OK......Here's my dilemma.....what would you do?

doodoot

You need to slow down, take a breath and realise that us mums don't turn out at 7.30am looking like Giselle Bundchen! :rotfl:

Firstly I would be cancelling the half day at nursery - having baby there just so you can get some housework done sounds ridiculous (please don't take that the wrong way).

Your baby will gain far more by being at home with you - don't stress about what stage needs to be reached before the next one happens...first babies bring a massive learning curve, and paves the way for an easier time with subsequent babies.

You also need to organise a career plan that includes your children, and won't involve losing out so much of your wages and time.

Mine involved switching from admin to school-based - I'm in my final year at Uni and in September I'll either embark on teacher training or SEN TA training.

That way I will get the same holidays as my children, a decent wage, job satisfaction and good career prospects....hopefully! :rotfl:

BitterAndTwisted

I'm more worried about the OP's husband: he's working 50 hour weeks plus some Saturday mornings so he's obviously seriously short of quality family-time. Or any useful rest-time come to that.

Plus, please forgive my candour, but making the minimum payments on that level of debt means that it will never be chipped away at in any meaningful way unless some serious sums are thrown at it and sooner rather than later. That bigger house is just a pipe-dream. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having pipe-dreams as long as we acknowledge that that is just what they are rather than an achievable reality.

Tish_P

B & T is right, it's not sustainable for anyone to work 50+ hour weeks and have any kind of life outside work. At best he'll pretty much miss your baby's childhood and at worst the stress will start to seriously affect his health. Is there anything else you could do to live more affordably? Or if your job is not a career type job, might it be possible for you to pack it in and take a Saturday job instead and your OH stop working weekends and spend some time with your child?

Best of luck for you both, I hope it all works out.

pimento

butterflylady131 wrote: »

I am only really at work to qualify for maternity again next year when we start to try for bubba number 2...

No wonder employers don't take women of childbearing age seriously. If I were an employer, I'd think twice about employing one.

Mimi09

And remember when number 2 comes, childcare for 2 children will be very expensive. Many of my friends ran themselves into the ground keeping their jobs open, whilst juggling with their first child, only to find they couldn't afford childcare for no.2 as well and gave up work anyway. They all wished they'd stayed at home for their first baby.
good luck, a tough decision.
P.s. I'd advocate having no.2 asap, you'll always be skint with children however long you leave it!!