A new 'tougher' thread... and so it continues

VJsmum

Oh dear - celebrated too soon. Dad has had to go back to hospital. He just isn't safe at home, can't stand on his legs. Not sure what is going to happen now....:(

Mrs_Chip

Oh so sorry VJs'mum, what a shame. Do you know if he has taken a downturn or was he not properly assessed as fit for discharge? We went through this with MiL - hospital moved heaven and earth to discharge even though she could not cope. In the end we insisted she went to intermediate care, but they still required her to be able to get herself out of bed, dress and walk. I know back then (2008) once there was no medical reason for being in hospital it became the responsibility of the LA to find a solution - and it's not always what the family wants. I hope it gets resolved for you soon.

WeegieWumman

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Ratty Virgo

Thanks for the info. Luv it!!!:rotfl:

VJsmum

Thanks - I dont' believe there has been a downturn, it is hard for me to say as I am 200 miles away. Simply that he wasn't properly assessed. I have to admit I was a bit worried that they were sending him too soon but also felt that once he was home he would be happier / better fed and would stand more of a chance.

It is felt that his last hospital hasn't put a proper care package in place and that going back to the "big" hospital he is more likely to get what he needs.

I think he has been badly let down by the NHS.

SDG31000

Oh dear VJsmum I'm so sorry to hear that. Fingers crossed there is an improvement ((((hug)))))

I'm afraid I don't have a cat story. DH is very allergic to fur and feathers so any cat chancing it's luck would be out in the cold so to speak. I did once put the phone down on my DMIL with the words "Sorry, I have to go and catch a hedgehog", but that's my only animal story.

grandma247 I developed a sudden onset potato starch allergy when DS1 was small. After handling potatoes for years one day I cut up some potatoes my DMIL had peeled. I put my head down on the table and said I don't feel well. DMIL, being an old school nurse, got the bottle of Baileys out of the cupboard and poured me a glass. I lifted my head to speak and was wheezing and gasping for breath instead. DMIL took one look at me and shouted at DFIL to get the car. DH had no idea what was going on and was told to look after DS1. The next thing I remember is DFIL driving through red lights to get me to A&E. Thankfully I didn't go into full shock, but I needed lots of antihistamines and then I slept for 4 hours. I still react occasionally now, so making mash is like playing Russian Roulette. It makes dinnertime interesting if nothing else.

I have to say that it is strange having the boys home. I sort of feel in Limbo when they are and that I am waiting for them to need anything. Not that notice me until they are hungry or need clean clothes. It is peeing it down here. I've won a voucher for free cherry bakewells and not even the thought of free cake is enough to make me want to go out of the house.
(Tesco are giving away 10,000 of them on facebook if you are interested )

Btw pork shoulder joints are £2.74/kg at sainsburys and £3/kg at Asda at the moment. I got mine when Mr T were doing them at £2.49/kg, but it looks like I'm going to be hunting out more when it's on special offer. I think I need another freezer.

fuddle

Really sorry to read that your dad has been messed around VJsmum. I do hope your dad is ok in himself.

Youngest DD "Mum, I've been in the fridge to get a yoghurt and erm, the dog took some, erm ham". Me wondering "I haven't got any ham" The penny drops... shoite, he's got my gammon joint!

No fried egg, gammon and chips for tea now and no gammon in my broth tomorrow.

prepareathome

VJsmum wrote: »

Oh dear - celebrated too soon. Dad has had to go back to hospital. He just isn't safe at home, can't stand on his legs. Not sure what is going to happen now....:(

Oh no, but why on earth did they not know this before they said he could go home, must have been obvious that he could not stand or was very unsteady......I know drs and nurse working for NHS do wonders and I do admire them but sometimes I do feel common sense is missing or trained out of them.......mind you most likely wasn't the medical staff but one of the clerical saying oh dear this guy has been taking up a bed to long so out he has to go.....poor man if he wasn't muddled before he will be now, hugs and love and lots of healing to all of you.........xxxxxxxxxxxxx:A

prepareathome

We have a beautiful siomese cat who comes into side garden nearly every day and sits there, he will not come to near us( most likely as we smell of dogs) but I do put some food out for him as he has been doing this for about 18 months now. Looks well cared for and many a time people have knocked to say is that our cat and if we don't want it can they have it, but it never will let anyone near it and I have to explain I am not a cruel owner who dumps my cat out every day rain or shine. He looks in great condition and I think he just likes the peace of the side garden as no dogs go in it and as he has made it his no other cats bother him, I just imagine he comes from a home filled with young children and dogs and just wants peace even if it does mean like now sitting in rain - we did sort out a little covered area but he will not use it, sitting at moment on a stone right by my vegetable beds. We used to always have a cat along with dog but I developed an allergy to cats when last one was 9 ( about 10 years ago now) and had rather nasty asthma attacks until he died age 10, all so sudden, he had unknown to us and vet cat aids and just suddenly within a few days went from seemingly healthy to very ill and in such pain and after the tests vet said nothing could be done so I held him while vet gave him injection, and so was last person he saw and heard me telling him how much we all loved him and still do, but means no more cats can be taken in as dr would most likely kick me off her list as at the time she kept telling me how much I was costing NHS due to keeping my cat instead of finding him a new home, but how could I we all loved him so much.

