Family members not talking to me - What would you do?

euronorris

Charityworker wrote: »

What would you do if you were me?

That depends. What would you like to happen?

Then you need to think about whether it's possible for that to ever happen, keeping in mind that you cannot control others behaviour.

The answer may well be: 'Do nothing, and accept the situation as is.'.

Madmel

You have moved on with your life and they are jealous, hence their childish resorting to posting inane remarks about your photos.

I really admire you for not wallowing in your bad luck, but volunteering, using your time to benefit others and then getting a job you enjoy :T.

I'm afraid you don't need toxic people like that in your life anymore. Follow the excellent advice above about getting your mum back onside, but then enjoy being with your husband and your own family. Ultimately, the aunt, cousins and others will lose out as they are the negative ones. Good luck!

aliasojo

tea_lover wrote: »

ETA: my BIL said I looked like a fridge on my wedding day! Believe it or not it was a compliment in a long-winded way.

I hope that was because you were cool and collected and not white and wide. :rotfl:

mountainofdebt

What would I do ?

Consider it a money saving blessing.

No more feeling you have to buy Birthday / Christmas / any other event cards, not to mention invites to expensive to attend without thinking of a present events for people who obviously don't like you.,

Charityworker

I suppose what I'm trying to get at is why have my parents took their side when clearly they were the ones who did wrong? When it first happened my mum said she was going to speak to them about it because I was crying down the phone to her. Now she's worried about upsetting them. Not worried about me being upset so she changed her mind and she hasn't said anything. I think the fact that they blank me when they see me tells me they know they are in the wrong and ashamed. I saw my aunt today, looked at her and said hello and she pretended she didn't even see me. And my parents say I am the one in the wrong?????

barbiedoll

Charityworker wrote: »

Yes they did and they moaned about the seating arrangements, the menu and the music. They also gave us a cheque for our wedding present instead of a present and it bounced!

Hahahahaha....:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

You should post THAT on Facebook!!

aliasojo

Charityworker wrote: »

I suppose what I'm trying to get at is why have my parents took their side when clearly they were the ones who did wrong? When it first happened my mum said she was going to speak to them about it because I was crying down the phone to her. Now she's worried about upsetting them. Not worried about me being upset so she changed her mind and she hasn't said anything. I think the fact that they blank me when they see me tells me they know they are in the wrong and ashamed. I saw my aunt today, looked at her and said hello and she pretended she didn't even see me. And my parents say I am the one in the wrong?????

Your parents want a quiet life. For them, it's easier to tell you to forget it than it is to tell them they are out of line.

You really need to become matter of fact about it all in order to move on I think.

mrcow

Did they go to the wedding?

Are they in any of the photos? If so, add some comments of your own commenting on how hideous they all are/look.

Or......you can just take the higher ground and ignore......

halibut2209

Simple. **** em

shelley_crow

People like your aunt are the type that can dish out the insults but don't take them very well. If you don't want to avoid family gatherings then don't, if she starts on you then let her have it! It is bullying of a form because she thinks you are an easy target (from getting away with it in the past) and won't say anything. Being "family" is never an excuse for bad behaviour.

If it were my parents who thought I was in the wrong then I'd be fuming. Your purpose in life isn't to be a verbal punchbag for your family.

From what you have said it seems to me that she is jealous that you have made something of your yourself and she hasn't.