect to be there who rally round. Just think what you would want to happen if one of your friends was in your position, then you will know what to do.
Lots of loving thoughts coming your way.

meritaten

please - let your friends help! They need to hun - honest! To watch people you love go through this is heartbreaking and helping is the only way they can support you! So if people ask to help its not too much to ask someone to
Put your bin out (this one is for nieghbours)
do a load of laundry - a simple thing but can be soooo much appreciated!
make a casserole or something you can bung in the oven for the kids supper! easily done and hunny, if you get home from the hospital and you dont have to cook - relief!!!
someone who could take the kids to school/playgroup or just for an hour for you - priceless! as is someone who will mind them for an hour or so for you to whiz through the house tidying up!
someone who will do a shop for you when they do thiers!
just a few ideas - my family and friends have done all this for me - and waved aside any thanks as they were happy to help in a 'practical' way.

Butterfly_Brain

Please tell your friends they will be upset if you try and get through this on your own and if they are true friends they will be there for you whatever.
I wish I lived closer because I would be glad to help,as, I am sure would a lot of other OS'ers.
Try to keep positive darling, I know that is hard but you have to try for the little ones.
Please keep us posted on the OS board ((((hugs))))

EssexGirl

Thank you all for your wonderful, lovely replies.
The hospital let him come home last night as he's not unwell with it so he's released a bed for someone who needs it more.
He should be admitted to another hospital next week, so we have some time together to laugh, cry, cuddle, sort out practical stuff and just be a family. Although it's hard to be normal when this is in the background all the time.

I'm going to lean on my friends, as that IS what they are there for. I've been REALLY surprised by who has offered help and those who I haven't heard from since they were told. It's true it's times like this you do find out who your true friends are.

Plans_all_plans

Hi EssexGirl, I'm glad your husband is back with you today. Get support where you can and use every service available to your family to get you through this time.

Support from the hospital, friends, your husband's family and any other organisations you can think of will be invaluable. I know that people don't always like to ask others for help, but once approached you should get the support you need. Best wishes.