Well rain has not stopped but at least I have stayed awake and been reading my signed prize book ( A year in the garden by Paul Peacock - Mr Digwell in the Daily Mirror).

Have got chilli beef cooking - forgot about the pioneer pork until after I put it on - in slow cooker, and will serve it with noodles.

I mentioned how my plastic greenhouse after 6 years fell to bits other day and today was pricing them up and found one on Greenfingers which is 40cm shorter but wider and higher for £27.49 +pp ( in their half-price sale) which I have ordered as looked around and couldn't find any cheaper. Argos did have the same one as old one ( its where I bought it) down to £35 but out of stock for home delivery and the nearest store that has one to me is over 100 miles away. I also went mad and ordered the plants that Martins mentions in this weeks email - should really be spending the money on food stocks but if summer going to be like this I want something nice and colourful to see out of the window as got some flowers but not that many as vegetables, fruits and herbs being my main buys and 40 plants will fill empty areas nicely. I can only presume the bad weather is what is making shops sell even greenhouses at half price this time of year, as usually its august or later before the reduce the price. I technically am broke till next Tuesday but I have done something I rarely do, but thought if I wait till next week they might have sold out - greenhouse that is, plants have to be ordered by tomorrow) I have taken a short-term loan on our prepay credit card which I will pay back next Wednesday - takes my bank 24hrs to transfer money even with faster pay - and so have to pay interest of just over £3, not happy but would be even unhappier if I didn't do it and went to buy greenhouse next week only to find sold out, never mind losing out on the plants. Its an option I have only used when we really need to buy something and I know I can pay it back with in the week, would never take it for longer as then interest really does mount up. It will bother me now until its paid off and as soon as money is in bank on Tuesday first thing I will do is transfer the amount owed to prepayment card but at least I do have my greenhouse for less than I thought I would have to pay - I was thinking around £60 of money next week on it.

Right better go and get dressed as when hubby gets in we need to go and get milk and I want to look at what whoopsies if any there are as not looked for about 4 weeks and we need food.......

fuddle

Mum and sister came to visit today. I was dreading it. I was right to dread it.

1) "What the hell is all that!" at my montage of picture frames on the newly decorated living room wall.

2) I'm tight and shouldn't be giving my kids out of date food (talking about approved food) one minute and then

3) I have money to burn getting flour from Amazon. I have ideas above my station and if we're really skint then it should be value flour.

4) Wanting to know where every last penny of the car money is going to and in the same breathe "have I got the new school uniforms yet?"

5) What do you want a trolley for?! Your grandma had one of those and we laughed at her even in her 70's.

6) I need to get off the anti-depressants as I will become a walking zombie.

Ok, I'm not going to bang on about it but I will say that my strategies are my strategies. They are ideas I'm trying out to cut costs/build up a store/lessen travel costs/help me with carrying without the car. I am not flush with money and can't buy luxury goods. I will not squander money to the point my children can't have their uniforms (I mean come on!) I'll give my kids healthy wholesome food and I'd never put their health or diet into jeopardy. The trolley isn't even worth getting into a stew about as they're shallow minded and the anti-depressants are mostly for my anxiety and panic disorder and are working just great.

I have learned now, that I can never share my life with my family. It's too painful to be on the receiving end of their opinions. My strategies or how I organise my home are for you all, myself and my husband and kids. That's it.

Sometimes I just wish I could run away from my family.

As I had beans on toast for tea (dog induced) I'm waiting for almond flapjack to come out of the oven and indulge with a cuppa. DH is fishing till 10pm so I'm home alone, kids are about to go read upstairs and I'm going to enjoy some peace. I just feel worn out and a bit sad.

Byatt

VJsmum, so sorry about your dad. Have you spoken to the social worker for the hospital, or can you? When my mum was in hospital, she wasn't able to go home straight away so she was placed in a unit where she had time to recuperate and helped to walk about. She didn't want to go, but had to. This was some years ago, but ask what can be put in place.

Fuddle, I know it's hard as I had a mum like yours, but try and let it be water off a duck's back. It sounds a bit like a control issue with her. Are you very independent and don't ask her for help? I know I am.

It's raining here again, so awful. DD is having a rough time of it and still recovering from the abscess.