Help - just found out I'm expecting...

Bumpmakesfour

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,

gee whizz, girl already has two kids, did she want another, seems like no?

Oh !!!!!! give it a rest.Your comments are utterly inappropriate and unecessary.She's pregnant,she plans to keep the baby,she asked for tips not criticism.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

... and your point is???

well, I'm just trying to say, someone in a financially tricky situation, should maybe think before adding to the family, thus causing more expense.

I've already wished op good luck, so no malice in my comments.

jackyann

I worked with children & families for over 40 years. Whenever any research was done on pregnancies, the number of "unplanned" always came out at about 33%.
No method of contraception is totally reliable, and the most reliable methods often have contra-indications.
And as I'm sure someone will want to say "what about abstinence?" the answer is that it is one of the most unreliable - you know, human beings being what they are........

Go to the Old Style board, tell all your friends & family that you are going to be broke and need their support, then love & cherish all of your children.

Bumpmakesfour

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,



well, I'm just trying to say, someone in a financially tricky situation, should maybe think before adding to the family, thus causing more expense.

I've already wished op good luck, so no malice in my comments.

I'm not denying you may have a valid point BUT!! what use is that really now in the OPs current situation??I honestly don't get people like you..the first to say "I told you so".
I'm sure the OP REALISES now isn't the best timing but has come on here asking for support and guidance and doesn't really need you to point out the obvious.

Tiddlywinks

[Deleted User] wrote:

Hi,
well, I'm just trying to say, someone in a financially tricky situation, should maybe think before adding to the family, thus causing more expense.

I've already wished op good luck, so no malice in my comments.

I think we got that from your first post on this thread - do you really need to keep rubbing it in?

I do believe in "family planning" and, yes, perhaps it would have been better to stick with the two rather than go for a third BUT it's happened and cannot be undone so.... let's try to help.

Gillyx

jackyann wrote: »

I worked with children & families for over 40 years. Whenever any research was done on pregnancies, the number of "unplanned" always came out at about 33%.
No method of contraception is totally reliable, and the most reliable methods often have contra-indications.
And as I'm sure someone will want to say "what about abstinence?" the answer is that it is one of the most unreliable - you know, human beings being what they are........

Go to the Old Style board, tell all your friends & family that you are going to be broke and need their support, then love & cherish all of your children.

My doctor told me recently 1 in 2 are unplanned, not sure if she was trying to make me feel better or not though

[Deleted User]

Hi,

okay, okay, right so I'm the bad boy tonight, sorry.

Well here's my tips.

As already mentioned, you will hopefully still have some of the kids clothes, so they can be useful later on.

I think where the saving is going to have to come from is from your own lifestyle, you havn't told us much about that.

Anyway, no Friday nights out, hubby cuts out his Sat/Sun with the boys.

Get on to eating cous cous/ bulgar wheat, don't buy mince, use soya, you can make a good chilli with soya and cheap chilli beans.

VfM4meplse

In context, family planning is a modern phenomenon that has only become necessary because women now go out to work. Pre 1960s, large families were raised on just one salary so it is perfectly possible to do this in a MSE way.

neverdespairgirl

narabanekeater wrote: »

congratulations. Im a Mum of 3. Yes it can be hard but its also so rewarding. Moneywise babies cost very little really its later on they cost (I reccomened you dont introduce any of yuor 3 to the world of dancing as it these sort of activities that cost us most) Wishing you a healthy happy pregnancy.
p.s. my 3rd labour was the easiest of them all @ 2 minutes!

Horses. Riding is also pretty expensive, so keep them away from stables!

Good luck OP.

runningwoman

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Congratulations OP, as Tiddlywinks says you will be resourceful and things will work out for you - may not be easy, but nothing worth having ever is! You'll look back on this period in your life with v fond memories.

I happen to think that every child is a blessing. I also know that the most foolproof way of avoiding conception is by not having sex.

:rotfl:

AKA - My personality.

Congratulations OP. Single taxpaying woman delighted for you, babies are cool.